I just told my boyfriend that I will not have sex with him because I'm not ready,but he told me that he loves me but he has hes needs and if I don't whant to have sex with him he will de ''forced to find another girl to have sex with''!I can't belive this! I told him that if his needs are more important than love this relaionship is over!He convinced me to mit him but at his home!I knuw that he will try to cange my opinion,and is it right to go at his place? I meen we always meet ther but this time I feel that is not right!
2007-02-13 07:37:21 · 24 answers · asked by madakill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he didn't "convince" you to do anything.
you make your own decisions.
if you are willing to go over his house KNOWING that he will try to have sex with you, and then after you tell him no, he goes and cheats on you with another girl, then go right ahead and do it.
he sounds very immature, and you deserve much better than that.
any guy who uses "no sex" as a reason to cheat on you is not worth being in a relationship with.
he should want to be with you regardless.
dump that sleazebag.
2007-02-13 07:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't go over there right now, and if sex is more important to him than you, you need to break up with him. Not only do you have the right to wait until you're ready, you also have the right to have your first time be with someone who really cares about you enough to wait until you're ready. Good sex is about more than the physical aspect, it's about the emotional aspect as well. It's a way to express your love for someone, and he's just shown you that he doesn't love you that much.
2007-02-13 07:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation for sure. If you are not ready then you should not meet him at his place because I guarantee he'll try to change your mind. The desire to have sex can be very overwhelming for men to the point that it works its way into their every thought. It may be the same for women but I can only speak for men as I am one and know the feeling. Seems like you two need to have a good discussion on this subject but you may want to wait until he is in a better frame of mind and not clouded up with sexual desire. Good Luck!
2007-02-13 07:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him. He said so himself, "I'll be forced to have sex with another girl". Is that love? Deep down, ask yourself, is that love? If he loved me, would he go have sex with another girl? Or would he wait until I'm ready? Your relationship should be over and forgotten. Do not go to his place. He probably try to convince you to do it with him in a forceful way. Find a guy who will love you. Truly.
2007-02-13 07:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by DragonLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 06:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S A SET UP!!!!
Any boy and I mean BOY who thinks that pressure is the way to go....lose him. You deserve more and you don't have to for love-love doesn't REQUIRE you or force or convince to go against what you are not ready for. Love is kind, patient and understanding not sneaky. You are that much stronger when you say no than you say yes and mean no.
2007-02-13 07:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by you know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there are better things in life besides having sex and if your not ready then he just has to respect that. Good Luck
2007-02-13 07:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by LaTricia J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to tell him that you can't be with him if he doesn't respect your decision. If you aren't ready that is fine!!! There are plenty of guys out there that will respect you as much as you respect yourself!!! Don't go to his house if you don't feel comfortable doing so, always trust your instincts.
2007-02-13 07:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to be made by him do not go there because this time is different . He may force you to have a sexual relationship maybe not physically but psychologically.
2007-02-13 07:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it you will be sorry later have him meet on your terms and a place that you want don't give in to him NO.I am a older guy and i would respect a girl that stands by her principals.
2007-02-13 07:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋