I ground my kid's to thier room if they fall below c in any class. I am wondering if I am doing the right thing. I dont want to enable them to fail. All I ask is that they get c (the average) or better in school. Our school has all their info online for us as parent's to check. We can tell if they are late or skip, what assingment's they have missing or didnt do. I check these thing's every day to make sure they are being responsible in school. Iwould like other's input if this system seem's to harsh. Thank you in advance!
2007-02-13 05:39:53 · 19 answers · asked by The Angry Dutchman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HECK NO... Most parents don't care, and I think it is awesome you are trying to get your kids on the right path. Keep up the good work. Your kids will thank you in the long wrong when they are not highschool drop out dads.
2007-02-13 05:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's too harsh and might even be too lenient. The rule I grew up with and that I'm using for my girls is that the grade better be the best that you can get.
In some classes a D might be acceptable if you did all the homework, showed up, payed attention and studied. If the effort was there and that was the best you could do, you wouldn't face repercussions at home.
On the flip side though, if you pulled a C or even a B in a class you should have had an A in there was hell to pay. Bring home that kind of grade and you can expect that mom is going to enforce the studying time and monitor the effort to make sure you're doing the best you can.
2007-02-13 07:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who hooo! My kids have the same system and I too check it everyday and I too make my teen son stay home (not so much in his room) Your not being too harsh. I also tell my son he cant go outside, cant have any company and he had to give me his Xbox. I LOVE the system. It tells his average in the class and what grades he got the day before. When he slips I make a copy of the email and bring it home to show him why he is grounded. We have to push our kids and if they hate being grounded they need to pull up and handle their responsibilities to get off punishment. Keep up the good work.
2007-02-13 05:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not too harsh but what you should ask is if it is improving their grades to do this. I mean each teen responds differently to that kind of punishment. My mom took away something that my brothers loved to do,like play video games. visit their friends, etc. whenever their grades were low and this made them improve. So if grounding them isn't working, try and take something away from them. But with me she did the reward system and when I started making good grades she'd pay me a certain amount for each letter grade. I knew I'd get more for A's than B's or C's so that's what I aimed for. Each person is different and you have to find one way that will work for your teens and motivate them.
2007-02-13 05:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. So how is going to their room going to improve their grades? Are they actually understanding the lessons?Maybe, its just not laziness. Maybe you should find out if they might need extra help in understanding, like a 'tutor'. Some kids in highschool do that for a minimal fee. Like Dr. Phil asks, " how is that working for you?"
I never had to ground my two for getting a 'c' or below, but if they had received a 'c', I most certainly would've found out why they got low grades and have tried to help them.
2007-02-13 06:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by La Cicada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending the kids to the room as punishment won't work if they have all their "toys" in there. Grounding them will be much more effective if they find the only thing remaining in their room is a bare mattress on the floor. You are far, far, far from being anything that could remotely be considered harsh.
2007-02-13 05:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was raised this way (but I couldn't go below a B). It worked really well for my siblings and me. We all went on to college and now have great jobs. If you let your child think that less than average is ok, they WILL apply that to their lives in more than one aspect. Remember how easy HS was? They can get C grades, tell them they are smart and you know they can do it! Keep up the good parenting!
2007-02-13 05:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by LP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what my parents did to me, and I hated them for it and spent the entire school year in my room. It never improved my grade so I don't do it with my kids. I talk to the teachers when the grades drop and I have found that most of the time it is the result of a paper not turned in or something like that. I would not go by the grade on the Internet without talking to the teacher first.
2007-02-13 05:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay here's the thing. Is it a report card grade? If yes...then yes. If no...then give them a mild punishment. And check and see if they're having any problems in schools. Maybe they can't pay attention or do their work for a reason. At least give them the benefit of the doubt.
2007-02-13 06:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is too harsh, considering you always have access to their grades. I do however, think that there should be an equally positive reinforcement for good grades. I don't have teenagers, but this works extremely well for my children. You will have to come up with something that they would feel is special as a reward. It can't be something that they usually do, something for them to get excited about.
2007-02-13 05:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by imtami75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋