I have a boyfriend whom I love with all my heart. He takes such good care of my daughter and me. He takes us places, helps me clean my house, helps me with my daughter, and is just the sweetest man alive. I have a disability, so sometimes, I do need extra assistance, and he has been there through thick and thin. He is very shy and reserved, however. He doesn't have too many friends, and he is not proud of his past (he was an alcoholic for 6 years, and he says he wasted part of his life). He feels guilty about what he did in the past. We spend a lot of time together, and sometimes we just sit in silence. I must admit, I initiate most of our conversations. We really love one another, but I'm afraid of our silences. We do laugh, but not too many laughs. We are content just watching movies much of the time. Am I being paranoid? I'm insecure and fear that our relationship might not work out, but I told him that his quiet nature is okay. He thinks I'll get bored of him. Advice
2007-02-13 06:35:31 · 6 answers · asked by chickenbeansoup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I need to add that he is very normal. He interacts well with my family, and he is very loving toward his own family. He is just VERY INSECURE. He let's it get the best of him sometimes, but he is definitely a good man. He is so good to his nephews and nieces. Also, he does have his moments where he is completely uninhibited and jovial. I love it when he comes out of his shell even though it's rare. I keep thinking that he'll come out of his shell more and more as our relationship progresses.
2007-02-13 07:00:55 · update #1
Take a deep breathe! Hold it! Exhale! Repeat 5 times. Relax!
You are worrying about what if. So? What if it NEVER does happen?
You can't control the future, especially not knowing it. If you stop worrying now, there are great benefits. You might not even have a heart attack by the time your 49 if you stop now.
If this does happen, what could you do? Just live life, enjoy it, and be thankful you have someone so considerate. Many others don't have it as good as you.
Hoping you a long and healthy life!
2007-02-13 06:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he's not going anywhere. Not too many guys would go through all the things you say he does for someone that they plan on leaving. I wouldn't worry, about the silence. But it sounds like it does bother you even if you told him it doesn't.
2007-02-13 14:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quiet nature is normal. Boredom in relationships is also normal. Encourage him to take up a hobby, or try something new together. It takes work to keep a relationship interesting, but it's worth it.
2007-02-13 14:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by djt0704 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should initiate to do other things so he could be more open. Like play board games, give massages be creative. He'll come out of his shell.
2007-02-13 14:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you will not get bored of him opposites attract.
he needs to LET GO of his past & focus on the NOW & how much better he is now. Help him to build up his confidence & self asteem , tell him how much you love him & everything he does fore you & your daughter.
My hubby was the same way, but he's better now , just
let him know how special he is .
2007-02-13 14:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you watch the news???
It is the reserved quiet type that are serial killers and petiphiles!!!
2007-02-13 14:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋