Despite my best efforts to educate her about not dating a black guy, she betrays me. Maybe I should just threaten to disown her. It's not something I want to restort to though. What do you think?
2007-02-13 05:07:50 · 111 answers · asked by Whatever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're scum! I don't live with my Dad, but if i had a Dad like you i'd be glad for yo to disown me!
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2007-02-13 05:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by Underpants. 2 · 28⤊ 8⤋
Let her make her own decisions, whether the out come will be good or bad. It will give her the freedom to make her own mistakes that she will learn grow from. Your job is and forever more is to love her, even though you don't agree on the same dating preference. If you give her "your: opinion on many things she won't listen. When there is nothing left to do or say, just give her your "unconditional" love and God will do the rest.
To "disown" her would only create space and time between you. That may never find its way back someday. Give it time and she will love you even "more" for the love and support your gave her.
I was this girl and I'm now 60 years old with 2 beautiful mixed daughters and I would have never made it without the love and support from my mother.
2007-02-14 10:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by bojeparish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean the dark side of the force?! You're just racist! Can't believe there are people out there like you. Your daughter deserves a better parent. Someone who can teach her what's really right and wrong.
2007-02-13 11:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by cube123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to find out why it bothers you so much her dating outside her race? We all have traces of biggotry and racism in us, whether it be we can't stand people who are over weight or have issues with the mentally challenged, most of choose not to voice it however in fear of being "politically incorrect"
I've dated 3 black men, all of which treated me with the respect I deserved and demanded. This was not easy for my father to accept since he was taught that this was taboo. He loves me and he accepted my choice because he trusted that I would make sure any man I dated was decent. He started to see outside of the color of their skin.
We all bleed the same color, we all have hurt, we all go through heart ache, what makes the color of someones skin so important to you?
As for disowning her, you're doing yourself a great injustice. You're doing yourself a great injustice by not allowing yourself to get to know this man who might just be the best thing that ever happened to her and treat her like the princess I know you want her to be.
Not that this will change your mind, but if you haven't already, go and rent the movie American History X, although it's fiction, it's very real. Hopefully you might be able to see there are more important things than keeping the race "pure".
2007-02-13 05:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real, or are you looking for antogonistic answers. Just for the record there is no difference between white and black skin - all are human beings with personalities. Get real. It's a case of your daughter disowning you rather than the other way round. Advise her to do so!
2007-02-13 05:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking the more you try to force her to see your point of view the farther she's going to go in the reverse. She has her own mind and her own ideas. It is not your place to tell her who to date, it is your place to love her unconditionally and even though you do not agree with her decisions, accept her for who she is. What's more important to you? Having a happy daughter (even if she ends up with a man of a different race) and being in her life, or a happy daughter that has nothing to do with you. If you threaten to cut her off, I have a feeling she will accept those consequences and go on with her life with out you. Open your mind and your heart. You just may learn something from her.
2007-02-13 05:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be to accept our children will basically do what they want to do when they are old enough to make their own choices. That being said, you must trust her to make decisions for herself. If dating a black man is good for her in her life right now, then why oppose it? As long as he treats her right, is not beating on her, and she enjoys him, that's all that matters. A lot of us spend our lives worried about what other people will think of how we live our lives and what we do that we miss out on the good things in life, the simple things like being happy. All that being said, I am a Black Woman,and I have nothing bad to say about your views, but your daughter learned somewhere down the line that "The Color of the Skin" doesn't matter, you should be proud.
2007-02-13 05:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by fglns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. Maybe she is just not racist. She can date whoever she pleases. Threatening to disown her will likely have very much the opposite effect you are probably hoping for. Wj hy does the colour of someone's skin mean so much to people like you???? You never once mentioned it he was a nice guy or if he made your sister happy!
2007-02-13 05:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Runa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here we go...I have a very good friend that dated and then married a black woman. They love each other and are good to each other. When he told his mother they were going to get married she said, "I don't want any *****r grandchildren" He said that was fine and you will never see them or me ever again. She came to her senses and loves the daughter in-law as much as her other daughters. True, it's hard for mixed couples but people are finally coming around. Would you disown her if she told you she was gay? You need to accept her for the person that she is. She is your daughter, love her! Good luck!
2007-02-13 05:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Luvatlanta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are really against interracial unions. One can only wonder why? You use very strong language, and the more you push her the more she will defy you and run into his arms faster. She may be very angry with you and be using this to hurt you.
And it seems it works. Relax on the issue, interracial unions are hard enough without meddling people. She may change her mind and choose someone else or she may be in love and see him for the person he is. I think can teach you something about the being a human being.
2007-02-13 05:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, you should disown her so she can be free from a racist like you.
Did you know that there is a way to trace your IP here? I guess you don't. I have it. And probably a lot of black people too. I wonder what is going to be in the news in a couple of days when you appear on it... hehe funny to think what they are going to do to you.
And yes, with your IP you can be traced to your house with a little help from your service provider. And if you are at work or school, even better as you will be in more trouble.
Gotta love computers.
2007-02-13 05:21:38 · answer #11 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋