I'm 32 and he's 36, not like we're kids, but they are conservative Catholics and very pro-marriage. I believe in marriage, but I also believe that living together is a good way to find out if it's for me. I love my boyfriend very much and it feels right. My boyfriend feels the same way.
2007-02-13 03:46:50 · 12 answers · asked by Ailama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
make ur boyfriend tell them that u r moving in together
2007-02-13 03:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You state that you are 32, and your boyfriend 36 yrs. old? You both are old enough to decide what you are going to do with your lives, and if living together, before marriage is your decision,, then no one has the right to tell you other wise. I know how some Parents are, I am a Mother of seven kids all married and family of their own. Two of my Daughters divorced their Husbands because they cheated on them, and one of them had two kids so, in the passing of time she found someone,she fell in love with.But, she did not want to marry him because of the experience she had with her husband. I did not like it at all, but, I came to the conclusion that she had her own life to live and if she decided to do whatever made her happy, I am behind her all the way. I hope that your Parents understand the decision you and your boyfriend made and I wish you the best.
2007-02-13 04:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter how old you are, you will always be your parent's child.
If you are so pro-marriage, why not just get married. Living together is a whole different situation than being married. You will not learn what your boyfriend is like by living with him. He will be on his best behavior in order to not lose you.
If you truly love your boyfriend, you will figure out how to deal with difficulties after you are married.
2007-02-13 04:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living together is not the same as being married, living together is not a serious commitment on either part and someone can just walk away. but then at your age go ahead and do it ,tell your parents by dropping hints about looking for a place together. then look, then look some more always tell ing them that you two are looking for a place, then when the summer is here it will not be a total shock to the old cult being folks and cause them a heart attack
2007-02-13 03:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them and explain yourself like you did just now. Your parents must understand that it is your life and they have to respect your decisions, weather they agree with them or not.
It may not be easy but do what's right for you. Take strength form the fact that you believe in what you are doing and don't let anyone else bring you down. That's what being a grown up is all about.
2007-02-13 04:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the end it’s your life to choose what to do with it. But of course don’t expect your parents to be jumping for joy over you guys moving in together. The only rules I would abide by in terms of this living together situation are your parents’ rules when you stay at their house. I have been dating my boyfriend for quite a while and until we are married we are not allowed to sleep in the same bed at her house. Although this may seem a little ridiculous when you are in your 30’s, it is their house and you should respect the rules of the house.
As a final thought…. Did you know the possibility of marriage goes down by 83% when you live together first?
2007-02-13 03:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them your moving in together to see how things go. Kind of a test ride, for lack of a better term. And if things work out you will eventually marry.
I'm in the same situation now, Good luck
2007-02-13 03:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy12oz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until right before it occurs. Being the realist that I am, it's still several months away and much can happen in that time. No reason to get everyone stirred up now, especially if the situation should change for some reason.
2007-02-13 03:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you think you could marry this guy- don't shack up with him.
It is a proven fact that couples who have sex and/or shack up before marriage are MORE LIKELY to get divorced.
Men don't shack up with women they love and respect. Men shack up with unpaid hookers.
Love and respect yourself enough to be married. Then you can live with your HUSBAND.
2007-02-14 15:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 32 and you need to tell your parents? Say what? Dear, they apparently have some sort of Svengali-like hold over you because frankly, at your rather advanced age if you cannot stand up and tell them (why should you even have to at your age?) then you have a maturity problem and apparently desperately need your parent's approval. Past time to grow up!
2007-02-13 03:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Hey mom and Dad I'm moving in with my boyfriend over the summer". That should get the conversation started.
2007-02-13 03:53:13 · answer #11 · answered by justin_49ers2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋