I am curious what the consensus is of the public. Also, how long should you be engaged before the wedding?
I think that you should be engaged for about a year, but that's just my opinion...what do you all think?
2007-02-13 05:23:17 · 22 answers · asked by toonlink 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends on age and maturity, but I think you should date at least 3 years before getting engaged.. What's the rush? This is forever so I think people should spend a little time to make sure.
2007-02-13 11:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes almost a year to plan a wedding, so a year-long engagement is definitely not out of the question. How long before you get engaged - at least a year in my opinion, no shorter than 6-months. You have to have time to get to know each other. I got engaged after dating a year and a half and got married a year and a half later. Seemed perfect to me.
2007-02-13 06:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be dating for a few years before you get engaged. There are people who date for 3+ years and then break up and I wouldn't want that to happen in a marriage. So I'd date for a couple of years and then get engaged probably for a year or two. I think part depends on how long you'll need to plan the wedding because it can take 1-2 years for some people. Of course you never know who you'll meet and you could married within a year or two of dating. I think you just have to follow your heart.
2007-02-13 05:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was always told to date for 1 year before getting engaged. It is important to see how that person treats their father/mother because that is how they will treat you. People act differently in different seasons too, so I say give it a year then get engaged. Once you are engaged I don't think you need a long engagement but one just long enough so you have time to plan the wedding of your dreams.
2007-02-13 06:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Vogue 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should probably date someone for a couple of years before getting engaged. You are going to need that much time to make sure you really know the person. Love is more than the idealistic romance that all relationships start off with.
As for the engagment, however long it takes to plan the wedding is a good rule. But also keep in mind you and your fiance's financial standings, jobs, schooling, etc.
I hope this helps, and I hope all goes well and there will be a congratulations in store for you!
2007-02-13 05:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by rowan8286 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there should be a time line for dating, within reason. I know some people that dated for 10 years before getting engaged, and they have been married for 14 years now. I know another couple that dated for 5 years before getting engaged, and they are divorced.
Still a third couple dated for only a year and a half, and they been happily married for 47 years.
You have to love, know, and trust your partner well enough to make the biggest commitment of your life. Just keep asking yourself, where are WE going to be in 10 years, 20 years, 30 years. Do you know all the answers to all of each others questions? Have you had a fight, and how was it resolved? Remember, you are going to have disagreements throughout your life (sorry, but that's the truth). It's just how the two of you resolve your differences that will tell how well you can work out problems.
So...putting all that aside....6 months is a minimum to plan a great wedding, so your engagement could be 6 months long. I would date at least a year and a half before even considering getting engaged.
Best of luck.
2007-02-13 06:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Surfer Dad 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel 2 to 3 years dating is a good amount of time before you get engaged. 6months to a year is long enough to be engaged.
2007-02-13 10:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by riz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no set time as every couple is different.
In my case we were 18 when we got engaged. We had been dating for 2 years. We both decided to wait until we finished college to get married. So we were engaged for almost 5 years! We have been together for about 9 years now, married almost 2 and very happy :)
My parents got engaged after 2 dates!!! and went and got married a few days later. AND I will add they have been married for 30 years now.
2007-02-13 06:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you should date between six months to one year before getting engaged.
2007-02-13 05:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should be dating for about a year or more before engagement, and i think no more than 4 years to be engaged........at the very most.
2007-02-13 09:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Duelen 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋