The pastor performing our wedding ceremony says that she feels no need to have a rehearsal for our wedding...it's a simple ceremony in our home. She wants the members of the wedding party to just come early so we can show everyone where to stand before taking pictures. Would it be acceptable to invite people to dinner (I'm thinking at Cracker Barrell) the night before our wedding so that we can give them their attendant's gifts? Would it be better to save the money and give them the gifts before (or after) the wedding?
2007-02-13 07:35:28 · 17 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you can afford it take everyone out to dinner. Wouldn't it be fun just to sit and relax over some dinner with your close family & friends, give them their gifts and see them enjoy them, not having a timeline. Or do you want to wait until the biggest day of your life when you are crazy hoping everything turns out just as you've planned, throw some gifts out to the attendents and keep on your timeline! Think you would enjoy it more for dinner. Looking for inexpensive way to do it. Throw together a couple lasagna's weeks before to put in the freezer then the night before invite everyone to your home for lasagna, salad and bread, Maybe a little wine would be a nice touch. Good luck, hope this helps.
2007-02-13 07:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun, there is no need to follow all of those traditions if you are having an rather simple ceremony at home.
Honestly, it would be in poor taste to held a rehearsal dinner (with no rehearsal) in the Cracker Barrel. There is no need and trust me, you don't want to do this in such an improper place. If you really want to do this, a simple home hors d'ouvres and drinks get together at home would me much more appropiate, intimate, meaningful and unexpensive choice.
My advice to you is to save the money and to distribute the bridal part gifts before the ceremony while you are getting ready for the wedding, Your bridal party should be with you and you can do this either then or during your reception.
Congratulations and good luck
2007-02-13 08:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A rehearsal dinner is a celebration of the couple. Kind-of like a combined bachelor party if you will. If money is a factor then invite the wedding party to meed you at the restaurant "dutch treat" if they are members of the wedding party they will understand the financial situation and be happy to comply. Good luck with your upcoming marriage. Remember once the wedding is over all you have left is love and that should be the main feature before, during and after the wedding ceremony.
2007-02-13 07:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you do just a get together for everyone like the night before? Just invite everone for cocktails, maybe buy the first for everyone. That way you can still do gifts and thank yous in a more personal manner.
IF the gifts are something that you don't have to give before ceremony then you can always present them at the reception before or after the toasts, like do a toast to your wedding party yourself. You could make it cute "here is to all these wonderful people up here for putting up with all of our chaos through out planning this wonderful day". Then give them their gifts and do a toast.
2007-02-13 10:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that rehearsal dinners can change depending on how long the rehearsal lasts and dates can change. The rehearsal dinner tends to be only close relatives and people involved in the wedding I think phone calls should be enough. If you have people coming in from out of town and they are staying close and you want to invite them, then I would send them and only them paper invites but nothing fancy
2016-03-29 05:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a rehearsal dinner without the rehearsal is still a good idea. It gives you an evening to be with your close friends and family. You can unwind a bit and hand out gifts, thanks everyone for being a part of your big day. On the big day it is hard to find the time to do these things.. Good Luck
2007-02-13 07:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by dekota1997 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save the $$$
If you are not having a rehearsal you should not require your attendants to go to dinner with you the night before.
The point of a rehearsal dinner is that you are "forcing" to give up their evening--at least you can provide them with a free meal.
2007-02-13 08:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother-in-law had a no-rehearsal rehearsal dinner.
It was lovely to have a chance to well-wish the bride and groom in a more intimate setting. Even a small wedding it is hard to really have that time.
I'd say do it!
2007-02-13 07:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could give them their attendant's gifts when you all gather for photos after the wedding, unless it's some jewelry item or trinket that you want them to wear at the actual ceremony.
You don't have to have a pre-wedding dinner just because... only if you want to.
2007-02-13 07:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
save the money gifts before wedding
2007-02-13 07:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋