She's suicidal and has a personality disorder.
2007-02-13 05:40:00 · 27 answers · asked by Pajxxx 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
A SMILE,
and a listening ear and the fact that your are visiting will show her that you care.
good on you.
2007-02-13 05:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Moonsinger had some great suggestions. Being on a psych unit can be very boring and you can get very fidgety at times- the last thing you want to do during "down" times 9when there are no activites planned, is go back to bed. In addition to cigs (which most hospital ban now), some photos of family/friends are nice to have, a jounal (not spiral-bound, not allowed), maybe a book to read or crossword puzzles to keep busy. I enjoyed coloring- my first hospitalization taught me that coloring was therapeutic and relaxing- i still do it. So, i always have my mom bring colored pencils and a coloring book (i'm 33). It's time-consuming, takes your mind off things, and is relaxing. But, most of all your being there is what's important- she will know you care, will have some contact with "home" and normalcy, and feel loved. Don't feel too weird, it's justl like visiting a dorm or hotel room- only some of the people are a little strange. Good luck and good job .
2007-02-13 09:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact u r going to see her will help her alot.
When I was in a psych hospital (not of my own free will) I found it a great comfort when a friend came in and just chatted about things that are going on in the "outside" world, eg: wot mutual friends were up to, wots on t.v. Gossip really.......It would be nice if u felt able to ask how your friend is but only if u feel up to it. Otherwise u could ask if she has made any friends in there, wot the food is like, wot the sleeping area's like, how many people snore etc.
It depends upon what the staff say but if they have a cafeteria then maybe take her for a cuppa tea and CHOCOLATE!!!!! we all need that..
I hope it all goes well, look after yourself, and remember your friend isn't well, so don't take anything negative she may say personally, don't let yourself get ill. These places can be scary (when my friend visited me they were freaked out as there was a naked woman running around shouting obsenities at them and the staff!!!!) but everyone in there is very poorly so take it wiv a pinch of salt. In years to come u and your friend will look back at this time and remember the "funny" bits (they will become funny as time goes on)
Wish your friend all the best for a speedy recovery. A personality disorder isnot the end of the world. I have one and I look at it that at least its been proven I have a personality.....unlike alot of people LOL....
All the best. xxxx
2007-02-13 07:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by sacredsoul59 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already are making her feel better just the fact that you show enough care and concern too visit her. It is not easy for her to control her problems or her emotions. Alot of people think they do it for attention, this not true. They want to be normal. Suicide for them is a way to make all of the problems in there head go away. Be sure to still visit or call her everyday after her release. Just the fact that them knowing somebody cares can save her life.
2007-02-13 05:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having been many times in a psych unit & suicidal myself, your just coming is going to mean a lot. If she smokes, cigs are a great thing to bring. (If a person smokes, they smoke a LOT there.) Otherwise, gum, mints, her fav candy (if allowed by the hospital). Other things that have meant a lot to me were just silly things, like a cush ball or something she can "play" with while in groups (ppl can tend to be fidgety when talking about serious stuff). Lastly, maybe a small stuffed animal. Objects like these are comforting. Oh! and a nice journal is very helpful. How nice of you to ask this for your friend. Hope this helps.
2007-02-13 06:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by moonsinger333 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, if you are going to bring her somthing, call the hospital first and see what is allowed. I was in a psych unit and people were not allowed to have anything from the "outside."
Second, just talk to her normally. Tell her what is going on and what is new.
ASK her how she is feeling!!!! And tell her that you support her.
Ask her how she likes it there and if it is ok. Ask about the food, the people, the therapy. Don't be afraid to ask her about staying there. She might want to talk about it.
Play cards with her or listen to music with her. Make jokes.
She is your friend...nothing has changed. Be there for her!
2007-02-13 05:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by riptide_71 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself.... laugh and joke if it seems appropriate.. don't act like things are too weird .. and be prepared to listen.
Find out what you can from the staff about how she has been and what, if anything, you can do to help....
If things get "heavy", divert the mood/conversation back to good times you've had together.
Let her know that you are there for her and that you think of her often.. give her reasons to live.
I hope it goes well for you both.
2007-02-13 05:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by tattooed.dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your allowed to take her something really nice to eat. The food in these places can be grim. Also you could take her some make up or do her hair for her.
A True friend your friend has by the way!
2007-02-13 05:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen and be there for her.
Ask her if there is anything you can do to help.
Let her know that you are thinking of her.
Don't play down her worries.
Don't make promises you can't keep.
Don't get upset if she says something mean or cruel.
Don't ignore the problem, ask her how she feels and if she wants to talk.
Tell her how you feel - tell her that you love her and that you care.
Hope this helps x
2007-02-13 05:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ring them and ask them if you can speak to her and ask her if she wants anything bringing in that she may not have had time or opportunity to bring in with her( undies clothes chocolate cuddly toy etc)ie stuff others mite think is unnecessary but will help her get well .check with the unit what she can and cant have and be yourself while you visit dont be afraid to ask questions nurses are human and we like to see visitors ..
2007-02-15 09:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
visiting her is bound to make her feel better - just listen and she will be reasured that she's not been cast out from normal society - taking something small might be nice
2007-02-13 07:03:37 · answer #11 · answered by MagentaJade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋