My daughter is 1 and b4 i had her i was more or less kicked out of church everyone let it be known they didn't want my kind(single and pregnant) in their church. After i had my daughter everyone was telling me i need to get that baby into church. I didn't feel comfortable taking her to the nursery for someone else to take care of while i sat out with other adults that didn't accept me or even want me to be there.I just don't want to go to that church i'd rather stay home with my daughter than go to a church that codemns people who have made mistakes. Should i feel that way towards the church people in my community?
2007-02-13 04:01:27 · 22 answers · asked by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I got pregnant with my daughter i was 20 i had sex without being married. Yes i made a mistake. and i've delt with that. That is all there is to it. I was told that i wasn't wanted at church anymore thats basically the whole story.
2007-02-13 04:18:14 · update #1
Stop wasting your time on church, this goes to show you that religious people are hypocritical. This would happen at any church you go to. They speak that we should love one another, yet if you're one of them and you make a mistake you get judged and condemned in their eyes. This or they drag you in front of the church and make you speak your sins for all to hear, then you'll be looked even more down on. You can do a better job raising your kid without these creeps.
2007-02-13 04:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by poseidenneptune 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I am a Christian.
I am so sorry this happened to you! It's a shame that some churches, who are filled with sinners, treat someone that way.
Honey, don't let this keep you from seeking out fellowship. Check out a non denominational church. I am a member of one, and we don't cast stones at anyone.
There's a church there for you. Pray and ask God to open doors for you to find the place He wants you to belong to.
And, don't give up on our Father. He gave you this child. Your daughter is a gift, a most treasured gift. You are blessed to have her.
I was an unwed mother at 17. I didn't know Christ at that time, but looking back, I sure wish I had, and had support of other believers.
There's a place out there for you. I found it. You can too.
2007-02-13 04:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dianne C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go in front of the whole church and tell them how you feel about what they did, because what I found out is that people sometimes do not know how they treated you hurts you. So first, talk to them and if they seem like they do not care and still hold that thing you did against you and you are thinking of leaving that church, then I will say pray to God and He will lead you to either stay or go to a new church that will accept you for who you are, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO THAT IS WRONG.
2007-02-13 04:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have every right to feel hostility towards "Christ-Like" people who condemn and ostracise people who make mistakes.
They want you back now, because they want your daughter to be saved. In their twisted logic, they are doing her a favor. If I were you, I would consider whether you really want your daughter to be treated in the same manner that you were treated. As a father myself, I went through a very similar situation. I chose not to return to church because I don't want people like that influencing my kids. I want my kids to grow up happy and not overly critical of people. A majority of the Christian churches that I have attended, were judgemental and unforgiving. Its just the way they are, so sending my kids to church to learn that type of behavior goes against my moral responsibilities as a father.
Don't feel guilty, go with your heart. If God is real, he will provide something else for you. The fact that his "children" kicked you out in your time of need, either tells you something about the nature of God, or tells you that those weren't his children. Either way, I believe you have a responsibility to keep your daughter away from it all.
2007-02-13 04:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am sorry to hear that. You should find another church, a good bible teaching church, and do raise your daughter to know the Lord- I mean is that important to you? There are other churches who would NOT treat you this way. I mean some handle it wrong. But God knows if your heart was repentent back then and you knew wrong from right--and it is good to have people pray with you and fellowship with you- God wants us to have fellowship with other believers- because it is spritiual food, to study His word. That is how he teaches us and keeps us grounded in His truth.
Maybe you could look for another church? Or women's bible study? I love women's bible study, you can open up to everyone and have people praying for you and holding you accountable.
What church was this that you went to?
2007-02-13 04:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not lump all the Church people together...
1st Lets be honest you are quilty of fornication
2nd the Church's job is to lead you to repentance NOT isolation
Your BOTH wrong
Find a Church that preachs sin AND forgivness that loves the sinner but hates the sin.
2007-02-13 04:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by williamzo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a different church. My church would never treat someone this way. Some people do stupid things in the name of religion.
Just know that you are forgiven by the only one who counts.
2007-02-13 04:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
((((hugs to you))) I'm so sorry that people have treated you that way.
I think you have a right to feel hostile and hurt. My advice is to really examine it.. feel it completely and then let it go.. not for their sake, but for yours.
Then, when you feel you've healed enough, search for a place where you can feel at home. Take it slowly..trust is built over time. Visit a few different churches that adhere to your beliefs. When you find the one that you feel most welcome, you'll be glad you took the time to check it out. Both you and your daughter will be better off for it.
Many blessings on your path..
Kallan
2007-02-13 04:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kallan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feeling hostile will do you no good, it can even make you physically ill. Jesus is my church and the people who believe in him are the members of the church, you can go to him anytime, anywhere. There are many who say they are Christian and are not, some get lost in their own self righteousness. Try chatting on NotReligion.com, they are believer who do not go down the street to a building to go to church. It isn't anyone Else's place to judge you, a baby is the bestest blessing from God that anyone can receive. I will pray for you and your baby.
Peace and Love
2007-02-13 04:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Angelz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have to feel that way. My church is learning to accept people as they are. If a church doesn't accept you, move on to another one....when you find the right one you'll feel at home. I'll pray you find the right one.
2007-02-13 04:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋