Last night, my boyfriend was saying " Cherie " in his sleep. My name is Amber. Cherie is a friend of his and also a friend of mine. But anywho, The other night we went to drink at her house, and he was doing some things that really bothered me. He kept following her around the house, he was putting his hands on her waist, and just finding reasons to be where ever she was. Then we went to the bar, and he didn't go it was just me and her, and when he came to pick us up she ended up driving her friends car, and he followed, and her and that other girl stoped at a gas station and got out to go in and he just had to get out and open her door and stand there with his hands around her and so on. Do I have a right to be upset about this, it was on Friday and im still upset about it, and I dont know how to bring it up to him. And now he is saying her name in his sleep. Im really hurt by this can someone please tell me if im being to crazy about it.
2007-02-13 03:37:58 · 13 answers · asked by Amber Vance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if he starts with the " You're imagaining it" bit saying that its not what I think it is or whatever then should I just move on?
2007-02-13 03:49:21 · update #1
If he has his hands on her and is obsessing over her, then yeah, be jealous! You're not blowing it out of proportion, he's touching another girl and following her around.. you should definitely bring it up b/c there's something there...
2007-02-13 03:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say go with your gut feeling. Putting the "gut" feeling aside and just going on your words, it sounds as though he may have a feeling or two for her. I don't want to presume but the wanting to be around her, slightly touching and saying her name, leads me to believe that he has a thing for her.
Do not keep your mouth shut! You have been keeping this in for a while now and I am sure it must hurt. You have feelings too? Your feelings should matter and you deserve to know what is going on. I would simply ask him if he likes her or if he has other feelings for her before you mention what you notice about him and her together. Give him an opportunity to speak, then let him know he calls her name at night while sleeping. If he has nothing to hide, he will understand, after all the evidence, of why you are feeling that way and give you an honest answer. Now I won't lie, this may lead to a big fight and of course he will use the excuse or turn the tables and accuse you of being jealous and suspicious. I would say back, of course I am and look at the reasons why? Be strong and think of yourself, for you deserve to be treated with respect.
Good Luck.
2007-02-13 03:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the details you have given here, it sounds like your boyfriend may be trying to makes some moves on Cherie. Whenever someone makes that many physical moves (and personal ones at that) they are definately communicating their want to be physically close. If I were you I would have a chat with my boyfriend, if he is not 100% into you, then let him go. You deserve a man who will be commited to you. Good luck.
2007-02-13 03:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't keep my mouth shut if that was my boyfriend calling out someone else's name in his sleep. What is he doing touching this other girl anyways. That is unacceptable! You need to break up with him as he has a crush on this other girl or maybe stronger feelings. He is not being loyal to you and I think you can see this. Do what your gut feelings are telling you. Move on to someone who cares about you. Life is to short to be used by anyone. Cocoa
2007-02-13 03:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it had just been the dream incident and none of the other things happening then I wouldn't say anything b/c you can't control what you dream. Since all of the other things are happening when he is supposed to be w/ u then I would confront him about it and tell him that u think it is inappropriate. If he really loves you then he should understand where u r coming from.
2007-02-13 03:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him and get to the bottom of it. On the surface it seems as though he has a crush on this girl. By him doing these things is a form of disrespect towards you, like you're invisible. Don't allow this man to treat you like that, you deserve so much more than that.
2007-02-13 03:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have every reason to be crazy about it. U have every reason to be upset. What he is doing is wrong and that thing about him saying her name in hes sleep is just creepy. Girl should seriously NOT keep your mouth shut about something as serious as this and if you keep your mouth shut its just going to end up eating you up inside and keeping something like this to yourself isn't healthy!!
2007-02-13 03:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never keep your mouth shut. In fact, surprise him with your new-found power of ESP and suggest that you, your friend, and him have a 3-some and see how he reacts.
2007-02-13 04:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the sleep mumbling go, but the rest of it is crossing the line. Dump him.
2007-02-13 03:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start calling him Wilbur or Frank or Bryan, and see how HE likes it!
2007-02-13 03:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by SensiblySmart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋