We've tried rewards, and punishments, but she just does the bare minimum and nothing else.
2007-02-13 06:23:56 · 13 answers · asked by thirtyonesunflowers 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Are you sure she's doing the bare minimum?
I was a straight A+ student until I hit high school and had to deal with math. I couldn't get it.... slope cosine tangents... I still have nightmares. My parents got tutors and rewards and punishments but math just wasn't my thing. I have no mind for math past a certain level. I've worked as an accounts receivable clerk and in purchasing and I'm a wiz when it comes to simple math but the second it has a letter instead of a number, I just can't go there.
13 year olds are going through more turmoil than the average 50 yr. old has seen in 20 years. Their bodies are growing, changing, draining energy from them. Their minds are all over the place and at this age, friendships and relationships start to be complicated. Your 13 year old can only excel in so many areas right now. Perhaps math just isn't one of the areas.
No one will ask what mark your child got on math when they were 13 when they look for a job. Unless your child plans to become something where math is pivotal, passing math really is enough even though we don't want our kids to know that.
I was thrilled when I no longer HAD to take math. When I could add 3 more english courses, it was the happiest time of my life.
As an adult, no one has ever asked me to break out a slide rule or calculate the slope of a hill but I'm as proficient in business math as anyone I know and I run my own business with no problem. The only thing I can't do is help my 14 yr. old with his math homework.... but my husband isn't much good at helping him with his english homework so it all works out.
2007-02-13 07:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears like her math instructor needs to purpose out a sparkling line of paintings - punish your daughter for being depressed? What nonsense. 13 is an extremely perplexing age. you are able to attempt counselors and antidepressants, yet frequently she is going to be depressing whatever you do (sorry!). confirm she is conscious you're there for right here whilst she desires you, and do each thing on your skill to hearken to her without judging her. And, I hate to deliver this up, yet now and back depressed young little ones attempt to take their very own lives, so beware for her, too. that's beneficial to get some counseling your self - raising little ones is perplexing adequate, without upload and melancholy thrown into the mixture.
2016-10-02 02:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she understand the material? Maybe she is struggling with the course material, but she's afraid to tell you. If she is, schools usually offer peer tutoring.
Have a heart to heart talk with her. If she is having trouble with the subject, get her some help. If not, as long as she is passing with a C or better, let it go. Math might not be her favorite subject.
2007-02-13 06:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by ne11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be scared of math, when i was in high school i hated math and never did it, nor did i ask for help, i felt stupid if i did. tutoring might work but she may not want to be tutor or taught. she's gonna have to way it out, she needs to learn it on her own or you can always try books at the bookstore, they explain a lot. or no where where u are or what your doing, /at the store, bring up math, make it more fun.
2007-02-13 07:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mommatopjml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously isn't as good at math as you would like,and you pushing her will only make things worse.Most kids that are'nt that brilliant at math thrive at something else,have a talk to her and ask her how she feels about the subject,you may come up with something more realistic.
2007-02-13 07:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes money and buying things then pay her for her grades . We did this for our son because nothing else worked and after awhile he liked getting more and more money to buy the things he liked. It worked out great .He hated math and now he is getting B 's in math . We payed money for each grade the higher the grade the more money he got .He is now getting all A's and B's.
2007-02-13 08:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by sis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could:
>get her a math tutor
>say that maths is an important life skill
>don't seem angry, but just let her know you would be happier if she tried harder and it would be lovely if she could put in that little bit extra.
>if she likes reading, or video games, then get her a mathmatical book or game etc...
>tell her she isn't allowed out untill shes done an hour extra maths one day a week.
2007-02-13 06:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her for a drive to the ghetto in your city. Tell her if she doesnt get good grades in math she will end up there and not be a success...then take her to see some show homes and tell her this is only achievable if you have good grades, graduate and become someone successful..not by doing the the bare minimum in math.
Seriously.
2007-02-13 07:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
YOU can't. Her school work is HER responsiblity. If all she wants to do is the bare minimum then that's it. The only ones getting frustrated with it are YOU and it has nothing to do with YOU.
2007-02-13 06:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know its kinda top for parent to be expriencing this...to be honest when i was younger(school grade/highschool) i hate math!!!
anyways when i start going to college which we all know "much harder math" right??
my teacher his really good and inspired me to like/love math.....believed or not math is my poor subject...but when i graduated from college thats my top grade and also i'm the number one in our math class...
2007-02-13 07:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋