i have been seeing this guy for about a month. he is very nice and straightforward, he works and has his own place. but i am becoming bored with him, he works 2 jobs and his only free day is saturday and we usually hang out then, he considers himself a simple man, a homebody but it is making me restless as i like to get out and have fun. im used to more excitement in my life and i dont know how to approach him with that. maybe he's just not into me, i mean he is the one that approached me.
2007-02-13 07:15:28 · 16 answers · asked by MiaDiva28 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he has alot going for himself but the job and the home is not my reason for staying with him. ive liked him for a little while but he's so different from what i am used to. ive dated alot of the wrong people and now i want a change so i thought this would do me some good. he's not out there all wild like the other guys so thats a shock to me.
2007-02-13 08:02:44 · update #1
Maybe the two of you are just not suited for each other. One day you will crave that stability, but right now it seems like that's not what you're ready for. Find someone with more similar interests. Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn't excite you.
2007-02-13 07:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you've known this guy only a month and you are ALREADY bored, then you two are probably not very compatable and you should just break up. If your relationship survivial requires you to force and change yourself or to change him to work, its doomed anyway and you will just be miserable staying together for the next 10 years, not to mention 10 months.
Its pretty obviouse you're not very compatable from your description, and the only positive points listed is that he has a job and his own place. If thats the only reason you are staying with him, then your standards and priorities need to change or you are going to self sabatage your relationships until you do change them or die, miserable and worse than alone: living with an ******. I speak from experience here :).
2007-02-13 15:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ray of Freaking Sunshine! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is spending his only free day with you, then thats pretty good. If you guys are not serious, then still do your thing and save some time on Saturday for him. Maybe he will realize that you have a life, and he needs to make himself more involved in it or someone else will. But, he does sound like a mature, focused man, hard to find those.
2007-02-13 15:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this Saturday why not suggest getting out and doing something you like to do. Suggest to him that you are getting restless and wanted to get out and about and try something new. If he is interested in you he will want to go out and do other things. Suggest something for a couple of hours and see how that goes.
I'm more of a homebody than my boyfriend is but we compromise and have been together happily for 5 and a half years now.
2007-02-13 15:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is not to change your life just because he's a homebody. Invite him to go out with you. If he does, great. If not, then decide if it means that much to you. If it is a big deal, then he's not the one for you.
My relationship is the same way and he doesn't like to go out a lot. I still go out and have fun. Also, I enjoy having that space from him from time to time.
2007-02-13 15:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by jazzycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt like to go out and do the things that you like to do then you should dump him....ive had this problem iwht a bunch of my gfs casue im a very active guy and my couple last gfs have just wanted to sit around the house and watch movies and when i was like lets go skiing or go see a play they were like i just wanna stay around here.........i find that those relationships got alot more physical faster casue that is liek the only other thing that you can do around the house.
2007-02-13 15:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by hockey_starr_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You two are way to different he is satisfied living his life a certain way which bores you to tears. This will eventually lead to you cheating on him with a guy who shares the same interest as you. Just cut to the chase Let it go. I'm sure he is a nice guy that has it going on, but is that all that counts to you? Obvisously not Let It GO
2007-02-13 15:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by E. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it´s a new relationship, and youpre already bored? something´s wrong...
because the beginning of a relationship is always fun and full of excitement because there´s so much to find out about each other.
if you are bored now, what is it gonna be like in six months?
2007-02-13 15:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can give him a chance or let him go. if you give him a chance ask him, are you into me? if he says yes say, i enjoy your company etc. but id like to really go out more, we are both young and i think dating should be more than relaxing at home... if he is one of those guys you need to drag out the door for a night out dont bother with him, just leave his sorry ***
p.s i am a guy but im being honest, some of us are hopeless lazy unsocial bastards :) rofl
2007-02-13 15:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by cyclonisz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is, how into him are you? is it worth trying to keep the flame alive? if so, he will understand you're want to get out and he won't have a problem with you going out with friends provided that's what you want to do. you can make it work it's a matter of wanting to make it work. if you do, then you'll find ways to accomplish it and get past the differences
2007-02-13 15:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋