ive met this guy online and from his first e-mail to me i was really interisted..what he wrote wasnt so interisting..but i just felt a big connection..i wasnt taking any of the online people seriously..but when it came to him..my heart melts..we decided to meet...and i just even fell for him even more...i dont know why i did do such silly move...but we had sex..so many times..he does not want to settle down and i want him...he says that he is marriage material but i want to be involved in a seriouse relationship with him..i gave him everything i had and i never shared anything with anyone what i shared with him...what can i do?
2007-02-13 05:38:43 · 5 answers · asked by blah blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ouch!!
2007-02-13 05:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First I am a bit confused by the "he says that he is marriage material" portion. If you have been intimate so many times, I would suggest talking to him the next time you hook up. Tell him what you want. If he is just in it for 'fun', then tell him the truth, that you've put yourself out there for the first time ever.
However, if you wish to play a little game with him become 'unavailable' and hard to get and see if he comes after you. You may have made the mistake lots of girls make by being too available. Men want what they cannot have, so you have to be a little bit unattainable to pique their interest.
Most people want what they cannot have, by the way, so if you operate on that theory, you may have a little bit better luck. So if you answer an email with a one liner, and don't answer the phone every time, or generally be a bit mysterious, maybe he'll come around. If he doesn't then he isn't worth it, and perhaps you should move on.
Good Luck and remember you are worth your weight in Gold!
2007-02-13 13:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by La_Liona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you got hurt...I know it is not easy because I went thru the very same thing only difference was he was not married.but his parents did not approve of me and told him it is either her or us and if you chose her we will write you out of the will. Well that was 4 years ago and I am finally over him and have gone on with my life. My advice is to you so that you do not get hurt any further is to no longer talk to him or see him. I know that this may not what you want to hear but it is coming from my heart and I just do not want to hear of you getting hurt any further. There are other men out there who would be lucky to have you as a friend first then let it bloom into something more. Please take my advice I hope everything works out for you..
2007-02-13 13:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladygodiva03111969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only solution to this is.....Time. Broken hearts are horrible things that only yourself can mend. All you can do is learn from your mistakes. If he is the one everything will fall into place.Good luck and remember whats meant to be will find a way.
2007-02-13 13:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta think it over bout wat ur doing
2007-02-13 13:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Amanista 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋