I caught him last year saying explicite sexual things to women on line. He said he'd stop by I can tell he's looking up other website that you can use your phone on etc. I want to confront him because this makes me sad - but in another way he doesn't go out so he's not cheating. We've lived together for 9 years and are getting married next year. Should I just let it be - I have also snooped on his cell phone so I think maybe this is the reason why he's found other ways to get in touch with women (I'm assuming they are women - otherwise why would he hide it?) Am I bad for still suspecting? In all ways he's such a wonder guy - and we're not exactly kids either. Thanks for your messages - and I particularly hope there are guys out there that answer this....
2007-02-13 04:47:37 · 13 answers · asked by moonchild 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, he's having sexually explicite conversations with women over the internet and im'ing and you think it's not cheating because he didn't touch them? Guess what, that is cheating!! And that makes him a not so wonderful guy.
Don't you deserve better?
2007-02-13 04:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off.....you've been living together for 9 years and you're still not married? For God's sake WHY???? Why has your boyfriend of 9 years not asked you to marry him yet?????
Second......why is your boyfriend of 9 years looking for excitement elsewhere? There is a reason why married men and men in long term relationships seek thrills and excitement elsewhere. Because they're BORED!
Third, what kind of a guy wants to be with a woman that is snooping through his email, snooping on his cell phone, and always suspicious of what he does?
Too many times I read questions from suspcious wives and girlfriends about what their husbands and boyfriends might be up to behind their backs, when THEY have the power to change all that! I find it absolutely amazing that the same women who think that their husbands should be satisfied with sex once or twice a month are the same women complaining that their husbands are looking at online porn or chatting with other people. As I have said so many times before.....I don't know of very many husbands that would choose online porn and adult chat over hot steamy sex with their wives 2-3 times a week!
2007-02-13 04:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is cheating... cybersex is still cheating. Just because he hasn't met her (or him) face to face does not mean he isn't performing a sexual act with the aid of someone else.
You've lived together for nine years and are just getting around to getting married? If he's taken this long to ask you, dump him. He's cheating on you, even if it is through the Internet, and he already has a history of saying explicit things to other women on line.
I hate to say this the day before Valentine's Day, but he needs to be shown the door (or if it is his place, pack your things and find somewhere new to live and someone better to be with).
Your age doesn't matter (not being exactly kids). You shouldn't have to settle for someone just because you've passed some benchmark. I'm 46. I met my wife when I was 44, got engaged at 44, and married at 45 (first time for both of us). I didn't settle for her, I lucked out!
2007-02-13 04:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I couldn't be with a guy who is being even unfaithful to me in the cyber world. I had an ex who did it. I let it go the first time, because he promised it wouldn't happen again and he said it was just curiosity (problem was it was really creepy stuff). He did it again and I let him go. I would rather be alone than be with someone I cannot trust. If you are okay with what he does, that is fine for you. It is really about our own comfort zones. For me it couldn't work and I am now engaged to a man whom I can trust.
2007-02-13 04:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN
He is not giving you his best, and you deserve nothing less. If he is cheating on line now it will be in real life eventually. The line has been crossed and can not be uncrossed. If he saw nothing wrong with what he did he has already started down a slope that will end in him being alright actually hooking up with other girls.
2007-02-13 04:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but just the fact that he is emailing these women and talking about sex to them even if he's not actually touching them is just as bad!! why would you want to stay with someone who is disrespecting you and hurting you and totaly direguarding your feelings?? he hides things from you he lies to you, what more is it going to take for you to open your eyes?? please stop thinking you have to live this way just because you feel you won't find anyone else!!! you are a good woman who deserves to be loved and respected and treated right!! please go to him and tell him this behavior will end or the two of you are done!! you deserve better!!!
2007-02-13 04:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is out there talkin to these women trust me if one sparks his interest enough he'll cheat from my own experience conforntin him will only make im find new ways of doin it if he sees it as harmless and u do then mayb ur not ready to get married after all try talkin to him if he refuses to stop u have a choice to make is his love 4 u that strong
2007-02-13 04:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello moonchild how are you other than not being able to trust him whow im a male dear i love you ladies verymuch but if you cant trust him with out having doubts about other women dont take the plunge to get married to gim them because odds are that he has been cheating all along
2007-02-13 04:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by harold g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think only you can answer this one! If you think he's doing that, and you also consider it cheating, then why would you still be thinking of marrying him? Personally, I could never build a relationship with someone that I couldn't trust!
2007-02-13 04:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by justanotherday 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it fairly is basically to extraordinary. WTF is he thinking? likely he wasn't thinking in any respect. If he replace into he would not disrespect you in considered one of those way. possibly this time - permit it circulate - yet be sparkling which you do no longer take excitement in being taken care of this way. If it happens returned? i do no longer even comprehend the thank you to respond. you would be able to evaluate staring at WTH he's been writing on facebook.
2016-11-03 08:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋