i was told (get this ) by my fiance that i am not a good father or a real man ? but about a week ago and way before that she said that i was a great father and she also wanted to have a child with me, does that make sense ? all this started on monday when she called to tell me that i should apoligze to her because i sad that monday was not a holiday and she said it was and i said who cares it's not something to call me at work to tell me, then she say that a real man will apoligze and take blame and i am not a role modle for mey 10year old son oh yea she is 33 and i am 37
2007-02-13 04:13:50 · 7 answers · asked by GRUNT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, this woman is not very mature. I don't mean to sound rude, but why would you want to marry someone who treats you this way? She is calling you at work for something stupid, then she is telling you that you are not a man because you wouldn't apologize for something that really did not require an apology. She is berating you and attempting to emasculate you with put-downs as to your manhood and your ability to parent your son. If it is like this BEFORE you get married, well, you have just a small taste of what it will be like once you say "I do". These are red flags here, and I think you should see them as that and act accordingly. You should not be treated that way. I too am engaged and I would never dream of talking to my fiance that way. She needs to grow up.
2007-02-13 04:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont understand what that argument had to do with your parenting skills - I'm sure you are a terrific father -
I'm not trying to be rude but that women does not sound very mature to go off on you like that for no reason.
IF you plan on spending your life together you should both sit down and have a very long talk about whatever it is that is going on in your lives.
Take the blame when you are actually at fault not because you want to please her.
2007-02-13 13:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are dealing with someone who is emtionally immature and that is a mess waiting for a place to happen. I am 33 and have never done this in my life and would die of embarrasment if I ever did.
Take a step back, she really wanted to hurt you and by bringing your son in the issue was a little manipulative. Does she have children? Can she truly speak about child raising? Do you really see a future with someone who can build up and break you down because they can’t handle their emotions.
2007-02-13 13:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. What does that have to do with being a father? If she gets all upset about something like that and attacks your parenting skills for no apparent reason, it makes me think there's some underlying issues there. Maybe you 2 need to have a good talk before getting married.... just a suggestion.
2007-02-13 12:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ivo Rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what that argument had to do with your parenting skills. Do you feel that you are doing everything you can to make the best life for your child? then you are a good father. You don't have to be perfect or right all the time. And don't listen to her. It is wrong for her to bring your child up in any argument she has with you.
2007-02-13 12:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by kayaress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Monday was Lincoln's Birthday, but then everyday is somebody's birthday...if your employer dosen't give you the day off it's not much of a holiday...sounds like a silly argument.
2007-02-13 12:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that is a ridiculous fight. I wouldn't marry anyone that flaky.
2007-02-13 12:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋