In a car with a group of friends...one in particular likes me. We've never been out, even though he's asked me several times. He slowly and ever so smoothly places his hand on top of mine with slight interwining of fingers. I'm frozen and don't know what to do. I don't want to be mean so I don't pull away...but neither do I return his touch or squeeze. Does he think we're together now... ? totally confused
2007-02-13 05:46:12 · 27 answers · asked by Rochelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you didn't pull your hand away, he thinks you definitely like him. I don't know if he thinks you guys are together or not but probably. One thing I know for sure, guys can't read minds and they get their clues from your responses to their actions. Letting him know where you stand isn't being mean, he'll appreciate it in the end because he won't do something else to embarrass himself.
2007-02-13 05:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Peg G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um if he thinks you two are together, whoa he's got major drama issues. You need to be honest with him regardless of whether you have in the past or not. Inform him that you don't want to date him and that he's known and should know (provided you've told him previously). Make sure you remind him that your not trying to be mean your just making sure things are settled now before he gets totally attached and you break his heart down the road by telling him the same information (as in instead of waiting 3 weeks, when he's totally in love with you, to tell him that your not into him, you never have been etc...). Good luck !!!
2007-02-13 13:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't think you're together. This just means that he really likes you and hasn't given up yet! :)
It was sweet of you to not want to be mean, but in the future you should pull your hand away (carefully) IF you're not interested. You don't want to give him false hope.
You didn't give a reason, though, for turning down his requests for a date. Are you positive you don't like him just a little?
2007-02-13 13:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uumm you should just call him out on it so you dont get in these situations you really dont like him like that so you should embaress him if need be to get the point across i dont know if he thinks your together but he feel he's making progress meaning he has better hopes than before i know he's your freind and you dont want to be mean but sometimes it's just what has to be done in the matters of the heart you'll find with age that it's ALWAYS better to be clear about your intentions people will get hurt no matter what you do it's just how much that matters if you allow this to go on he'll be even more hurt later
2007-02-13 13:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, that's sweet.
Obviously, he likes you. You'd best talk to him about it. Just in case he does think him and you are together. You did let him touch your hand, which would mean to him that you probably might go out with him and such. But assuming you don't want to go along with that, talk to him even if you have to put him down. You'd be in a one-way relationship.
2007-02-13 13:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by pertinential 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It's not a matter of being "mean". He was way out of line by doing something like that without any clear signal from you. Now by you not giving any indication (pulling away) that he was out of line, I think you owe it to yourself and him to clear this up as soon as possible before you find yourself being frozen in much more fear.
2007-02-13 13:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he touches you does not mean you are going out. If you like him you could always hold his hand back. If you want to go out with him then tell him.
If you don't like him and don't want him to touch you tell him so.
If when he touches you and you do nothing he doesn't know how to read you. Just help the poor guy out and let him know where he stands with you.
2007-02-13 13:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by cool chic 2no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let someone take the control for simple things like this. A hand touching is a jesture of caring and compassion. I don't think you can imply being a couple mainly from that, and if he does then you need to tell him straight up it is not like that
2007-02-13 13:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to the mall with this guy that likes me but I said we were just friends and in the parking lot he just grabs my hand....I dont know some guys cant help it I guess so you can just slide your hand away and say were friends and he will get the idea
2007-02-13 13:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow the F*** up. If you don't have an interest in him you aren't doing him any favors by being silent. Put on some adult pants and tell him no. It may seem mean, but if you aren't blunt, he may think you are leading him on.
2007-02-13 13:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chris R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋