I am 20 weeks pregnant, and my 5yr old and 4 yr old have just started asking me the dreaded question, how did the baby get in your belly mummy?? Can anyone advise me on what i can say to them please? My 5 year old asks me question after question and im really stuck on what to tell him!!
2007-02-13 05:54:04 · 27 answers · asked by laura2804uk 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What does it mean what to tell them?Don't you know how did your baby get in your belly?If you think they won't understand the explanation about the sperm and the ovum,tell them that mommy and daddy made the baby and put it in the belly but don't trust that explanation too long.Anyway I think a 5-year-old is able to understand that a sperm from the men and a ovum from the woman unite and become a baby.
2007-02-13 07:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my 7 year old when i was pregnant,he was 4 then,so i just tried to be as honest as i could wothout being too graphic.
I said that the daddy has a special seed that he puts into the mummys tummy, and it gets in there thriugh a hole which is in between my legs....
He seemed happy with that answer and hasn't asked anymore questions...yet!!
I dreaded this sort of conversation with my kids...but i think that it is better to tell the truth(ish) because what they imagine, or hear from the playground, can be alot worse AND graphic!!
Good luck!!
2007-02-13 07:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi just tell them that mummy and daddy wanted a baby and because you love each other so much daddy gave you a seed to make a baby just like planting a seed for a flower now it is growing into a baby in your tummy this is what i told my kids just make it so it is understandable for there age and don't worry.
2007-02-15 07:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm about to give birth (not literally, in a few days!!) and my 7 year old asked the same question...so i told her the truth with a twist! Told her that a little seed had been planted by my partner and when it had grown enough then it would be born and she would have a baby brother or sister! She seems to have accepted this answer...for now
2007-02-14 23:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by lisa4rugby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children, even though they are still small are picking up on the fact that you don't want to talk about it and are therefore asking you more and more questions. Try taking the relaxed approach and telling them as much as they want to know. When they realise that it is something perfectly natural and happens to loads of people they will probably stop asking before you have to explain all the nitty gritty. Start with babies are born to people who really love each other. Point out someone else they know who has a young child and explain what their loving relationship would be like. Tell them that they were once your baby and they grew inside your tummy and when they realise that this is just the way of the world they will give up asking. Don't be tempted to go too far, they are way too young.
2007-02-13 06:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can tell your children is the truth and always the truth. How can you expect them to respect and trust you if you lie to them. Find a way to say it to them in children's words. There are some great books out there. Anyway, what's the hang up? It's a natural process and your reaction to these questions will make it either taboo or ok!
2007-02-15 12:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young and wanted to know my mom told me how the eggs we eat from chickens are unfertalized and how it takes a male and female chicken. She explained a bit about eggs getting fertalized = a baby on the way, but left out a lot of the anatomy until I was older...
2007-02-17 03:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anne E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't come to that point yet so I wonder too. I am pregnant too but my daugther is younger so she hasn't started asking that question yet. When she does, I might decide to tell her that it was there all along (which is only half the truth) and tell her that mommy and daddy (or God) decide when it will start growing. But then I don't know, I might think of something else... :-)
2007-02-13 06:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I recommend the book 'Mummy Laid an Egg' by Babette Cole. It deals with babies in a truthful way that is suitable for children. It is honest and simple and describes things like sex and 'seeds' in a lovely way that won't upset children. Have a look at it, I've found it a brilliant teaching aid.
Congratulations on your pregnancy too!
2007-02-13 05:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
well, I'm not sure you really want to tell them just yet the "real" way you have a baby in your tummy, but when it is time, there is a great children's book from Books-A-Million called, where did I come from. It is very great way of telling the kids. My mom had to you is for my brother. He has Downs syndrome and was asking questions
2007-02-13 05:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋