Is it appropriate to say anything when they ask at a wedding...?

Question

"Is there anyone who thinks these two should not be married?"

I think I might do it. My friend has been cheating her fiance for months.

You guys are funny.

Answer 1

Do it.

The fiance deserves better than to be cheated on.

Don't worry if it is right or wrong, just be like Nike... Just Do IT!

Answer 2

You need to talk to the fiance before the wedding and as soon as possible so that he may be able to get back costs incurred. The cheating isnt going to change. The wording you spoke of is just part of the tradional wedding ceremony. And while you may lose a friend, think of how many people will be angry at you for doing it there. Plus, how embarassed will he be in front of his family and friends.

Answer 3

Tell the groom right now, dont waste another day. The sooner he knows the better for everyone. Have both the bride and groom together when you are telling him, you should have proof of some sort so he wont think your lying that way she cant get out of it. Have the person she has been cheating with there too if you could so that way they can say somthing.
You also could try telling your friend that she needs to tell the groom right now what has been going on tell her that you are going to give her the chance to tell him the truth or you will. She shouldnt be doing this to him. And needs to stop, dont do it at the wedding it will only hurt him if you do. He's already suffering so its best to do it with the least amount of people than the whole church full. Its the right thing to do!

Answer 4

No, talk to your friend first and explain to her how you feel about what she's doing and give her the chance to talk to her fiance first. If she refuses, then you could talk to her fiance, but make sure you have your facts right. If they both decide to get married anyway, don't say anything at the wedding.

Answer 5

you need to pull the friend aside and tell them personally, not disrupt their wedding day. Anyhow if you did say you objected, its not legally binding, the couple could still be married that day. That phrase' does anyone object' is mainly for show and is very 'old school.' pray you have proof before you ruins someones wedding day. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would say something before the wedding. I don't think it's fair to hurt an innocent person (fiance) in front of his family. I think that's cruel. I wouldn't care about the girls feelings, but I would save him the heartache and if he decided to marry her anyway then he deserves what he gets.

Answer 7

Why can't you address this issue prior to the ceremony? What kind of friend would you be if you did this during their ceremony. Not only would you embarrass the bride and her family, but think about the groom. He may not know. This would be devastating to his family as well. Use some tact and do it before the wedding.

Answer 8

What is your motive? If you want the attention then do it at the wedding day. If you are really concerned for the marriage spill your guts before. It all hinges on your motive and character as a friend.

Answer 9

If you say something like that to your friend, you better have undeniable proof (I'm thinking photographs). And I'd also think twice before doing it. Try talking to her, and asking her why she's even marrying this guy. I'd probably keep quiet though, if it were me. You're dealing with 2 adults, and I generally make it a policy that unless there's abuse going on, to keep out of others relationships. It never works out for you.

Answer 10

well one way is a letter typed out on your computer mailed anonymously to her man before the wedding letting him know when and where and who this is happening with that way your in the clear but not at the wedding the poor guy is all ready going to be crushed so help him out and not do it in front of all his friends and family! good luck!