I have a mild stutter and sometimes i find it hard to talk. It gets worse when im nervous. Sometimes i talk in a wierd way to prevent it, and people think it's strange. Do girls care if i stutter? Should i tell people if i sense people are bemused by it?
2007-02-13 05:18:48 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have several uncles and cousins who stuttered and they found help through The Stuttering Foundation. You might see if any of their tips, books, or DVDs help you. The web site is www.stutteringhelp.org. Girls shouldn't care if you stutter, nobody should; if they do, they aren't worth your time. Letting someone know that you sometimes stutter usually takes the pressure off to hide your stuttering and you'll find that you don't stutter as much - according to my relatives and some other stutterers I have met in my lifetime. One cousin found that if he talked in a lower voice than he usually did, he never stuttered. Everyone just thought his voice had changed. Remember that "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt said that.
2007-02-13 17:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Bud B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart - If your heart is in the right place, you are kind, and a woman can see if you are sincere, then a mild stutter is nothing in this world. Let them think what they want.
Love yourself, and sing to the object of your affections...I understand singing keeps you from stuttering. As a child my neighbors husband stuttered terribly. He was quite handsome and a good person, but they managed to have a very happy marriage, he was quiet in groups of people though. Once he spent some time with someone and got to know them, it calmed his nerves and the stutter was reduced.
Good luck with the ladies!
2007-02-13 05:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by La_Liona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a mild stutter should not make it hard for you to get a girl that you like. As long as you are able to communicate - that is, if you enunciate your words, and speak slowly. Normally, people tend to stutter when they are most fearful or frightened. Also, people tend to stutter much less when they have a smile on (duh, they are really relaxed). So i'd suggest, always approach her with a smile ... and then the rest is history ... you'll probably forget that you stutter.
2016-05-24 05:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't like you because you stutter, then do you really want them as a friend or girlfriend?. I know a man that stutters and he is still one of the hottest men I know, his stuttering even adds a little sexiness about him, and in high school he was one of the hotest guys there. Don't be foolish, stuttering has NOTHING to do with friends liking you, its apart of you and you shouldnt care what anyone thinks. Hold your head up, noone is better then anyone else. Good Luck
2007-02-13 05:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by 3boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you stutter. Big deal. We ALL have faults, some just aren't as obvious.
I work with a man who was made fun of for stuttering. He has a strong stutter, and had a very hard time when he was nervous, especially around girls. I won't sugar coat it and say it was easy for him, but I will say this. The work that he does encourages public speaking, and he does VERY well financially. No, it didn't happen overnight. Yes, he still stutters, and it is very obvious. He gets stuck on words speaking in front of hundreds of people! However, he is EXTREMELY successful, and his wife loves him very much.
He took what could have made him withdrawn and used the laughter of others to fuel his fire. He is successful in LIFE because he took what could drag him down and used it to prove to HIMSELF that he had something to offer to the world. He inspires me.
2007-02-13 05:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Holding A Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should tell the person. I deal with the same thing. The best thing you can do is go to a speech therapists if you want it to go away for good. If you dont want to do that then explain to the person that you have a mild stutter and if they don't understand that and think that it is some form of unintelligence then you shouldn't be talking to them anayway.
2007-02-13 05:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by jamocha_1700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about it up front it will relax you, which means less stuttering and the person you are trying to talk too won't be surprised and trying to figure out what the matter is. i doubt anyone really cares that much. i know a guy who stutters really badly even in normal conversation, it doesn't have to be a nervous one and most people are just patient and let him take his time, or thats what i do anyway.
2007-02-13 05:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it shouldnt matter to a girl if you stutter (it gets easier as you get older iwth this one tho!!)
i would suggest doing something to gain confidence with your stutter, like drama classes or something similar, something where you have to speak out infront of people, this will help you overcome the nerves that cause the stutter to be worse... also ask you doctor about speach therapy as this can really help and almost cure a stutter..
good luck xx
2007-02-13 05:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by merrpet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be helpful to explain to those that appear disconcerted with your manner of speech. To some women it will matter, to others it will not. Just as with just about any other characteristic people have...
Be yourself...some women will find the stutter cute when they learn it occurs when you are nervous as they will take that as a compliment...
2007-02-13 05:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you stutter. And if anyone gives you a hard time about it, they are not the type of people you want to be dating anyway.
2007-02-13 05:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋