why are kids soooo bad?

Question

everyone i know is having problems with their kids, weather it is pregnancy at 15, drugs, dropping out of school, violence, and bad behavior, they refuse to help clean. its ridiculous! and yes i have a 12 year old soon to be 13 that has behavioral problems too. and of course its always the mothers fault. being a parent is a joke. if people were smart they wouldnt have kids.

Answer 1

Kids are usually bad because their parents are worst. My children are normal and are well kids. They are well behaved mainly because I spend a lot of time letting them see what effects their actions have on me as well as others. No ones kids are perfect and for the most part parenting is trial and error I can only do my best and hope that in the end they grow up decent. Just make sure you stay involved with your child's life all the time while giving them the space they need. Oh yeah like I'm some kind of expert, who knows what devious plan my children are hatching while I am writing this collective pipe dream.

Answer 2

I have 3 boys and they are fine. I dont think being a parent is a joke. I love it. My kids are brought up to have morals, be kind and respectful to others, and I always get compliments on how polite they are, etc... To tell you the truth everyone of my friends and family have children , and only a handful of them have a few problems and they are not serious problems. When I see the ones that have problems, and I look at the parents, yeah, some of the parents are usually the ones trying to be friends with their kids instead of parents and that is when their kids get out of control. I dont always think its the mothers or fathers fault. I dont think that way of anyone unless I know the situation and can see what is going on. I know if my kids did end up doing something bad, then Its not my fault because I tried to teach them right.. Sometimes its the bad judgement of the child and they are their own person and no matter what you teach them , they will do what they think they want to do whether you know abuot it or not.

Answer 3

I cannot imagine my life void of children! I owned and taught at my Montessori Licensed school. Our town has a behavioral center for children with 'issues'. I took all the children who did not 'get better', plus all the regular students in my school. I found that personal attention, teacher, parent, grandma.......(somebody) had to be a real listener to each child. If a child was into 'lying'................I made sure to explain to the child that if a person writes down a good story, everyone is proud of the child. If a child just SAYS it as if were TRUE, everyone is mad at the child. So, I always made time, to sit down, print out the story, the tale, and had the child sign his/her name. Soon, the lies stopped, and budding authors took that space! Rules should be few as possible, giving the child a map of what is o.k. in HIS/HER world. This feels safe to the child, and the child learns to understand rules and not allowed to do things. I have never hit a child, and rarely scolded one. I HAVE told a child I am disappointed. That seems to hurt the child BUT teach the child how to keep people happier with the child. Love isn't just a given. It is something that needs tending to every day, every evening. Yes, I still hug and give a little smack kiss to each of my birth sons.........ages 37 and 39. A child who has learned how to SHOW real affection, just doesn't get into the same problems you are talking about. Why do teenage girls get pregnant? Because they are searching to FEEL loved, and THAT's what they have to give. I would never say the well reared children who are shown love and affection all their lives will never get into drugs. They might. Even the Bible backs me up, the way I interpret it: Raise up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Now, did you notice, even the Bible doesn't mention the years between the young and the old child!!!!! If the roots are grown with love, the tree will, eventually flourish. Trust this, as a mother, foster mother, social worker, school owner.................and one who has children/babies actually left on my doorstep................I have reared those whom no one else wanted around. They came out just fine. I listen and talk to children. I respect them. I love children. I never met a bad child.............I have met parents who didn't have the time or knowledge of how to rear them.

Answer 4

The reason kids are so bad is because the parents are not consistant with them. They have no structure in their lives, no rules, no discipline, and no consequences. They are allowed to run wild and do whatever they want because parents are too lazy to make them listen. It is easier to just let them do whatever they want to get them out of their hair. The parents care more about what they are doing and about having fun themselves than to take care of their own responsibilities and that is the children they brought into the world, while they were out there having a good time one night partying and having a good time. They weren't thinking what the end result was going to be 18 + yrs of another human being to look after until it was too late. Then they pawn these sweet innocent babies off onto grandma and friends and anyone else who is willing to take them so they can keep on going to parties. The children have so many baby sitters they don't know who to listen to so they listen to no one, not even their mom.
This is the problem with children today. No parent wants to take responsibility for the children they bring into the world, so we have a bunch of hooligans running around out of control. If we can't blame the parents. . .Who should we blame????

Answer 5

Okay? So every bit of trouble your son gets in will be your fault. If he chooses to go get drunk with friends [bad judgment--most teens have it] it's your fault. You've told him time and time again not to drink but he still does it. It's your fault. Well I hope you remember that when your preteen develops the typical mentality that mom doesn't know best and makes a bad judgment call. Perhaps he's already doing it--you may not know yet.

Stop being critical of other parents. Kids reach an age when they do know right from wrong BUT still choose to do wrong. I just hope you realize if your son gets in trouble no matter what you've done to prevent that from happening--it's YOUR fault. What a joke!

I think most parents DO take the blame for things I don't even think they can control let alone someone shoving it down their throats that it's THEIR fault. Parenting doesn't come with a manual. You don't get told what to do. It's something that's different for every child and every parent. You need to get off your high horse now...

Answer 6

I know a lot of people who dont have problems like that with their kids. It is these people who dont take the time to invest in their childs emotional development who should not have kids.I know a lot of people whos children do very well and are smart and well adjusted because they dont just let their children run wild. My daughter will be one of those children because I love her so much and will always be very interested in her life and her choices in life and making sure that as long as she is under my roof she will take very good care of herself. I think its these parents who just ignore the problems provide bad environments for their children to grow up in and condone the bad behavior by lack of dicipline end up having rotten kids. And as they say the apple doesnt fall far from the tree and its true.

Answer 7

I blame it on parents who are permissive and give in to their children, have no structure, routine or rules in their home, neglect them, abuse them, have poor marriages, are workaholics etc and the list goes on. The problem is that anyone can become a parent and that is what is sad these days. We as parents have only one chance at making our children sucessful and happy so that they can cope in this world. It is very hard work and we are all not perfect. I get so annoyed when people on here put down eachother for their parenting questions and concerns. When it comes down to it, we all want what is best for our kids right?

Answer 8

Wow! I have many friends with teens and they haven't had any of the problems that seem to be in your area.

My own children are great for helping out with chores and their siblings and we don't give allowance or anything so I don't really have any good advice for you.

Keep working at making a difference and trying to find out what is going to work to keep the kids from making bad choices.

Answer 9

Children are always good, they just behave badly when they do. I just received a call from my sons kindergarten teacher wanting to meet with me over his behavior. I have a daughter one year older who just received a golden award for her excellent attitude torwards her fellow classmates and school. So is it my fault that my son acts out? They are treated the same. So what's up? Children behave the way they do out of design. I try to look back to how I behaved and saw the world and I get a more realistic perspective on what I should expect from a developing child.

Answer 10

It is the parents' responsibility to raise kids correctly. But, too often, parents take out the frustrations on the kids when they did something wrong ignorantly. Best advice is to teach from the good book called the BIBLE. God speed