i am 17, when i was 11 my bro went to jail, when i was 12 my dad was threatening to kick me out of the house, and from when i was 11 to 16 my bro was in the psych ward 6 or 7 times for different reasons--most included violent behavior, cutting, or suicidal intetntions/threats. when i was 15 i was drinking ALOT at least 3 times a week, i was smoking, and i was really really depressed and i cut myself pretty much every day. and i would up being admitted to the psych ward as well because of several instances of suicidal thoughts, and intentions. when i was 16, my other brother who was 18 and severely handicaped, died. now i am 17 and my mom is in the psych ward because she checked out mentally and wanted to kill herself and was constantly making comments about suicide.
i don't have any friends, because i feel like the people my age don't really understand me, and i have nothing in common with them. all the teenagers talk about is boys and boys and boys. and while physically, yes, i AM
2007-02-13 03:42:26 · 12 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
17 years old, I feel like I have had a lot more experiences than them, which has made me feel older and act older. Coz face it, I was forced to grow up at age 11. So I have nothing in common with the kids my age, but yet I am not out of school so anyone older than me really won’t talk to me either.
So I am kind of stuck.
And it has been that way since I was 11.
What should I do? Should I face the fact that I really can’t change the fact that my life is screwed up, and that for at least another year I am not going to have any friends?
I don’t really talk to anybody about anything, I just go about my day, I go to work, put on a smile, come home, act happy, then when I get tired I climb in bed and cry.
There has got to be a better way than this, hasn’t there?
2007-02-13 03:42:42 · update #1
i am homeschooled, so i have no guidance counselor. and 2) i have 8 pets that i need to take care of, so i can't go stay somewhere else.
2007-02-13 03:52:09 · update #2
i've had a church since i was born, but i hate going because 1) i hate it, and 2) because i have no friends there.
2007-02-13 03:53:32 · update #3
oh and by the way, i wasn't smoking pot, i was just smoking cigarettes. i never did drugs. i was in posession before, because my bro was a druggie and i just took some of his heroin. but i never did anything.
2007-02-13 03:54:54 · update #4
Yes..there is much more. It is just that you have not had the chance to see the better side. You are right, you have had to grow up fast. But it is time to start to grow up happy...you can do it. Get to a counselor. Therapy does not have to be the psych ward. A good therapist is like a really good friend. You can talk to them you have many issues to deal with, and they can help put you on the right path. It sounds like you have not had to many people you can depend on in your life. Find one and go from there. Also you can look for support groups in your area. Survivors of family violence, etc. There are options. You are an amazing person to hold it together this long....do not give up now.
2007-02-13 03:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a better way. Depression is treatable so see a doctor and get your depression treated so you can get on with your life. Consider joining a club or group so you get out a bit and if you haven't consider going to a friendly church once in a while why not try a couple churches out even if you are not a real stong believer. You may find that it helps in one way or another and it is a place where you can go and ease your mind. Do you have a relative nearby that would let you spend time at their house for a while each week? The key is to find some place or something to do for a while to just help you take your mind off of things where you are away from all of the problems at home. Do get your probable depression treated though.
2007-02-13 03:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Checking your self into a psyche ward may be very frightening. Instead of that, why not try talking to a counselor. If you are still in school they should have a psychiatrist and counselor that you could talk to. They may also have resources of counselors that you can talk to outside of school. I also found that making friends outside of highschool is much easier, people are more mature.
2007-02-13 03:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother died, my stepdad tried to kill me, and he almost did, my mom lost millions of dollars, my sister is a drug addict and is Schizophreniac, also tried to kill me, my brother is a sever gambler, just yesterday I almost died because I fell in a frozen lake and the ice broke, came back home and my hand and my legs were so blu it was almost black, I have bad grades in school because these teachers hate me, I have also no friends becuase they say I am fat (If I would show you my picture you would probably think otherwise, because I am absolutely Not fat. They are just some poor motherfuckers who dont have money to eat) I get bullied all the time, and all the time I beat those ******* heads up they just dont give up, been stabbed, 3 times, still not dead bitches. My stepdad cheats on my mom. That ****** stole my money and more than that. I just broke both my knees doing snowboard.
2007-02-13 03:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Except for your family's problems, every teenager has thoughts like you. We all have been through them, but most of us don't act out on them (like drinking, smoking pot and cutting).
You are crying out for help, so get some. Talk to an adult you trust (maybe an aunt, uncle, guidance counselor) and they WILL help you.
2007-02-13 03:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please, try to e-mail me at just_1_cat yahoo
then you can begin to see how many things we do have in common, the situations are different, the feeling the same. i've felt so isolated for my whole life too. it's like being able to love, and care and feel for others, but .....for reasons neither can describe, maybe the understanding of just feeling so lost without anyone to just take time,,,,,,, we both know well. i'll show you my blog......maybe it'll be helpfull, if only to know someone was there a head of you. i'm 45, things do change in time. we'll just listen, toeach, other.
2007-02-13 04:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by michelle c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all teen talk about boys, they have there troubles as well you just have to get to no them and ask. And there is always someone you can talk to, i no out of all my friends I'm the one that they call at 3am just to cry and it makes them feel better!! SO find someone that you can trust and talk to them to let everything out! it helps... that's want i did when i needed help... just b/c i was the one that everyone ran to don't mean that i didn't have problems of my own.
2007-02-13 03:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find a counselor.internet counsellor,social org counsellor.combine advice will be better for you to decide.In your age you are quite brave enough to live your life like that.
friends:
break the ice.try to be friendly,even though if you are unlike them.feel what they want
try to visualize when you interact with them .they talk with you everyday.change your attitude.change the environment that surrounds you.I've face this situation before.being aloof from them will only make things worst.
maybe you can talk to anyone who was most likely to help you.try to tell him/her the difficulties of communication.you cant change what they think.
change
your attitude is prone to your day to day life .try to change it.change from yourself first.change everything about you
smile to yourself in the mirror,with others.try to be easy.(even if bby forcing yourself).change the way you think
smoking:
Don't smoke.Save it up for others things .try to chew chewing gum for quitting it.
church:u can go to talk to the clergy/priest...try to study bible.
have faith in Jesus.God is our tower and shield.Just believe it.
every time you have 1 negative thoughts,replace with 3 positive thoughts.try to use god's strength to support you over this period.if you have faith as a mustard seed.
these are trials for you made by god.try to bear it,god is always by your side.believe him,even thought if he's silent.
repost your problems to several forums and listen to different opinions.
http://www.enotalone.com/
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/
http://www.teenhelp.org/
http://helpnothassle.org/forms/ask/
http://www.google.com.my/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=dbh&q=teens+help&btnG=Search&meta=
affirmations
http://consciouslivingfoundation.org/Email-TheConsciousWord-GiftSub.htm
http://consciouslivingfoundation.org/CD%20-AffirmationsWk.htm
listen to this music
http://www.innertalk.com/mp3.html#free
don't give up(you are loved)-josh groban
if you dont mind,study different religion teachings
print 1-5 pages/copy from books on inspiring quotes,poems,stories that lift you up.Paste it in your notebook/diary.
you can email me
2007-02-13 05:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Iane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry. Just keep in mind that Time REALLY does heal all wounds. It will get better....trust me 10yrs will go by like that and who know you may love your life by then!! keep your head up Sweetie!!!
Oh and "SYNDICATOR" I think you should maybe go to liars anonymous??? Because youre full of ****!!
2007-02-13 04:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Dirty Sanchez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously why not check yourself in to a psyche ward and let them help you out until you feel better and are comfortable with yourself.
whats to lose?
2007-02-13 03:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋