My boyfriend and I got engaged last month, we are in a long-distance relationship. I really don't remember what I said but I alluded to not liking my ring (I know it was superficial and stupid) but everything was fine with us for 2 weeks until he started to not call me when he usually does and I started to get mad. I pressed the issue and he finally said that I really hurt his feelings about the ring. I know this I apologized over and over but than he told me he needed to rethink things and he needed a few days to think. Now its D-day and I'm waiting for him to call, and I'm certain that he's decided that he wants to break up. Just because in those few days we weren't talking....we weren't talking and when you're alone you can talk yourself into anything. He always says once his mind is made up there is no changing it so I'm scared as to what to do. I wrote him an e-mail to at least get something in from my end. We never fight like this. What's up?
2007-02-13 07:19:51 · 6 answers · asked by Smithy14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your answers. I don't think it should come to this. I know I hurt him and I feel worse about it than he does. We've been together for 15 months and never really had this kind of problem. I don't know why he's so sensitive to this. He kept saying that I hurt him and he asked me to never do that, which is impossible when you're married. I'm just afraid he's too far gone.
2007-02-13 07:30:44 · update #1
Well, look at it from his point of view... he took a huge step to ask you to marry him, it was a life-changing question and he probably assumed you would be more into spending your life with him than whether or not the ring is pretty... and then you said something about the ring.. yeah, it's gonna hurt and it's gonna hurt hard... maybe now since you commented on the ring he thinks you're more superficial than what he thought (which might not be true, but I'm putting myself in his shoes).. and if you're like that over a ring, then what is his life gonna be like with you? Lots to think about...
2007-02-13 07:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea he's hurt, but if you are the woman that he wanted to spend his life with, then he must know that this is just the beginning. Relationships have their ups and downs, you guys will probably fight about worse thing in the future, he needs to grow some thicker skin if he wants to make it in the dating world.
2007-02-13 15:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you cant change the past and what you said about your ring, if he truly loves you and wants to marry, you, he wont let this come between you two.
the next time you can, have a serious talk with him about how you didn't mean to hurt his feelings, and give him a chance to get everything off his chest.
i hope everything goes well for the two of you, and congratulations on your engagement!!
2007-02-13 15:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg long distance relationship is the worse to be in because yall wont see eachother that much and see how each of yall feel so yeah and if this ur first fight dont worry about it its natural ok because me n my gf will fight once in a while and we still together for 2 yrs n 6 months n we still happy about our relationship ...n just call him and tell him how u feel about ur relationship with him ok
2007-02-13 15:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by asian senorial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long are you dating. Long distance is difficult. Did you say you did not like the ring long distance or to his face? Dont rush your fences with this guy. If you cant communicate over this then what hope when big problems occur later
2007-02-13 15:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he wouldn't want to break up with you but try to work things out and make it work.
2007-02-13 15:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by lalaland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋