I commute 55 miles one way to work and it takes me an hour to get home at night. I don't have the ability to change my work hours so I don't get home until 5:30 - 5:45pm every night. My bf hates the fact that I get home so late. He says it's a wasted evening. What can I do?
2007-02-13 04:47:06 · 8 answers · asked by sher2003bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off, does he work?
If YES: he should be more supportive of you since he knows work pays the bills. you got your own responsibilites besides him.
If NO: what a bum, does he not have any responsibilites of his own other than to complain about your responsibilities?
second, did he know about your work hours when you first met?
you need to remind him. sometimes more than once per week, some people are like children.
dont hang around with a non-supportive person if he cant see your life is with responsiblities that is not to his approval.
2007-02-13 04:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, does your boyfriend even have a job? Does he realize that most of the workforce works the typical 9-5 schedule which would put them home probably about the time you get home or possibly a little later. I live 10 miles from my former job and it still took me between 30-45 minutes to get home depending on traffic. The fact that you can make a 55 mile commute in an hour is amazing to me. I used to work retail and didn't get off work until 6pm most nights. Two nights a week I wasn't getting off work until 9pm. My husband wasn't happy with the fact I wasn't getting home until nearly 10, but he understood that I had no control over my hours. I now have the more normal hours and get home around 5pm. My husband doesn't get home till around 6:30 or 7. So what? We still manage to spend quality time together in the evenings. We have to work because we have responsibilites - that is just the way of life. Believe me 5:30-6pm getting home from work is NOT late. That is the time when most people get home. Tell him to grow up and suck it up. Unless he plans on getting a job paying him enough to support the both of you and cover all of your living expenses so you can quit your job, tell him to stop whining.
2007-02-13 12:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you have thought about this one but is moving an option?
Why do you have to work so far off, can you move a little closer to your work so that he can drive for 30 minutes to home and you can do the same.
If both of you are really in love and wanna be together, think of some positive solutions as well. Its easy to break-up or think he is a pig but end of the day he wants to spend more time with you which cannot be that bad a thing. No?
2007-02-13 05:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell, I don't get home until 7PM. So what? Then again, I work 8-6 (on a 9-80 schedule).
Is he waiting for you to cook dinner? Why is this hour a problem? If it is the dinner thing, tell him to get his lazy butt off the couch and learn to cook.
I wish I could get home while the sun was still up. I guess I'll wait until April.
Oh, even though I get home later I do most of the cooking, and believe me, no one questions my masculinity. Why do I cook? I happen to enjoy it!
2007-02-13 05:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the guys on this one. Tell him to stop being so selfish because he is obviously not the only person in the relationship. It's not like you are out partying it up with the girls, you are at work for goodness sake, and if he can't get over that then find someone else because he sounds a little controlling, and that is never good.
2007-02-13 04:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Chenielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do a thing.He needs to grow up! Why did'nt you write,My bf is so concerned about my having to drive so far after working so hard all day.Because he does'nt care. Its ALL about him.Ask him why he finds it so difficult to entertain himself until you're home.Is he waiting for you to come home to cook for him?Or does he cook for you? 5:30 and 5:45 is'nt even night time yet.Still afternoon.There's an old Janet Jackson song that says "what have you done for me lately?"Make sure not to apologize for your life.He should be sympathetic not jealous.
2007-02-13 05:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by dwild52 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Dalab.. either he should support you and look after all your needs or keeps his mouth shut
2007-02-13 04:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to marry you and make you a housewife, otherwise get over it
2007-02-13 04:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by DaLab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋