I cheated on my man that I was with for 6 months 3x with my ex that I loved very much back in the day.?

Question

I cheated on my man that I was with for 6 months with 3x with my ex that I loved very much back in the day. I then did it again after he proposed to me. I was very confused and he knows and no longer wants me. He told me I'm a whore, but I know I'am not. I believe a whore/**** sleeps around with men she doesn't know just cause she wants to. How can I fix this with the man I cheated on? This is the 1st time I've ever done this. I made many mistakes, but my ex walked back into my life wanting to work things out after not seeing him for 8 months. Need Advice not rude comments. How can I get the man I cheated on back in my life cos I do love him, I was just extremely confused on what I wanted.

Answer 1

I feel bad for you but it is still classed as betrayal and may take a lot to make it up to him. It is difficult. You have to imagine how you would feel if he had been with his ex and any ways which would decide for you to take him back.

Maybe when he has calmed down a bit, you could start writing letters to him - explain what a horrible mistake it was and how you cant imagine life without him. Whatever you do, don't try to blame him for anything (i.e not paying enough attention etc). Just be persistent if you want him back. If he doesn't respond after so long, you will have to move on

I wish you luck :)

Answer 2

What makes you think that it isn't going to happen again in the future. Everything is repairable, depends on how much you are prepared to commit to fixing the situation. We all make mistakes, but sometimes there are times when nothing can be done and you have no choice but to move on. Ask yourself how this guy became an ex in the first place. Things must not have been to rosy then or you would have never left him. A lot of us always want something better than we have until we realise what we had is as good as it gets, then it seems as though it is gone forever.

Answer 3

Very difficult, you must have been really confused and it is very hard. You're right you are not a whore and he has no right to call you that. He has no right to judge you either. It was a power trip for him pure and simple.
If you really want this man back then be honest with him, tell him you were confused, tell him that it is out of your system now and you know that it is him that you really want. You regret what you did and are sorry for hurting him. He won't forgive you straight away, but I hope through time he will, be patient with him and think how you would feel and react if he had done it to you.
Good Luck I wish you well.

Answer 4

Firstly, a whore is someone who has sex for money.

Secondly, I think it is a bit selfish to ask how you can get him back considering you heartlessly betrayed him.
Once is a mistake, and anybody can make a mistake, but 3 times is down right cruel.
You say you LOVE him, if you had any feelings for him at all, you would not have cheated with your ex.

The only thing you can do is to apologise to him sincerely, tell him you want him back, then walk away. The ball is firmly in his court as to whether he wants YOU back or not, not what you can do to get him back.

Sorry, but if he don't want you back,, there's nothing you can do about it..

Answer 5

Sit back and think carefully about what you want really and thruthfully then make your decision to get your ex back or not, be honest to him he has been hurt and betrayed not an easy think to have done to anyone, time is a healer use it, there is no advice that anyone can give in some respects though as the decision is only partly in your hands. Good Luck in obtaining your wish I hope you suceed and are happy

Answer 6

Wow.

You were confused... three times... and each time you were confused you went back.

You ARE asking a lot.

You may not be a whore but you have to look at it from his pint of view (have you as yet tried this - each time you 'chose' to betray him?) someone whom he was in love with, slept with someone else and could have passed on who know what to him (have you thought about that?).

I think that the least you can do is explain to him your motivation for cheating on him. And then be prepared to accept his judgement.

The odd thing is... he walked back into your life..? Were you not interested in making it up with him before he came back?

Answer 7

I'm not being rude, but I don't know how you can get him back as a boyfriend, call him and apologize, remember something from your past together and relive it, that's always romantic. You just have to let him know how sorry you are. But, you also have to think about how much you truly love him if you cheated on him. I can't guaranty anything, but it's worth a shot right.

Answer 8

Hei, its' a tough one darling,u did it all 2 urself, that's where then trust comes in here. C now ur bf is going 2 hav doubts about the relationship and please dont blame him, he has every reason to b. Just swallow ur pride my dear go to him, throw the bal at him and he wil know what to do with it.But plis b sure that u really do want hi darling and put urself in a sit whereby u wil accept whatever comes ur way... i mean (maybe)rejection. Gud luk hei

Answer 9

I honestly dont think there is a way for you to get him back. Even if he decided to get back with you, he would always be trying to keep you on check to make sure you werent out with anyone, your trust in your relationship would be complete destroyed which may make him paranoid and make him eventually cheat on you. maybe its best that you not be with him. maybe this is your second chance to be with your ex boyfriend.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, only time can solve your problem. You must show him that you can keep yourself loyal to him and no one else. It's tough, since the trust has been betrayed. But if he is Mr. Right, he'll hang around for you.