I dated a 30 year old guy for a year and a half. Loved him, was completely loyal to him and treated him very well and with repect. He said he wasn't a cheater, but I found out that he was and that he was stringing myself and another girl along both of us for over a year. I told her and then he popped the big question to her. I have a real problem. . . I work with him and he still picks at me a year after we have stopped seeing each other. He knows I'm intelligent and he asks me for help but I find it extremely irritating and have put up with it for so long that I really want to be immature and hateful to him - please advise!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 07:12:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't put any effort into hating anyone. Life is too short to be wasting it angry at a jerk who will never get it. If he really bothers you that much I would just stay away but it sounds like even though you hate what he did, you still have feelings for him. Not necessarily feelings that you would want to get with him again, but feelings of how you wish things could have been if he had not been so cruel. Remember this, for every 60 seconds you spend angry that is one minute of happiness you missed out on. Good luck and may God Bless you.
2007-02-13 07:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dah veed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably know as well as I that males, and so macho-men, are polygamous by instinct, by nature. So we may even say that that incorrigible guy's behavior is kind of healthy (!) for the holy purpose of nature. To this we may even add that a man may get the irresistible impulse of mating for real with a woman every every day (that repressed impulse made me nearly scream when I was a teen-ager), while a woman may be prepared for a new mating after a twelve-months time has elapsed (9 months pregnancy plus 3 months).
The practical well-ordered life of society, of our Western Society, cannot formally morally allow this polygamous behavior, and so cannot bless it, therefore a woman and a man may only be allowed to formally unite forming a couple "sequentially", that is, now you may be married to a man, and eventually, after a divorce, you may be married to another man - and that's beautiful, for so there will be no powerful man having five or more wives while another man has no wife at all, and no offspring, and may even be subjected to castration for then being used as a guardian to the "harem" belonging to the powerful man who possesses five wives.
So, when all this has been said, we may add that you might decide to be drastic, a ruthless fiercy feminine woman - if your own nature allows you to be so drastic, and so, calmly, say that "it doesn't go" for you guy to enjoy two girl-friends or wives "parallellely". If he doesn't understand, or if he is unable to dedicate his sexual life definitely exclusively to you, he must find another solution, where you are not in the picture - where he is neither in your pants nor in your picture. Good luck to you!
2007-02-13 08:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it may sound cliche but once a cheater, always a cheater. If a person has the ability to be so immature as to cheat on someone you claim to "love" without breaking it off, then they can't just magically be "reformed". PS for your own future reference, all guys say they are not cheaters, the ones who feel the need to even say they aren't emphatically are probably the ones most likely
2007-02-13 07:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by gunkinthedrain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he claimed that he was completely exclusive to you, he didn't cheat on you.
He was seeing the both of you at the same time and you didn't know it...so what? You're not married to him. It happens all of the time, so get over it, he's not worth it.
If you're so irritated, stay away from him. Find another job or something...just move on with your life because he's not waiting around for you. If he's getting married, respect that, and move on with your life...HE'S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU.
You'll find your special someone someday...It's just not him.
Sorry for the tough love approach, but that's the way you have to be sometimes. Good luck.
2007-02-13 07:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is sick!!!
The hard bit for you now is because you work with him,avoid him if you can,maybe talk to your boss and explain if there is anyway to keep you two doing seperate jobs so you dont see him as often maybe or tell him that he harasses you.If that girl accepts his proposal,she is gonna have a sad miserable life not knowing what her husbands upto everytime he's late,cause once a cheater always a cheater especially when they get away with it for a while.You go girl and move on!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 07:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's just asking you for help because he's trying to pick at you and he can deal with whatever it is himself, tell him so. There's no need to be rude about it, it's just the truth. If he really can't do whatever it is without your help, then you just have to help him anyway, as part of doing your job well. You've been a mature and good person for so long, don't mess it up now just because this muppet is frustrating you.
2007-02-13 07:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by derelicthypotheses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently you both are still liking each other or the things that he does would not bother you,if you are as mature as you say you are then it would be very easy to forget the relationship you two once shared and just focus on the job,besides didn't you say he played both of you young ladies,this will come back to bite him in the a--.Just relish the moment when it happens.
2007-02-13 07:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by SAM W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a guy I was seeing. Karma that is all I can say. What goes around comes back around. He will get his. Its a tough one but I am sure you are a smart woman and you know men like that aren't worth the time of day. One day you will get the satisfaction of seeing everything fall to sh** with him and he will have no one to blame but himself. Good luck to you hun. I am sure you have a lot to offer someone who deserves a strong person like yourself.
2007-02-13 07:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - with that pattern - he will not be faithful even in marriage. You are the lucky one - you aren't with him anymore. Let it go - you are better off and you will end up with someone that is better than he is. You don't want to be married to a cheat like him.
2007-02-13 07:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mr. Winslow... while your character may be interested in young girls, the actor who plays you is quite gay. I'm going to have to turn you down.
2016-03-29 05:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋