my boyfriend just told me he has a six month old baby. This happened before us, but i don't know if i still want to be with him.
2007-02-13 04:57:49 · 16 answers · asked by monique m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably didn't tell you because he was afraid you wouldn't want to be with him.
It is certainly your right to not want to be with him for the deception or even if you just don't want to be with someone who has a child. This is entirely your choice. You make the one you feel comfortable with. Some people do not want to be with people who have children that are not their own. It doesn't make them bad people. I am a single mom (engaged now), and I certainly didn't want to date someone who had a problem with me having a child. I was more pleased with their honesty.
He may also not have told you because he wasn't sure of the paternity of the child. I think you should ask him about this.
2007-02-13 05:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well where is this baby?? Im sure he was a bit fearful to bring it up afraid what your reaction would be. But ultimatley if you have only been dating for a short while (ie a month) then I would be a bit more receptive and understanding of him telling you. I mean he is just getting to know and trust you. But if you guys have been dating longer than that, than personally I would be feeling a bit upset. Now if your not wanting to be with him because he does have a baby, than tell him how you feel. Be open about it! Its completley understandable if you dont want to be involved. My advice would be express all your concerns and frustrations to him. See where it goes and it will help you come to a decision.
2007-02-13 05:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Fi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't want to scare you away at the beginning of the relationship, the fact that he is mentioning it now could signify he trusts you and wants to take your relationship to the next level.
Either that or he was worried you will find out from someone else so had to say something!
2007-02-13 05:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lyns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he thought that you were getting close and wanted you to know, he isn't going to share that with every woman that comes along so you should feel special!! you cant hate him for it. if he shared it with you take it in and ask him if you can help him out in any way.. on the other hand if you don't want kids walk away now and never look back!!!
2007-02-13 05:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DID tell you from what you just said. What does his having a baby have to do with you wanting to be with him? Think you may have to supply some more info.
2007-02-13 05:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. He may not be so sure about it either. It sucks to be hit with something so hard but it may be just the key to let him know your there for him or that you need to move on because your not ready to be tied down too tight yet.
2007-02-13 05:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
uhh guess what, he just told you... and second, if you're wondering why he didnt tell you earlier, its cuz he knew you would react that way (unsure if you want to be with him)... so pretty much just relax a little and dont be so hasty and think before you make any decisions ok?
2007-02-13 05:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mark F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
will it chance the way he feels about you??? but anyway he should have told you..dont just stop the relationship you havent even given it a shot yet...see how it turns out..maybe he didnt want to tell you because he thought you would freak out???
2007-02-13 05:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if your wondering why he did ent tell you he might not have told you because he just found out. but if your wondering if you want to break up with him or not then think about if your uncomfortable and if you are break up with him.
2007-02-13 05:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by pessimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't tell you because he didn't want to hurt you. and he probably thought you would leave him. that happened to me before and i ended up leaving him alone. it was too hard for me. and also, if he lied about his own child, he'd lie about anything!
2007-02-13 05:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋