1. I will not open the car doors for you unless you have no arms. Especially now that we have remote control for doors why should guys still do that?
2. No I will not buy you flowers or gifts unless it's absolutely special occasion
3. I want you to treat you equal and I shouldn't have to treat you like I'm worshiping you or something, like opening car doors (it's so retarded)
4. I don't mind paying when we go out but I expect her to pitch in now and then unless she doesn't have a job or really poor.
5 I expect her to cook for me sometimes and give me massage.
6 I only want to see her when I want to.
7. I will go out with my buddies whenever I want to unless she and I made plans already.
8. I will always come first and then my jobs, then the girl or my friends.
So do girls like a guy like that? I'm just being honest!
2007-02-13 06:43:58 · 38 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't mind 1-7, but I expect to come before a guys job. I agree with you on a lot of your points, I wouldn't want a guy worshiping me, I am self reliant and I don't need a guy to live my life for me and be my life. I'm with ya!
(Maybe you could open the door on your first few dates, this way a bond will develop, and 6, maybe she wants to see you!)
2007-02-13 06:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls don't care if a guy opens the car door for them, and a few girls I know think it is quite silly. I'd say a lot of women appreciate it, because it is a nice gesture.
Being treated as an equal is great. Nobody should be put on a pedestal.
As for the cooking and massages, that'll only work if you cook and give her massages, too.
Regarding #6, 7, & 8 - Good luck. Not many women like to be treated like they don't matter to you. You'll have to find someone who wants to put herself first, her job second, and her friends all before YOU. Then maybe you'll have a shot.
What do you even want a girlfriend for? You certainly sound like you'd be better off as a bachelor--at this stage, you are too selfish for a healthy relationship.
I'm just being honest.
2007-02-13 06:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get your priorities straight. Don't expect some girl to do what you want unless you're going to do what she wants, which may include caring gestures like opening a door (you freaking lazy idiot).
Modern women can chip in on a bill and open their own doors. They also have lives and may turn you down when "you want to see them."
In a loving relationship, both partners equally put the other person's needs first. If that isn't important to you, then you might as well buy a blow-up doll and date that.
A lot of what you say is acceptable, but the fact that you are calling attention to it like you are laying down ground rules, seems like you want a puppy more than a woman.
Relationships are give and take man. If you don't get that, you're not ready for a real woman. Date strippers and hos, that way, when they don't follow your rules, you can just dispose of them...
2007-02-13 06:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only problems I would have with is #2,6,8. With #2 I agree with you that you don't have to buy her a gift or whatever, but sometimes it's just nice to do it and it makes the other person feel good. With #6, what happens if she only wants to see you when se wants too? With #8, it really depends on the relationship you have, what if it's your wife and your job you have to choose. I guess with the gf thing it may be easier to choose your job over her. With the other numbers as long as you don't have a problem with her thinking the same way you do then I think it's cool. I'm very independent myself but I also believe that it takes some sacrifice to make a relationship work and if your not willing to sacrifice anything then to be honest I wouldn't date you.
2007-02-13 06:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nido 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No self-respecting woman would. Let's see, you EXPECT her to cook & give you a massage, what is she to expect from you? You only want to see her pretty much for sex, is what you're saying, then why don't you get a prostitute and stop wasting her time? You obviously only care about yourself. You must have never been in love and your father must've not set a very good example to you with your mother. Is that how you would want your mother treated? Women are not dogs and they're not your doormats to be used for your selfish purposes and then tossed to the side. Good luck finding someone who will put up with you, let alone love you. I pity her, she deserves better, not trash. If you're lonely get a puppy.
2007-02-13 07:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, It is nice to no you are honest about all this..But lets face it relationships are a give and take matter. Yes we can handle somethings on your list but just remember I'm sure you would like to be treated with respect and TLC so that can go both ways. When we meet someone who we really care about that can change the way we normally feel, so just keep all this in mind.
2007-02-13 06:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by LadyBug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a girlfriend.. you need a mother to teach you how to be a Man! When you grow up.. you will learn how to have a real relationship. A good relationship means compromise, and doing things that you don't always feel like doing for the other person, but you do it, because you know it makes them happy.. If you find a woman who will tolerate your lack of consideration.. you better keep her. No flowers.. No doors opening, No respect.. get's you NO date. Some women are desperate...better look for her. She is a complete dummy, with no self respect or love for herself. Good luck.. with finding those stupid women who will never completely satisfy you. From a grown up lady.
2007-02-13 07:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by junebug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not terribly appealing overall, but at least you are honest. It's nice to have a guy who will treat a woman in a ladylike manner at least sometimes and put her higher on his list than always last...but then I tend to prefer to be treated as I treat others and I let my significant other know I care and not that they are there just because I tolerate them or keep them around for occasional sex.
As long as you are kewl with the chicks you date taking the same attitude toward you as you do toward them, it's all good. Good luck to ya.
2007-02-13 06:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessin ur single, with that kind of attitude you deserve to be on ur own an grow very old an lonely!
woman deserve to be treated like a lady and with respect but that does not mean in the sense of being bought things or takin out all the time there are more important things than that, but with an ego like urs im sure none of ur lovers last longer than the first date! i would see right through you!
2007-02-13 06:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by baby_pink_tortoise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will ever find a girl that would put up with those 8 things from you unless you were willing to put up with the same 8 things from the girl as well. I am just being honest!
2007-02-13 06:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy H 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋