Well I use to love V~day, I mean I always went all out for my man, in every way!!!! Yet, I don't know if I should, I love him and do so much for him but if he doesn't do anything sweet for me I'm gonna be cruched!! After 3 years, I should get more than roses right?!!
Should I even waste my time anymore? I mean I went all out for him on X-mas and didn't get crap!!! So should I just let it go?
I love him, but should I give him anything ? I'm trying to be stronge here!!!! HELP!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 07:04:43 · 29 answers · asked by Sissy Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I do love him! And thanks for all your help!!!!
2007-02-13 07:16:16 · update #1
maybe you should talk to him after v-day if he doesn't get u anything. i know you don't believe material things is what makes an occassion special or show true feelings, but it is a way to remind the ones close to us that we appreciate them and we care about them and in your case you go all out for him so he could do the same for a change.
if you go all out for him and he never returns the sentiment it only leave one to wonder...........
plus giving someone something to show them that you appreciate them does not have to be expensive, especially when it comes to valentines day. there are so many way to be creative and express yourself without going broke (so thats not a good excuse).
i dont want to jump to conclusion that that your guy is either a cheap bastard or he just doesnt appreciate u enough, so do as i said before if he doesnt give u anything then talk to him about it and let him know how u feel.
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Give a Valentine's Day love kit
This is a great idea for those of you who want to be creative. Find a special container (a heart shaped box, a valentine's gift bag, etc...) and fill it with your choice of the following items. Attach a piece of paper to each item with the sayings below.
Jolly Ranchers - "For all the times you've made me laugh"
Hershey's Hugs & Kisses - "Because your's are simply the best"
100 Grand Bar - "You are worth even more to me"
Skittles - "For the rainbow of colors you've shown me throughout"
Peppermint Patty - "For the cool sensations you give me" or "You are worth a mint to me"
Popcorn - "Because you keep popping into my thoughts"
Balloon - "You encourage me to reach for the sky"
Matches - "We are a perfect match"
Silk Rose - "This will last forever, like our love"
Puzzle Piece - "You complete me" or "Without you I am not whole"
Almond Joy - "For all the joy you bring to my life"
Skor Bar - "Because I 'skored' big when I found you"
Confetti - "Because you add a sparkle to my life"
Marbles - "To replace the ones you've lost, because of me" =)
Candle - "Because you light up my life"
A Tissue - "For drying your tears"
Golden Thread - "Love is the golden thread that ties together our hearts"
Happy Faces - "Because your smile is contagious"
Deck of Cards (or any game) - "A reminder to always have fun in life"
Penny (or pen & journal) - "For your thoughts"
Jewel - "Because you are so valuable to me"
Clock - "Time passes by too quickly, let's enjoy every moment"
Nuts - "Because it's okay to get a little nutty at times"
Rough stone and smooth stone - "Because rough times make for a smoother tomorrow"
2007-02-13 07:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by JudiM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame not loving Valentine's Day on your current boyfriend. What's wrong with roses? Those are nice! What exactly do you want? Why is it so important for you to get stuff? Is that what a relationship is for? Maybe he doesn't think Xmas is about going all out. I think you have to look at your priorities here. What do you want out of a relationship? Is it just ego needs?
Why not just stop seeing him for awhile? Let yourselves be single for a few weeks? Give each other space?
Who knows? Maybe you can find someone else who likes to give you really big presents, but then again, maybe the new guy will cheat on you, or have no interest in you, or do something else that gets your goat.
Maybe your current bf just isn't into you that much. Why should he waste his money on someone who he's not going to be with anyway?
2007-02-13 07:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does it matter? His love should be enough, why does he have to spend a bunch of money? If you really want to be strong, stop whining about silly things like not getting a valentines day present. That's greedy. There's loads of women out there who have a reason to complain about their man... you really don't. You might think he doesn't do much, but I'm sure he could do way less. No, after 3 years you shouldn't get more than roses, because you're ungrateful. You should be happy he makes the effort of getting you roses. You don't deserve them, because you sound like the only reason you even get him so much for Xmas and Valentine's day is because you expect him to do even more for you. Grow up.
2007-02-13 07:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously have a talk with that guy! If you have been with him 3 years and he is this lazy in the relationship why are you still putting up with him? Do what you want because you want not because you feel you should or have to. It's should be out of love for each other and not a chore or obligation. Talk with him first then make a decision. He should know what he is doing to you. Good Luck:) Happy Valentinesday (if possible)
2007-02-13 07:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by stuffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard tis better to give than to receive? If you really love him, you should be happy that he loves you in return and anything else would just be a materialistic gift.
Maybe he's not much into you after 3 years. Could be time to move on for both of you.
2007-02-13 07:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?? So let me get this your only interested in what your boyfriend gets for you??? And you love him?? You are pissed because your going all out spending all kinds of money on him and all he buys you are roses? Are you retarded?? Its a gift you get what you get thats the idea. Maybe he doesnt have a lot of money?? Dont give and expect give to enjoy and love. Give to see your boyfriends face smile. Doesnt that make you happy? Isnt that a gift?? People like you bug the piss out of me chicks always wanting something. Enjoy the roses!!!!
2007-02-13 07:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give out of love and because you want to not because you want or expect something in return. He may feel like he is going out of his way giving you roses. Maybe he doesn't believe in exchanging gifts for Christmas. Maybe he a butt hole and only wants to take advantage of you and do as little as possible for you. If you are not being fulfilled in this relationship, end it. But talk to him about how you feel first.
2007-02-13 07:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by BigDaddyRayinLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel..my bf use to be the same damn way. I was always the one doing nice thoughtful things for him....and I'd get nothing. I even once made him a scrapbook...about us...with old pics and ticket stubs, and he was so non-excited like I thought he'd be...I guess only girls appreciate things like that. But I'd even get him movies and video games and for his b-day I got him a gaming chair. And you know what I got...a used game boy advance and it was like 2 months before my b-day. You really should stop wasting your time and money on him...he's never really gonna see how much you put into him...and he'll never do the same for you....it's like they can't even see it. It took almost losing me for my bf to finally see his errors...I hope it doesn't get to that point for you two...but at least I know I'm getting something for v-day this year.
2007-02-13 07:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, giving stuff isn't about getting stuff. If you want to go all out and show your man how you feel about him, that's great. Maybe he doesn't show his love the same way you do. Not everybody understands gifts as an expression of love. Instead of trying to make him do what you want, find out what he wants!
2007-02-13 07:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend your money on yourself - but yourself some flowers/roses from a mysterious guy and see what response you get...you may give him a good kick up the backside - a bit of competition didn't hurt anyone. See what goes - good luck!
2007-02-13 07:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋