I also think he feel trapped because I am soo dependant on him and all his friends are rooting for us to get married. He was a HUGE player in the past and everywhere we go he looks at other women. But I love him and he is the most handsome and charming man I have ever met. Ex: I walked in on him sleeping and he had this big smile on his face. I walked out and then came back in and it was replaced with a look like he was in pain. But yet he won't tell me how he's feeling and says I think too much. I just read an email to my fiance from his friend saying that he should not complain about me. What do I do to make him happy with me again ?
2007-02-13 05:06:26 · 16 answers · asked by Kendra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
anxiety, he misses having to be the player and attracting flocks of ladies. reminiscing old glories.
you can speak to him about your concerns and tell him how much he means to you in your life, and that you are supportive and will always be there for him. one time is enough so long as you make it stick in his mind.
bottom line: he has to work his way out of this mood cycle and move on. if he remains like this for a long period time, he may need more help than you know.
2007-02-13 05:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't. Love has to come from both sides to make it work and clearly he is not in love with you (sorry) and is depressed about the pressure he is receiving. He has obviously been complaining to his friend (the email) yet he won't talk to you about how he feels. Why are you so dependant on him? I think he wants to get out of the relationship because you also say that he is trapped. If he won't talk to you then quietly ask him if he wants to call things off and see what his reaction is. If he can't answer then you will know the score and it would be better if you ended the relationship for both of your sakes. You both have to be there emotionally for each other. I wish you luck for the future and hope you can find your independence and should you choose to move on then I hope you will find someone you can be happy with.
2007-02-13 05:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your dependence on him financial or emotional? If it's emotional, then start with that, stop making him feel that he is the center of your world, find a hobby, get in touch with old girlfriends of yours, do things that he has nothing to do with. Show him you're a strong person.
Stop asking him why he is miserable, if he truly is, that would make him even more miserable. If he's faking it for whatever reason, then he's bound to stop because he'll know that you really don't care and then he's going to sit you down and really tell you what is on his mind.
Stop giving him excuses to complain about you to anyone.
2007-02-13 05:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need 2 sit down and talk 2 him ask him where he thinks you and him will be in 6 months time if theres a look of horror on his face then run 4 the hills. i think his mates need 2 butt out and stop all the marrage talk he might feel pressured into doing something hes not ready to do .stick with him though. ive been through a similar think and i just bit my tounge most of the time. but if im worried about anything i ask whats up.
2007-02-13 05:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by showmethemoneygolddigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask him - you are saying what you think he is feeling - he could just be depressed because you are assuming what he thinks all the time. You have asked him what is wrong and he told you that you think too much - just relax and start enjoying the relationship and let him see the reason he went out with you in the first place
2007-02-13 06:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question - you are too dependant on him. Give him some space, stop demanding so much. Lay of him, let him have a bit of his life back. You are suppose to be his girlfriend not his mother. Sort your life out so you don't need him - make sure that you can support yourself - finacially and emotionally. Best of luck.
2007-02-13 05:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a bit of space to be his own person again. Be understanding and not too clingy. He'll other come through it with you or decide on a life without you - in which case it wasnt to be and better to find out sooner rather than later xxxxxx
2007-02-13 05:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not happy and it won't get any better. Sorry, but if you marry him; you will be dealing with his misery everyday, everyhour and it will work on your attitude.
Believe me, your not responsible for him being happy. That's his THING to deal with. So if you marry him, your going to be the bounce board of his misery and unhappiness and probably get blamed for it.
I know it's hard to do, but your probably better off finding someone happy and content and someone that will appreciate you for being you. Not somone that is going to find faults in you. That's no real love.
Real Love: Overlooking someones shortcomings and faults and love them for who and what they are.
2007-02-13 05:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur fiance is depressed, he should go for counselling. if u love him, be supportive and give him space to sort himself out. otherwise, u will end up in a miserable marriage and he will blame u for all his problems.if he's unhappy with u, he may want to end the relationship. if so, let him go. love is a 2 way street if u want to be happy. one sided love is a recipe for pain.
2007-02-13 10:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by rambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Break it off, go to counseling, find ways to obtain self esteem and move on. Be single for at least 2 years, try something new as often as possible and learn about your body.
2007-02-13 05:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋