girlfriend problems??

Question

me and my gf are on a 2 week break.we are both confused about how we feel but i think i still like her and i dont want to do the ''just friends'' crap, but i dont want to start falling for her and get hurt and i dont know how she feels because i said no contact ans she agreed maybe it will be easier if i just ended it now but.... i dont know help??

btw we dont think its working right now at the begin we were mad for each other but now we arent how do i get back wat we had

Answer 1

Gonna need more information, particularly on why you are on a two week break. Did something happen (like a specific event, a bad fight, etc.) or it's just a feeling you are both having (bored with each other, etc.)?

Whenever you come to a point like this in the relationship, you have to ask yourself if you really want this person in your life as your girlfriend. Up until now, how did you feel about having her as a girlfriend? Satisfied emotionally, physically, spiritually? Or something important was missing? Because as much as you love someone, if something is missing and what is missing is important to you, you're doing both yourself and her a great disservice. Everyone deserves to be with someone who ... completes them, as cheesy as that sounds, and it's better to be out there finding that someone than staying with someone who doesn't quite fufill your wants and needs, who doesn't really help you grow as a person.

I would suggest after your two weeks of break to really sit down and talk about what's going right with your relationship and what's not quite working. Perhaps it's just miscommunication or you just haven't vocalized what you want and need. It's really sad how people who are great together end up breaking up because they just didn't talk about what they wanted and needed from the other person.

It probably won't be easier if you ended now, as it seems like you have some issues to resolve first. And while it's good to protect yourself from being hurt, sometimes that hurts you. Let me explain that. You hold back in a relationship to prevent from being hurt, but because you held back, your relationship didn't work out or whatever, so that hurt you. In love, you have to be brave, and risk something of value (your heart) in order to get the kind of love you want. If it doesn't work out, don't dwell on the fact that you did all this stuff and it didn't work, but realize that you laid it all out, you gave it everything you had and you have no regrets about it. That will help you to move on, if need be.

Best of luck with everything!

Answer 2

Well taking a break, and not really talking about it, is not such a good idea!

i reckon you should sit down, and talk about why you are on a break.

Before you do this though, you need to have a think to yourself, and be brutally honest to yourself about how you really feel about this girl, and do you want to be with her!
If the answer is yes, then you need to get it together and sort through your problems as a couple, together.
If the answer is no, then you need to stop it niw before someone gets hurt!!

Good luck!

Answer 3

ok well if u love her ur gonna have to break the rules about no contact.... i know what u mean with the friend zone thing to....i am in it right now me and my boyfriend anr taking a break to and i still love him.....just call her tall her ulove her and u made a mistaake by taking a break with her cuz u cant stand not being with her all the time.......say something like i pray more for u than i do myself... thats how much i love u babe.....this should help.........toodles

Answer 4

Give it time but if the feelings are gone there's no going back. Sorry

Answer 5

get you and her copies of 'Mars & venus on a Date' by John grey and read them.. it will help both of you understand why you are feeling the way you do.

Answer 6

While you and her need get together talk about this problem