My four year old son is a great kid and very loveable but his preschool-age attitude is getting worse every day. It's not so much WHAT he says, but the tone in which he says them, and he has to oppose EVERYTHING. If I ask him to pick up his toys he'll stomp and say FINE, OK OK OK. I'm not sure what to do about it because he'll do what I tell him to do, but he does it with the snottiest attitude. How should I handle this growing problem? I don't want him to be disrespectful.
2007-02-13 05:46:35 · 9 answers · asked by totspotathome 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
As for the "where is he getting it from"...I'm not sure, my husband and I don't speak that way to each other, he does go to preschool, so he might pick it up from there.
2007-02-13 06:07:06 · update #1
My 4 year old daughter is doing the same thing. It's so irritating isn't it? She is so well behaved and considerate of other people but this little attitude creeps in every once and a while. One thing we have done is just to let her know that she is not allowed to talk to me or her father in a rude way. If she starts in with the tude, I stop what I'm doing, look her straight in the eyes and say, "Why don't you give that another try." If she answers me respectfully, I thank her and usually respond to the question or situation positively. If she chooses to be rude a second time after given the opportunity to be respectful, she has a consequence, time out, loss of privilege, whatever is applicable at the time. If she continues she gets a spanking, no discussion at that point. Very rarely have we had to spank but she knows we will if she keeps it up, so she doesn't take it that far anymore. Hope that gives you some ideas. Good luck.
2007-02-13 06:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by disneychick 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He's just growing more independent that's all, it's nothing you've done wrong. When you ask him to put his toys away, he does it because he HAS to but he'd rather be doing something else. My son is 3 and thankfully he's still in the "housework is fun" stage that the little ones go through. He likes tidy up time and putting his toys away and all the praise that goes with it but as he grows more and more independent and starts forming his own opinions on things that'll probably change. When your son uses that tone it's like he's saying "yeah ok I'll do what you ask but only because you asked. I just want to get it out of the way so I can go back to colouring in/playing etc" He's learning responsibilities. my friend's daughter is 5 and she sometimes acts like this when she's bored and wants to stir up a bit of excitement. Just be firm with him and tell him it's not acceptable.
2007-02-13 07:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to treat the attitude as you would any other unacceptable behavior. He’s learning to use his voice and is practicing for reactions.
Just tell him not to talk to you that way or to use that tone / attitude or he will be punished then the next time he does it actually punish him. The sooner you stop him from doing this the better and easier.
2007-02-13 06:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing he does what you tell him to do. That's half of the job. Fighting bad attitude is the other half - explain to him that it will not be tolerated. And then start working on it - punish him for bad attitude the same you punish for disobedience.
2007-02-13 05:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carlos Zambrano is a punk! he's likely considered one of the worst rolemodel for toddlers, who choose to alter into baseball gamers. He drives me nuts while he shows up the different group after brilliant out a batter. If i replace into the pitcher of the different group i'd bean him interior the pinnacle while he comes as much as bat. He desires to be greater mature and act like an grownup.
2016-11-03 08:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is he getting this from? Does he hear it from someone else?
You need to have a talk with him about the way he talks to you. He needs to learn that its not just about doing what he's told but about the way he speaks to people. Until he can talk nice there should be some from of punishment regardless of whether he does what he's told or not.
2007-02-13 05:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Praise the good, discipline the bad.
My son earns and loses his privileges & toys with his behavior. He knows if he's good we'll do something fun, if he's bad he loses his toys (which he has to earn back with his behavior).
He's 3, it's working well
2007-02-13 06:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh lord my son just turned four and thnkfully doesnt have that attitude. tell him you dont like his tone and make him use a better one punish him if need be, sorry im not much help
2007-02-13 05:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give him SWEETS!
2007-02-13 05:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋