2007-02-13 05:14:59 · 42 answers · asked by guru ji 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BE POSITIVE IN EVERYTHING YOU DO IN LIFE!
1. Loose that hopeless attitude.
2. Smile more often.
3. Look confident - be confident
4. Stop trying so hard to attract a girl -
5. Start feeling good about yourself
6. Look good - Smell good - Dress good
7. Pray
8. Ambition and strength of character
9. Act a little mature
10. HAVE FUN AT WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING and let it show!
2007-02-13 05:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Trini Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women pay attention to how well you take care of yourself. If you are fat, you don't take care of yourself.
That doesn't mean it's impossible for a fat guy to get a girl. I know some fat guys who have no trouble with women, but they are not in the least bit shy. They have outgoing, crazy, funny personalities that make people laugh.
Basically, you're going to have to change something, because things aren't really working for you right now. Which do you think would be easier? Becoming an outgoing, fun, funny person, or getting in shape?
Personally, I think it's much easier to change what you look like than it is to change who you are. And if you know you look good, your confidence level will rise automatically. I'm very shy myself, and I wish I were less so, but I am who I am. I do my best to take care of myself, though, and I think that shows.
2007-02-13 05:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm sorry for all the dumb asses who've responded thus far. I am both a female and a female who looooves men with bellies. I fell in love with my first belly man my junior year of high school. You know how? Natural attraction. He and I played in a jazz band together and during a Christmas party, during improvisation we could read each other's minds and played beautifully. It was the best mind **** ever. We were friends for some time (which is almost always key to getting a relationship) before we started dating. He spoiled me so much. Since him, I've been in love with men with tummies.
When you meet a girl who might serve as a potential mate; don't rush. Be her friend. It's okay to be shy because it means you wont be stupid enough to try to feel her up. Spoil her, but don't be clingy and obsessive with it. Do all those cheesy gentlemanly things- they really do work...and start playing an instrument. Musicians are the best lovers :D All of these things are good to let you out of your shell in subtle ways.
Good luck son!
2007-02-13 05:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Belldandy2760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other than to deal with the today's media that hypnotizes people that skiny and muscular are the most attractive body types, you need to concentrate on the one thing that most want: confidence.
if you project confidence, inner strength, looks become secondary.
the only thing I can say that may keep some women hesitant is the physical part, meaning I dont know how heavy you are but a woman of 90-130 lbs cant go around the world with a 280 + bear.
there are limitations on certain things, and some women may not like only a limited number of positions.
not saying all women are like that, but be aware of that part.
2007-02-13 05:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join dating websites for plus size people. Maybe join a club you have an interest in, like philosophy and meet people who have similar interests.
I am a fuller figured woman and met an great guy on the site listed below and he loves the way I am. Be brave, believe that you are worth the effort this requires and keeping going. We aren’t born to be alone.
2007-02-13 05:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are shy than maybe you are into ready for a relationship. But if you really want to get a girl maybe you should try to loose some weight and become more confident in yourself before you put yourself out there for the world to see.
2007-02-13 05:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actually all about your attitude, sure loseing weight makes it easier, but thats becasue your confidence would go up (cause you lost the weight)
Be clean, start to diet and work out... Smile at women, and you would be surprised at the responces..... if one smiles back, strike up a conversation.....
keep doing this, untill you have mastered it.... everyone gets rejected, sometimes, its cause they already have a BF or are married..... so don't get discurraged...
2007-02-13 05:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to like who you are both inside & out before you can even worry about what other people see you as.
Be upfront, women like that - & - totally hate the show men try to put on to make a sorry attempt at impressing us.
Just be your self, be genuine, open & honest.
2007-02-13 05:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok according to my boyfriend he is fat. i dont think so i love the size he is. if your interested in acertain girl just got to flirt and see from her body language and words whether she likes you beck. a good girl would care what you look like and will like you no matter what. just on your personality. if she doesnt like you that way you can find better i promise. just make sure you are happy. good luck i hope you find the one ur looking for.
2007-02-13 05:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by caribouu2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go out and start talking to people. It does not matter how big or small a person is to find love. Get out there strike up a conversation and see where it leads
2007-02-13 05:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋