My boyfriend and I have been living together for only about a month now. We had our first fight a couple of weeks ago and lately ive been finding texts on his phone with him flirting with other girls and we talked about it and hes going to work on this. But anyways, ive been getting irritated with him about little things (and vice versa). I was wondering, is that just from us adjusting to living together or is this a bad sign?
2007-02-13 05:00:41 · 4 answers · asked by michakitty87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Taking your relationship to the next level like moving in with each other takes a lot of adjusting. The thing is, that if he doesn't take your relationship serious now and he's still talking to other girls instead of making a serious commitment to you-chances are he never will. Put your foot down and don't give him a lot of "time" to work on his issues. A relationship is a partnership -you 2 need to be on the page.
2007-02-13 05:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never find out who a person really is until you have lived with them. All of the things that he does in the house with you now have gone unnoticed because up until 30 days ago you didn't have to deal with him on a 24/7 basis. I would have eased him into living with me if I were you. If you let him stay one or two nights a week his true colors will come out and you can decide from there whether or not getting an apartment together is a good idea. However, now that the deed is done, you have to accept his flaws and say nothing about them or sit him down and talk to him. You are doing things that he doesn't like too, most of the time the things we do not like about our BF/GF are brought up only when we fight and that can lead to a nasty break up later on down the road.
Him texting girls has nothing to do with him living with you and it is not because you had a fight! He was doing it when he had his own place because he knew he wouldn't get caught. Now that he lives with you he takes a chance thinking that he won't be caught.
I think that the more important question you should be asking him is how long he has been cheating. Text message is the best, most discreet way to communicate with a girl without getting caught. I bet he has been seeing someone for awhile now and if he isn't the thought is in his head. It is better that you address it now rather than waiting to find out and end up heart-broken!!!
2007-02-13 13:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad sign to me.
2007-02-13 13:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his butt out now..if hes already flirting- he'll be cheating soon enough if he hasn't already.
2007-02-13 14:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKatKarin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋