how do you potty train a child who cant talk?

Question

my son is 2 years old.. i cant keep a diaper on him to save my soul. the other day he took his diaper off and pooed in his room. on the carpet. it was a big mess and i didnt get upset with him because i didnt know if this is a sign i need to start potty training. my son cant talk and he cant tell me when he's wet and he cant pull his pants up and down. he takes intrest in his potty, and our potty, he likes to flush to toliet and he likes to sit on his potty (naked) we do this before tubby if he wants to its his choice) and he reads books but he doesnt go. i am about ready to duct tape the diaper to him.. lol i just really dont know what to do about this anymore he cant talk at all and is going for a developmental assessment to see if he has any thing wrong with him he may just be really slow too... the only thing he can say is "go" and "no" "dadda" "mamma" very basic. anyways if someone could help me i would appriciate it. thank you!

as for pulls up's yes we tried this. doesnt work. and we have a developmental test coming up for those who didnt take prior notice to that situation he may be autistic spectrum. he chews everything in sight he cant talk no he is not deaf or mute he says a few words and so he isnt mute and trust me u make a noise he is there in a second to investigate. he has amazing gross and fien motor skills it's just the communication and social skills that are lacking.

Answer 1

LOL...I really don't mean to laugh but, welcome to my world...btw, duct tape does work...lololol my son is 3 yrs old and has down syndrome he takes off his diaper all the time and it is by no means pleasant...I know what you are going through. I am so happy to hear that you are taking your son in for an assessment, his development seems a bit slower than the norm..please don't take that the wrong way! it is just that he is at about the same level as my son in development, once he is assessed they will be able to set up a plan to get him the help he will need, if only for a short time until he catches up. as for the diapers...use the duct tape it works, mine knows now how to pick at it to get it off so we ended up wrapping it all the way around him. another option, though it didn't last long for us is get some little boy underwear that is a bit small and put it on over the diaper, that actually might work better for you than the duct tape because your son doesn't take his clothes off...unfortunately mine does, so we have no other choice. hope this helps and good luck

Answer 2

2 year olds should be able to say pee-pee and poop or other similar words that you choose. So pick some and use them. If he really can't or doesn't talk more than 10-15 words, you might want to talk to your Dr. about that. Also, a good sign that he is ready to potty train is when he can take stairs one foot at a time instead of one foot up and then the other foot on the same stair baby style. When he can (even holding your hand) walk up and down stairs like grown ups, he has the muscle control for potty training.

Answer 3

Why can't he talk? Is he deaf or mute? If so he should be learning sign language almost a year ago. Sorry I just noticed the last part. Honestly my husband learned when his grandma made his sit there until he went, now days people say that's wrong but he was potty trained at 10months, so what can I say. Just work with him, don't duct tape as it would irritate the skin, just bring him to the potty every half hour until he goes it it. Just be very persistant with it and make sure to reward him for going in the potty.

Answer 4

I would wait for the testing to be done before getting too excited. It may be he doesn't have to talk or he just doesn't want to. Have you tried pullups so he can pull them up and down? this may help. Or how about training panties. I know it is t=frustrating and all kids are at this age, some more than others. So, just be patient and maybe watch the nanny to see what she does in these cases. There may be some reading material and I would certainly have my questions written down for this appointment, I know it is costing a lot and taking a lot of time and I would want all my concerns addressed, don't leave anything out. You will be nervous so write them down, please. Be prepared to take advantage or this knowledge. Ask for materials to help you, where you can get them and what they reccomend. This will be a big help to you and take all the help you can get when it is available. Good luck to you and your precious boy. He will learn, he sounds curious and willing, just maybe not right now and not as soon as you'd like. But, I feel he eill learn on his own. Good luck, love is coming your way.

Answer 5

I have a 1 year old daughter. I introduced the potty at 11 months. She has only used it several times though. Its a good idea to sit your child on the potty about 10-15 minutes after he eats. The thing is to be consist ant. Don't make it his choice-bad move! Make it fun for him so he doesn't know what your up to. My daughter knows how to wash and dry her hands and can brush her 8 teeth! Children develop at different ages. As far as him not talking- do read to him? I have always made time to read to my daughter and we do not talk-baby talk. It really helps. If you have done everything you can think of then you should have him evaluated.Don't give up- it's hard. Remember- consistency is the key! Good luck!! :)

Answer 6

He might not be able to talk but I'm sure at 2 he understands the things you say and your actions. Start potty training him. First start off by noting what times of the day he is wet and when he has bowel movements. After that sit him on the pot around those times and dont let him get up until he goes. Your gonna have to sing dance read books do anything but its worth it. When he goes make the hugest deal ever. Me and my daughter run around the house, we jump on the couch and every thing sing you pee peed you pee peed. But even though he cant talk hell realize by your reaction that peeing is a good thing and he will want to recreate that silly activity. Just remember make potty tim e party time so he will look forward to it. The words will come just like he learned ma ma from seeing you enough he will learn potty. Good luck

Answer 7

I would start by letting him know and be comfortable saying and knowing what the potty is. Then when he can see it and say potty like he does when he sees Dadda,momma etc. then get more into it but trying to teach him how to use something he knows nothing about is setting him up to fail and setting yourself up for disappointment. I got my daughter to go potty by buying one and just having it out where she could see, then when I would go potty she would want to go and just sit there, most of the time fully dressed. After she was comfortable with sitting on it I started taking her every hour and pretty soon she learned the feeling of having to go and I learned the face of her having to go. She was fully trained by 20 months and now her little sister is 18 months and is just now getting to where she will say potty when she has to go.(sometimes:)) But all kids are different and take longer or shorter time to become comfortable with the idea of a potty. GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU!

Answer 8

can you potty train a child with severe brain damage he is always taking hi diaper off duct tape don't work anymore nore does clothes he removes everything he is 5 years old with obstructive hydrocephalus epilepsy and a biotindase disorder which also makes him eat his own poop such a mess have noticed last week he stood up in his crib and held his pepe an peed out of the crib he has the mental status of a infant and can not talk or walk on his own he is wheelchair bound

Answer 9

hes not ready to potty train some kids arent specially boys until age three. use shirts that snap at the crotch and pants and never let him pout of your sight. the duct tape will work reall good too and dont worry it wont harm him in any way we did this with my son at 18 month until he was out of diapers it works. pampers makes a diaper you can pull up called easy ups read the weight on the size he currently wears and buy that in the easy up these worked great with my son too

Answer 10

Allow your child to be present when you go to the bathroom and make your child feel comfortable in the bathroom. Allow your child to see urine and bowel movements in the toilet. Let your child play with flushing the toilet.

Before toilet training your child, place a potty chair in your child's normal living and play area so that your child will become familiar with the potty. Consider placing a potty chair on each floor of the house if you live in a multilevel home. Allow your child to observe, touch and become familiar with the potty chair.

Tell your child that the potty chair is his or her own chair. Allow your child to sit fully clothed on the potty chair, as if it were a regular chair. Allow your child to leave the potty chair at any time. Do not force your child to spend time sitting on the chair.

After your child has become used to the potty chair and sits on it regularly with his or her clothes on, try having your child sit on the potty without wearing pants and a diaper. Let your child become comfortable with sitting on the potty without wearing pants and a diaper.

The next step is to show your child how the potty chair is used. Place stool from a dirty diaper into the potty chair. Allow your child to observe the transfer of the bowel movement from the potty chair into the toilet. Let your child flush the toilet and watch the bowel movement disappear down the toilet.