Who is at fault?

Question

OK, my friend was working at a restaurant last summer and he got himself a girlfriend. He had graduated that year, but she was in HS.

Now, he had applied to a state university already and he was accepted. He knew that, so he wanted to cram as much time being with her into about 2 months. Now, during that time, whatever they did, he paid for EVERYTHING. He even bought her an iPod, a digital camera, and some other stuff. We went to Six Flags and he paid for all of it, food, admission, etc. So pretty much, he blew a lot of his money on her.

Then about 3 weeks ago, we find out that whenever he called her, she never picked up. Ever. We all knew something was wrong, so we all called her. She didn't pick up. Then we found out that she cheated on him with another guy that was working at the restaurant.

You know what her reason was for leaving? He was mean. What the heck? You know who was really mean? HER. She slapped him whenever he tried to kiss her, as she was against public displays of affection. She blamed him for being mean because one time, he hit her with a pillow jokingly. That ONE time. That was it. She SLAPPED him. Now, who do you think is at fault?

Oh, by the way, that one time we called her to ask her what was up, when she didn't pick up, we like kept asking her what was wrong on the messages. Then after that, her friend calls back and goes, "You need to stop calling us and let him fight his own battles." Hypocrite, anyone? She's telling our friend to fight his own battles when clearly, she was fighting the battle for his ex-girlfriend.

He's learned his lesson. But I'm just saying, who is at fault?

And I do this because I have nothing better to do, so I waste points asking useless questions.

ARGH, no one's listening or something. He spent the money because he thought she liked him. Not to buy his way to her heart, but to show how much he loved and cared for her. >.> Gah!

Answer 1

Is does sound as though she took advantage of your friend. However if he’s not concerned about it then leave it alone and let it just die. Your friend should look at it as a lesson learned. He should feel blessed that he’s rid of her. Unfortunately your friend was too busy trying to impress this girl by buying her and everything he bought she took. He didn’t read between the lines or ask around about her. He let his wallet speak for him and her being the typical high school girl was impressed by his wallet and not by him. She more than likely laughed it up with her boyfriend and friends about how stupid your friend is because she doesn’t like him but he’s buying her whatever she wants. Don’t bring yourself to her level to deal with this, she’ll be expecting it. Teach her a greater lesson by letting it go.

Answer 2

I think she was at fault as she should have not slapped him for any reason. Although of course you are hearing it from his side of the story only. Sad to hear that your friend had took it upon himself to spend all that time and money on her after just knowing her for such a short time. I feel having to cram time with someone was maybe smothering the flame that hardly ever started. This is a case of too much, too soon, too many. Hope your friend from here on slows down a bit and is more selective in the women he dates.

Answer 3

In essence, he's precise. How else would you clarify it? Bush's approval score has been soaring round historic lows (resembling Nixon's Watergate numbers). different presidents, which incorporates Carter and Bush 40-one, in all likelihood had more beneficial efficient approval rankings, yet were one termers. Bush has a mess in Iraq, became surpluses into deficits, etc.. Carter lost to Reagan, who provided a a lot diverse route and private air of secrecy than Carter. Clinton did a similar element to Bush 40-one. If Bush gained, then common sense dictates one among 2 issues: (a) human beings wanted to vote for Bush, or (b) human beings did not opt for to vote for Gore/Kerry. In Gore's case, i don't think of it become all of his fault. i imagine human beings were "Clintoned" out through then, and he become purely regarded upon as more beneficial of a similar. In Kerry's case, i'm no longer efficient how he couldn't win an election, yet he for sure couldn't convince sufficient those that he become the more beneficial efficient decision. i imagine the in trouble-free words element you could say for your neighbor is, "wish you purely like the conflict and those record deficits, because you may have 'em for 2 more beneficial years. If this retains up, i'd hate to be a Republican in 2008."

Answer 4

that's a tough one. no one is really "at fault" - he cared for someone who wasn't emotionally mature enough to treat him with respect, and he let himself be taken advantage of. it's unfortunate that people treat each other this way, but hopefully he will use this as a learning experience and be able to grow from it. i hope your friend finds a nice girl at college who will treat him with kindness. relationships are best when they are equal, so i would advise him to not be so ready to give everything (but still be a gentleman) and see how things progress. it's sad that so many girls today seem more interested in what they can get from someone...because having a good, kind, respectful partner is the best thing in the world.

Answer 5

it sounds as though your friend has been played. She was getting everything she wanted. Please take a hint and open your eyes : if the person that you are dating (u'r friend is dating) doesn't want to kiss you or show any contact in public then that person doesn't want to be with you!! Lot's of people get used by men & by women... it sounds as though your friend has a good heart but he might want to raise it up his sleeve a little. He's getting ready to change his entire life by going to college - take this as a learning experience and move on.

Answer 6

No one is at fault. Your friend took a chance and it didn`t work out. Next time you take a chance dont show your cards so quick. Dont let on that you like her too soon. Good Luck..

Answer 7

Your friends sounds pretty foolish if he was willing to try to "buy" this teenage high school girl's affection after seeing her for only a couple of months. He's at fault for being dumb.

Answer 8

He is. For being such a dumba 5 5. Get over it, and tell him he needs to learn from this.

Answer 9

Clearly she needs to grow up. He needs to forget about it and learn how to keep his money in the bank for his education.

My answer is her

Answer 10

your 'friend' screwed himself over. there are always signs that someone is cheating, he just missed them. and so he wasted a lot of money on someone who wasn't worth it all. i fault him, for trying so hard, but her for being a *****.