I have been involved with this guy I grew up with for about 8 months and we have had some really good times. The sex is good most of the time.. But now he finds reason's to only want to come over when he wants it.. I have asked him to tell me twice if he was no longer interested or not attracted to me, but he will not give me a answer.. He has even tried to set me up with someone he is related too. But he is jealous over them. He is very jealous over any other man. I just don't understand what he wants.. He has told me from the start he loves me.. but he is also in a very unhappy marriage.. so please give me some advice I need it.. I am a very confused person..
2007-02-13 07:29:57 · 11 answers · asked by LadyBug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
........... He's using you. Dump him and start dating again. So to clubs and party. Mabey you can find someone there who is more "kind" towards you and doesn't use you as an item.
When he is setting you up with a relative, this way, he can keep control over you. This way, he would easily control you and yadayada have sex and whatnot.
By the way; go to your doctor and Get tested. He's been sleeping with more than one woman, you don't know what he could be carrying. I'm not kidding, you don't want a disease.
2007-02-13 07:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not think very much of yourself. First, you worry about what HE wants, but never say a word about what YOU want. Second, why would you shortchange yourself by getting involved with a married man? If he is that unhappy, he can leave his wife, and then you two can talk about being involved. Third, he is both trying to fix you up with relatives and getting sex from you whenever he can-cheating his wife, you and his other relative all at the same time. This guy sounds like a royal azzhole, I am sorry.
2007-02-13 07:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
............You want advise? Realization is you are a 'booty-call'. That's all the two of you have in common. He's having trouble with 'the wife' and you are the relief valve. Not to mention this guy has some serious issues of jealousy. If you are happy with spending time, stolen moments, then so be it. You need to build your self-esteem and bumping uglies with a childhood sweetheart isn't going to get it. You were something 'new' at the time and now he has grown tired of the game though he still want some type of control, or interaction in your life by evidents of trying to pass you around to family member; that's more then a little preverted. Their conversations would revolve around your performance, whether you liked it or not. If all you are searching for is a lay, then continue for the time it will last. But the moment you aren't getting yours is the time to pack it in and move on.
What he wants is to use you until there is nothing left, never giving anything of real value, just the phyiscal satisfaction you provide to him in the form of the sexual relationship. So take the sex and leave the 'understanding' out of the equation of you can.
2007-02-13 07:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm, he's married (thats a negative), he only comes around when he wants sex (another negative), he avoids telling you if he likes you, even though he's known you for years (yet another negative), he is jealous if you talk to another man, though he is not available himself (NEGATIVE...I hope you are beginning to see a pattern here). This question shouldn't even be here due to the simple fact that he is MARRIED. Nonetheless, I suppose you could call it a "friends with benefits" situation, though if you want my opinion (and you asked for it) you need to leave him alone. At the most be his friend and NOTHING more. Good luck.
2007-02-13 07:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your screwing a married man...no wonder your confused. He doesnt want anything but sex from you and the fact that he gets jealous regarding other guys means he only wishes he wanted or could have more with you than sex. STOP screwing married men and expecting them to be able to share or be completely honest with you. He is living a lie and you have hopped on for the ride. Grow up and move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 07:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would cut things off until (or unless) he gets a divorce. Admit it, you need more than you can get from a married man. Also, even if his marriage isn't going very well, he goes home to his wife. He can never fully love you or give you what you want and deserve.
2007-02-13 07:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find your own man and stop playing the dumb, blond, sex toy, with other women's men! if he wanted you he would leave the wife and certainly not be trying to pass you off to be used as a cute little sex toy to a friend!
2007-02-13 07:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. But honesly i think you should try your best to forget about him. i know you have really strog feeling towards him but it looks like he dosent even if he sayes he loves you. The same thing is happening to me but i told him that if he was just going to see me when you want it then forget about it and guess what i haven't heard from him since. What a jerk
2007-02-13 07:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by *BooTz* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl first u shud neva have been wit him if he is married becuz that is just wrong...and if he is onli using you to get sum then you need to move on to someone who appreciates you for who you rally are not just tha sex...i am sure u are a great woman who has jus made a few mistakes but now you have to learn to deal wit tha consequences then move on which i no you can...i say you tell him how you really feel and if you REALLY love him tell him and if he says he loves you to but doesnt show that he really loves you then you need to move on to someone else and break up wit him and b that powerful independent woman!!!!FWBs are not cool take it from someone wit experience you onli end up gettin hurt. i hope this helps :)
2007-02-13 07:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by NICOLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there isnt really such thingsas friends with benefits it is just that he has turned you into his sex slave that is all that he is looking for but be very careful dont keep doing that or you might just get pregnant then he will leave you high and dry gal
2007-02-13 07:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by harold g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋