Been with my bf for 2 years now. i love him to death, but he was my first...EVERYTHING. My friends & family are always tellin me i need to "experience" more, even though i'm around the age to start considering marriage.
I dont know HOW to cheat. and i dont WANT to, but i feel like if i dont, i'll be sitting somewhere when i'm 90 thinking damn, i shoulda.
Closest i got to cheating with hanging out with a guy friend (who, btw, is hot for me). He leaned in for the kiss, and i backed out & left. I cant bring myself to do it... but should i just get it over with ?
2007-02-13 05:21:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't do it. remember that cheating is a negative thing. People only encourage it because they wish that they were in your shoes so they try to bring you down to their level. You are doing what is right and what is expected. Just becaus eeverybody else is wrong they won't to make you feel like you are misssing out on something so you can do it be wrong too and then get caught and be lonely with them. Girl you are doing the right thing. Keep it up.
2007-02-13 05:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see two questions here.
1. Should I cheat? No, I don't think anyone should cheat. It's deceitful, hurtful, a crummy thing to do, and brings you tons of bad karma.
2. Are you missing out on anything? Probably, since you didn't take the time to experience more in life/dating.
However, answer #2 doesn't mean you should cheat. If you feel you are missing out then what you should do is either end your current relationship or tell your bf you feel you should both date other people for a while, to make sure you each are the right match for the other.
One doesn't have to cheat to experience other relationships and lovers, and should not. Either set your current relationship into a "dating others also" mode, or end it and date and play with whomever you want until you feel like you've sown all your wild oats and are ready to settle down (if that occurs).
There's no rule that says you ever need marry or be with someone long term so do what is right for you...date and play (safely) with whomever you desire, just do it honestly.
2007-02-13 05:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You will mess everything up. Let your head make the decisions for you, not the opinions of others. THere is a reason it is called "cheating."
Think about it this way. Say you do cheat on your bf. And now he finds out. You 2 will probably not be together anymore. Say you cheat and he doesn't find out. You will have that guilty conscience forever.
Either way, if you are not serious about the relationship and about his feelings in this relationship, then maybe you 2 shouldn't be together. And if you think that not cheating would make you regretful, then something isn't right. If you are with the right person, you won't ever need to worry about if he is the only person you will be with.
2007-02-13 05:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by toonlink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not missing out on anything. There are hundreds of people out there who wish they could find someone they could honestly love who loves them back. Embrace the blessing you have and don't stress it.
There are plenty of things you can experience without cheating on your boyfriend. Go on a vacation with some friends and see the country a little bit. Get new hobbies. Doing something negative will never fulfill you. It will just make you feel bad about yourself in the long run and very well could cause you to lose the one you love so much.
2007-02-13 06:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating IS NOT what your friends and family is talking about...they are thinking that because he is the first boyfriend that you have by not experimenting with at least one other guy in your life you might miss out on some experience in life...it depends on how you look at things in life...perswonaly I don't think it matters if you went out with 1 person or 10 people because when the time comes to get married you will know no matter what...hope this helps
2007-02-13 05:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself an amazing person for not cheating. Because you do not want to do it, I will tell you right now, the guilt will tear you apart personally.
There is no need to follow society. You be the leader and show others what doing the right thing can do.
I would never consider cheating on my husband and I really take pride in that. Your bad actions will always come back to haunt you and often and the wrong time.
2007-02-13 05:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you love him, then dont cheat. I have cheated and been cheated on, and neither are a good feeling. I cheated on my husband and he cheated on me, god only knows how we are still together. Anyway, just dont do it. It hurts to be betrayed like that and if your BF finds out, you could loose a good man, and the look in his eyes when he finds out will hurt you as well. Cheating is just a painful avoidable experience. If you want to play the field, do the decent thing and let your BF go.
2007-02-13 05:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg that is the stupedest thing anyone can tell u... whyyy in the world would u risk something with the one u love for something that doesnt even make u happy.. u know how many people would like to have gotten the rite man on the 1st time. unfortunately it doesnt always happen that way and that's why some woman go around with a bunch of men cuz they havent found what thet really want. so if u already got it why keep looking. i mean one thing is that u dont love him no more and want someone else but if u really love him and u dont want to cheat on himn THEN DONT u r not missing out on anything really.. what what sex? there are a million diseases out there seriously dont risk it... is my best advice hope it help u.... GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-13 05:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you'd miss out on is having morals. Keep it with one person, why stop now...honestly, there is tooooooo much out here to risk it. My friend and I went to get tested together to make sure we didn't have anything and I'd know if he stepped out and got some. Cheating does nothing but break up homes and spread VD's. Keep it to yourself, honey, cuz you really don't want the crabs!
2007-02-13 05:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss You Softly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all theres no need to "cheat"
if you want to experiment - break it off with him and tell him you need to be alone for a while bla bla - then go do what you want
cheating is the most horrible feeling! dont do it - because then when it comes down to it - your going to have to tell your boyfriend ( which is a horrible feeling) ... but if you break up first you wont feel as bad because you guys were apart.
but i just want to throw this in - im 20 years old and i have been with my bf for 2 years - and am planning on marring him in 2 more years ... everyone tells me the same thing - but i couldnt even THINK of cheating on him - and personally i dont care whats out there - because hes EVERYTHING i need ... i think you should feel this way too - and if you dont - then maybe you dont love him as much as you think you do.
2007-02-13 05:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋