When our daughter was born, my wife slept with her in a twin bed in a room I had decorated for the baby. My wife said, "This is the Filipino way" (I am not Filipino; she is.) I asked her how long this would go on. She said, "Until she is 5 or 5-1/2." When she became 5-1/2 the same practice continued. So in anger I moved out of the master bedroom into my daughter's room and took down the decorations, and put the decorations in the master bedroom. So I slept in a twin bed in my daughter's room, and our daughter got to sleep on our queen size with my wife in a twin bed pushed next to the queen. This lasted for 3 to 3-1/2 years. In January 2005 my wife moved our queen size into our daughter's room . I thought she had a change of heart, but it only lasted six months. Since then she spends a couple of months with me and then always has some reason to go back and spend a couple of months with our daughter. I'm angry with this and now don't want her back in the room. What is going on here?
2007-02-13 06:42:00 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am Filipino and I have never heard of that. Maybe ya'll should go and speak with someone. She maybe going through some mid-life crisis issue in her life. I hope that everything works out.
2007-02-13 08:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.new_major_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're feeling resentful and "want to teach her a lesson" so to speak.
Just based on what you say... (and this is just my personal opinion)... I'm guessing there isn't much communication going on between the two of you. You need to find out 1) Why she likes to sleep with your daughter and 2) Why she doesn't like to sleep with you. -- Two seperate questions.
Maybe when you find out the reasons ... you can start to work on coming up with a solution or compromise that would work for both of you.
I'm thinking maybe your wife feels "safer" with your daughter emotionally.
Or maybe she doesn't feel like she has any power in the family... and sleeping with your daughter is a way she can get some of those feelings back. When she can have complete control of watching over and protecting her child.
A FAMILY or COUPLES counselor could be a good starting point. Don't try to put it all on her.
Good luck
2007-02-13 16:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Yur Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋