I am single and have chose not to have physical relations in a little more than two years. In addition to no sex, I've had no kissing, no dates, nothing. I've bascially decided this because I've had so many bad relationships in the past and also because I enjoy being by myself. My so called friends think I am not normal and yet the people that criticize have the most dysfunctional relationships. I'm thinking of going for three years or maybe forever. Is anyone else in the same boat?
2007-02-13 05:38:59 · 15 answers · asked by Angrygirl5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all of the polite answers...To I've Been There...I don't think I deserve to be a saint or a nun. I have to admit that when the mood strikes me, I do make use of battery-operated devices...lol
2007-02-13 06:08:24 · update #1
I don't think you're abnormal. You can only take so many bad relationships before dating just seems like too much of a bother. If you find other things in life that make you happy, there's no need to date just because it's "normal" to do.
2007-02-13 05:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it because of a bad relationship with a man, if thats the case and ive probally said this a million times, not every man is bad, there are still a few good ones left, I dont know if i could go without the companionship of a woman for that long, or sex for that matter,You have a strong will i'll give you that, But you must miss being with a man, companionship, love, someone to laugh with, just to be with, I wish you all the luck in the world.
2007-02-13 13:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you if you're "normal," because I really believe there is no such thing as "normal." As far as your decision to not date -- that is YOUR decision and is not the business of anyone else.
If your friends are giving you crap in a playful way, it's no big deal. But anyone who is telling you there is something wrong with you and seriously giving you a rough time is not a good friend.
I am not in the same boat (I do have a boyfriend), but I also know how you feel. I have a friend who didn't date for quite awhile for the same reasons, and it's understandable.
Be your own person. If you want to take a break from men for awhile, more power to you!
2007-02-13 13:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not now but was a few years back. I just had no desire (due to a bad relationship) to get involved with a new one. I enjoyed about 2 years alone with friends, traveling doing what i wanted. I didn't feel deprived because I didn't have any desire to be missing out. There is nothing wrong with taking some celibate time to yourself. Sometimes it is 3 months, a few years, etc. I started to feel like I wanted to date again and I slowly did. Now I have a long term relationship and we live together going on almost 5 years. It is all in the timing and nothing wrong with what and where you are in your life! Enjoy your time for you and when you feel ready you will find someone new again. You are waiting for him just as much as he is for you.
2007-02-13 13:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in life is not to let mistakes or bad experiences stop you from living. I think that after a bad relationship it is fine to want some alone time, some R&R and just general chill time. But you might be missing out on true love, just by being afraid of going back out there. Never stop trying because you might really regret it when you are older.
2007-02-13 13:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by without.question 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A functional relationship is like functional families!!
there are none. Yes you are normal if you chose not to be physical with anyone believe me there are a lot of us out here. your friends just say you are, is because they can't control their own behavior. and don't understand how you can... one day you will find a match.
2007-02-13 13:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by ISSIK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are definitely normal. i'm in the same boat right now. i've been separated from my wife for almost a year and i'm in no rush to get back in a relationship. in terms of your "friends", it seems that misery loves company. they are a little jealous of your freedom. what matters is who you are as a person not by who you end up with. i wish you the best.
2007-02-13 13:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's an awesome commendable desision to have made. Very empowered! What you're doing is not radical and you are not so crazy.
I would encourage you to follow the link I'm going to put below and see that this is a valid lifestyle choice.
I just heard this guy on the radio recently. Very good.
2007-02-13 13:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. I think there are plenty of Catholic Nuns who feel the same way you do. Maybe you should consider joining an order. You could do plenty of good works to go along with your celibacy.
2007-02-13 13:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes!!!!!!! You are normal and responsible, which makes you a wonderful human being! I hope you are able to find someone to be intimate with, but until then keep right on being you...
-Michael
2007-02-13 14:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋