So what do I do - my bridesmaids just want to do a bacholorette party, and my future mom-in-law wants the shower.. how can I make everyone happy without having my MOD & BM's pay for so much?
I am not throwing this myself - and personally I do not want the bridal shower as I feel it is an excuse to get more presents. But do not know how to make this all work...
2007-02-13 05:12:15 · 11 answers · asked by Nichole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If your future mother in law is being kind enough to offer to throw your a bridal shower, I think it would be polite to take her up on it. Grandmothers and aunts and older female relatives are excited for you and want to celebrate! As a compromise, have it at tea time and maybe ask your MIL to ask the guests to not bring gifts. But if they do, they will probably be things for the wedding day itself. A blue garter or satin ring bearers pillow.
After the shower, you and your younger friends can have the bachlorette party. Stay out late and do whatever you feel like doing. If these friends bring gifts, it will probably be raunchy lingerie and the like. Just make sure the parties are a few days before the actual wedding! You want to be rested on your wedding day.
2007-02-13 05:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by rowan8286 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not have both???? I would plan a whole day that starts with the tradtional bridal shower but ends up being a bacholorette party. Youc an even do two sets of invitations, one for the bridal shower and another for the bachelorette party..........Shower hours could be like 2-5pm and the bacholorette could begin at 6 pm until
2007-02-13 14:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Laughing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bachelorette party is the "wild" party thrown where guests like your grandmother and mothers would not attend. The gifts that you will probably get at the bach. party will probably not be the gifts you'll receive at a bridal shower.
Bridal showers are mostly during the day, bachelorette parties are typically at night.
Express the situation to your MOH/Bridesmaids and see what they can come up with.
Have fun!
2007-02-13 05:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case your worried approximately expenditures then why don't you chop back the spa area out and all and sundry do each and each others hair and makeup at someones homestead then lease a limo to take you out to the golf equipment for 4 hours. The 107 a individual does not incude drinks on the golf equipment which in my journey is the majority fee of the bachelorette party. i'd email all and sundry and spot how lots they are making plans on spending on the bachelorette party, get an entire from all the ladies and then see what you're able to do. If the young women are under 18 or 21 (based on the club, they won't have the skill to get in) the main difficulty is which you do no longer p.c. to embarass somebody via fact they'd't arise with the money for to pay for an all out finished women day and nighttime. you've got the skill to speak to each and all of the ladies and spot if all and sundry even needs to flow? tell them the predicted fee of 107 a individual plus drinks and allow it is thier selection. provide them a week or so which you may get issues mutually and talk with thier mom and father and then ask who's in and who's out so which you would be able to tell the limo enterprise and the spa. If greater human beings are out then in then perchance basically you and the bride can flow to the spa and then meet them involved in the party to start and flow out to the club. however the tree at that bridal bathe is a huge NO NO. You signed as much as be a bridesmaid and as a bridesmaid you agreed to finance your area of the bachelorette party. So did all of the different bridesmaids yet, you may save it interior EVERYONES funds it is in trouble-free terms honest.
2016-10-02 02:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it all! Getting presents is NOT a bad thing, how else are you going to set up your new residence? I had 3 bridal showers and a bachelorette party. I had a family shower, a shower with my mom's friends, and a lingerie party with my girlfriends. And of course we had a crazy night out for the bachelorette party! Enjoy yourself! Stop stressing about these parties, that's why you have bridesmaids, it's their job to stress about them :)
2007-02-13 05:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the grooms mother wants to throw it then let her, she is then responsible for all the costs that the bridal shower will incur. Let your mridesmaids know that thye wont be responsible for any of the cost due to the MIL throwing the party.
2007-02-13 05:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your bridesmaids plan the bachlorette party and the mother in law plan the shower. There is nothing wrong with having both if someone wants to do them for you.
2007-02-13 05:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely explain to your mother-in-law when she asks you abt it that the bridal party (which includes you) decided to just do the BP. This will leave the burden on the MIL to throw the party.
2007-02-13 05:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by mo_luv22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both. At the shower tell your friends not to buy you anything. All the older ladies will get you gifts, and you are making everyone happy...even you!
2007-02-13 05:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by LP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..If your bridesmaids want the bachelorette then they can pay for that. The MO should foot the bill for the shower. Why should you bridesmaids have to help her? If she wants it done then she can see that its paid for.
2007-02-13 06:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋