What happens when you die???????????????

Question

I have just lost my step-sister and her 4 young children on sunday. And I am 25 so I know all about going to heaven being in a better place and all that crap that everyone says. I want to know what really happens though. Mainly to the kids? I am a christian so I know the basics they tell you church but how do I know if it is true. Are they really in heaven looking down on us. Will they come back in another form. And what would be the reason to take such young kids in the horrible way they went. Please this is my family and this just happen on sunday so please no smart remarks. Thank you in advance to all for your help and cooperation.

I just want to thank everyone that has taken the time to answer my question. Just about every last one has been helpfull in there own way. Thank you very much. I know I should not question my faith but with all that has happen it is hard not too. What makes it even sadder is that my oldest sister (30) will be getting married tomorrow on V-day. And then friday we will bury all five. Thank you again for all of your answers, sympathy, understanding, cooperation and most of all prayers. Bless each and everyone.

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I believe young children go to be with the Lord, not having reached the age of accountability. Jesus once told His disciples,
"Let the little children come to Me, and do not hinder them, for the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as these." (Matthew 19:14)
When King David lost a child shortly after birth, his comment was: "I shall go to him (the deceased child), but he shall not return to me." (II Samuel12:23)
As for reasons, it's best not to dwell on such things. God often conceals reasons from us for our own sake. "The secret things belong to God" (Deuteronomy 29:29)

If you wish to delve into the subject further, I can recommend a great online book from the visions of a young woman in the previous century. You can read it online at:
http://www.hti.umich.edu/cgi/t/text/text-idx?c=moa;idno=AFZ0722.0001.001

Peace to you,

Answer 2

In you stating that you do not want to hear all that "being in a better place crap" just might be where they are. I was taught that when you die that you return to the Father. I do not think that anyone can tell you where you go after death until you personally experience it for yourself. I bet that where ever they are that they do not have to go through obstacles in this crazy world which is a GREAT Thing however I know that there physical presence will be deeply missed by you and others, I hope that you and your family can find comfort in knowing that CHRIST is JUST and that everything happens for a reason and that he called his children home on Sunday is not a Bad thing, he has a plan for everyone sometimes or most of the time we may never understand his will but he is almighty and we should rejoice in knowing that their will be a day/time when death will never be in existence. May God Bless you!! I know that it is going to get better for you and your family, and it won't hurt you afterwhile!!

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss. Your mind must be reeling from the pain, but don't let it steer you away from your faith. You should embrace it now more than ever. The Christian Bible tells us that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord, so take comfort in knowing your family is okay. I lost my father a couple of years ago and whenever I questioned why he had to die the way he did my spirit received the answer that everyone has to die and to those who loved the deceased there really isn't a good way to loose them. The widow misses her spouse of 50 years as much as the mother of an infant. Pray to Jesus for peace and strength and I'll pray for you right now. You may also want to get counseling or find a good book on Christians dealing with death.

Answer 4

Take my hand and know I mean well. You live your life for your family and you. You know when things are not right and the things you can change and the things you can not. Some times life is cruel and sometimes it is sweet. No one or religion has ever come back in our age to say what is next. To question your beliefs about reasons may help and may not. I hope the day will come when you will be at peace.

Answer 5

First, my sincerest sympathies for your tragic loss.

There is no soul sleep of the righteous. Only the damned sleep in their graves. Those that have died in Christ now reside in heaven.

The spiritual bodies of the righteous will result from the joining of their heavenly natures with their resurrected bodies at the second coming and final judgment.

Those that are damned will awake from their sleep to be judged and join Satan in their separation from God in Hell.

As for your concern about children, if you adopt a Calvinist approach to the Scriptures, the answer is quite satisfying. God's elect were chosen before the world began, and the elect will be gathered by God. The elect will not be able to resist God's grace.

In short, the whole notion of John 3:16 only applies to those God has foreordained to be saved. This means that Christ did not come to save everyone, only the elect chosen by God on whom he decided to have mercy. The five principles of Calvinism are easily remembered by the acronym, TULIP: Total depravity, Unconditional Election, Limited atonement, Irresistible grace
Perseverance of the saints.

Hence, IF the child was one of God's chosen elect, the child, or rather the person the child would have become, will be with Christ in heaven. The child will exist in heaven in the body that he/she would have become as an adult, too.

How does one know if he or she is one of the elect? We don't! Instead we are urged to keep God's commandments, live righteous lives seeking to please God, and pray continuously that His mercy falls upon us as one of His elect.

Some may say that a Calvinistic theology is unfair. But the counter to this is that God will have mercy on whom He will have mercy. That is His right as the Creator of everything. "Shall the pot say to the potter, why have you made me thus?"

Death of the young, by whatever means is always heartbreaking. I cannot explain the will of God in a way that would comfort you. I can use the formal theological arguments about the Fall of man and the entry of natural and demonic evil in this world. I can say that God's purposes for this event may be revealed years from now, or perhaps never. I could argue that God just took them because he wanted to spare them some future greater evils that would befall them. Or God is using this event to reveal a higher purpose or prevent a greater evil. Someone (perhaps a potentially very evil person or just a person who will do some great good) reading your heart breaking story may be moved to draw nearer to God and would not have otherwise done so, hence, God is drawing good out of a very naturally evil event. None of my explanations will satisfy you at this time.


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Answer 6

First of all. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Second. Nobody knows for certain what happens when people die. For some, you just go to Heaven, for others, you will return after some time of rest. It all depends on your religious point of view.

Answer 7

All children will go to heaven because their spirit is more pure than a adults.They are closer to angels.I totaly believe we go to meet our loved ones when we die.I have no doubt or fear of death.I believe in the Lord on my terms.I don't think they will come back so soon in another body.Otherwise who will meet you?i know someone will but who they are is a mystery.Peace to you and i am sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

What if:

When you die you are instantly greeted by everyone who is close to you, even the ones who were still mortal when you passed.

Because "time" as we know it, only exist for us while we are alive right? After we pass, something like "time" could be radically different.

-M

Answer 9

Death is final. I am truly truly sorry for the lost lives of them babies. I can imagine the hurt and confusion. Keep your faith above all things and you and your family will be fine.

Answer 10

if anyone anyone knew the answer to that question we wouuld probably be leaving by the millions to be reborn,we all must indure death so it can't be too bad,and iv' been visited from dead people i knew but i never as how is it or what it was like