Off and on we've been together for exactly a year today. In October we broke up for about two weeks because he thought I was hiding things from him, which I proved to be false. Mid January he left me again, saying he just didn't feel the same way about me anymore. A few days ago he told me he made a huge mistake and missed me terribly and has never loved anyone like he's loved me. Last night we got back together. Am I making a mistake? I'm scared that he's just going to freak out again a couple months from now, and honestly, I just can't handle being hurt by him again, because I love him way too much. What do you think?
2007-02-13 05:14:43 · 17 answers · asked by Tonya L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I'm not 16, I'm 24
2007-02-13 16:53:10 · update #1
I think when someone has feelings where they need to constantly break up w/ someone, they either a) love drama or b) have a real valid concern abt their true feelings. I would personally tell the b/f to make up his mind abt what he wants and tell him breaking up w/ you every few weeks is not acceptable.
2007-02-13 05:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by mo_luv22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said everything every body before me said you the chances of him breaking up with you a third time is really high,not to mention how can you make a mistake when you say i dont feel the same way about you then after a few days wants to be with you he's not the kinda guy thats up for a long term relationship and if you cant handle him leaving you again why don't you do vice-versa break up with him but thats only what i think you do what you whant,it's all up to you.
2007-02-13 05:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Da truth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex was like this...exactly. And I was the same way you are. I completely loved him so much I always took him back. But honestly – your boy will probably just keep breaking your heart. It's horrible to say but it sounds like he's still trying to figure things out for himself. I'm sure he does really care about you but if he's unsure now...then chances are he'll stay unsure. It's hard to break things off when you genuinely care about someone. But, trust me it's better in the long run instead of finding out way later that he's found someone else.....which is probably the reason for the on-again-off-again routine. And don't let him try placing the blame on you...which is what it sounds like he tried to do the first time.......you shouldn't have to prove yourself. You already have twice now for taking him back. Especially if you know your not guilty of whatever he accuses you of.
Best of luck!
2007-02-13 05:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, sweetie, but the chances are seriously high that you two will break up again within the next couple of months. He is obviously not ready for a long term relationship yet. He doesn't have a good handle on his feelings. I am not saying he is a jerk, but a relationship with him will be unstable for a while.
2007-02-13 05:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems such as you will truthfully be extra acceptable off with out him. I do have self assurance you have a gamble, yet i'm no longer an lawyer. And sure, i'd report for sole custody....if there is any way you may desire to depart Seattle and not be stumbled on via him, i think of that would desire to be ultimate besides. I prefer you the final possible for despite happens; purely shelter your alluring toddler and your self...this is the main serious element!!!! God bless you~~
2016-09-29 01:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by schenecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh-Yes he will leave u again as he appears not to know what the he** he wants- he is not dependable & he's unstable. Move on girl-theres plenty of fish in the sea. He's playing an emotional rollercoaster with u & ur feelings. Don't go back-move foward & be happy!! :) Theres someone out there for u believe me!!! Good luck.... Donna
2007-02-13 05:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This very same thing happened to me, and yes, it did happen again. We finally really talked about it and he loves me very much - he is just afraid of committment. No matter how much he loved me he could never get past it. He is still alone and that was over a year ago!
2007-02-13 05:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kitt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As they say, once bitten twice shy. At least you're giving the guy a chance, though. I'd say...if it DOES happen again, it's over and just leave it at that
2007-02-13 05:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by sugacaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already two for two. If not much seems to have changed concerning his views or behaviour, then it's more than likely you'll end up being three for three.
2007-02-13 05:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds REALLY unstable and indecisive
Break off the relationship..
2007-02-13 05:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋