If sex ruins the relationship, that shows that you and that person were meant to be "just friends".
Virginity is overrated. Whether you're a virgin or not doesn't matter. Any man who really loves you won't care if you're a virgin or not. If he does, then that proves all he wants is sex.
I would take it slow when it comes to the sexual part of relationships. Be very sure that you want it to happen. Somebody once told me that it's best to wait until you've been on 13 dates with the person before you have sex. I don't know where they got that number but I swear it's worked for me. When I waited 13 dates, the guys always wanted to keep on seeing me and the relationships always had more potential.
And please BE PREPARED with condoms. Carry some to any situation that you even suspect might become sexual.
It's bad enough having bad memories because you had sex when it turned out to be a bad idea. But bad memories are only temporary. If you don't protect yourself, you could be stuck with a pregnancy or an STD...which could be permanent.
Good luck!
2007-02-13 03:44:39
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answered by catrionn 6
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You should have sex because you both want it, not to just satisfy your boyfriend. Sex does not ruin a relationship. Your thinking about it in a destructive manner. Having sex is not just something you do. It is a physical expression of two peoples love towards each other. When the time is right and the feelings are right, then sex is the closes thing to heaven on earth.
2007-02-13 03:44:40
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answered by surfdawg32 1
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The relationship changes by itself. I guarantee that if you're a college girl with a college guy and you don't give it up at some point, the relationship is going to change drastically, as in ceasing to exist.
If you want to be friends (and let's face it, that's all you are right now) then you need to be honest about it right now. Tell him you are just good friends and if he wants sex, he'll have to get it elsewhere. Just don't be surprised when he does.
2007-02-13 03:44:58
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answered by ? 3
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If you don't want to have sex, then don't! But if you're in a "relationship" with someone who does, you have a serious problem that needs to be dealt with quickly...between you and your boyfriend...NOT your roommate. If it's a deal breaker for him, then let him go. Having sex is purely physical with most guys. It can change the dynamic of the relationship for both of you if you're just doing it to please him. That's not how your life should work. I suggest you find someone who feels and values the same things you do.
2007-02-13 03:37:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Let's face it. Humans are sexual creatures. Sex is an important part of any serious relationship. The change sex brings is meant to bring an increased level of trust and intimacy. It only complicates things when your ideals on sexuality are not compatible with those of your partner.
You need to talk to him about your mutual sexuality. Sex complicates things usually because of one or both of these points:
Your needs and his must be on an even keel. If one partner has a healthy sex drive, while the other is content with an occasional romp "when they feel like it", sex will definitely complicate things. My wife and I solved this with a bit of give and take. As we have kids, sex is usually limited to the bedroom before bed at night. We don't refuse each other, unless one of us is too tired and/or too sick to provide basic relief. As this is rarely the case we both get what sex we need.
The other is ones amount of open mindedness to the activities. the things you like and are willing to do for each other need to be on a level playing field. If one of you is very foreplay orentated, while the other just wants to do "the act", things will get old fast. When my wife and I were first together, I was very experienced, while she having had duds before me, wasn't very experienced. We took the time to talk about this and she agreed to try new things, as long as I was willing to wait for her to try it and not make her feel pressured. I agreed and over time we developed a very healthy and diverse sexual relationship that I am quite happy with.
MORAL OF THE STORY:
Sex only complicates things due to a failure to communicate before hand.
2007-02-13 04:10:47
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answered by Captain Jack ® 7
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sex is not a word
or a thing we do bec we r animals
it is called MAKING LOVE
it is should increase the realtionship and make it more stronger
because the realtionship is something that is steps or levels
and the sex is step number 3 but most of the people make it step number 1 and this is wrong from my point of view so
so i guess that sex is not something that change the relationship between two couples realy love each other
i hope u find happienes :) and remember face ur life with a big smile
2007-02-13 03:45:11
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answered by Dr.Tee 3
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No offence, but I don't think any guy would hold off on sex for the rest of their lives. I don't think any females would either. It will have to happen at some point in time. Just take it slow, and let him know your feelings. If you want to wait til marriage, just make sure he knows this so their is no confusion.
2007-02-13 03:58:04
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answered by Anonymous
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I think sex makes you closer. Why do you believe it makes things confusing?
It is the next step in the relationship in my eyes.. But you should only do what you feel is right.. thats all that matters.. Talk to your b/f about it!
2007-02-13 03:38:17
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answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4
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nicely my boyfriend and that i grew to grow to be plenty nearer with one yet another. once you save doing it yo ought to grow to be emotionally nearer even as having sex. meaning you fall in love with one yet another nicely ought to fall inlove. notwithstanding it can make your relationship a lot more constructive. also in case you 2 are not residing at the same time which incorporates my boyfriend and that i it can make you opt for to understand his each and every pass and her each and every pass and what they're doing each and every minute for the straightforward undeniable reality that you both are emotionally bodily and mentally connected to at least one yet another and that would nicely be a nasty element and an excellent element. solid success
2016-11-27 20:15:38
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answered by Anonymous
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If you want to wait, then wait. I would recommend waiting anyway since you've only been with the guy for a month... you can't know him well enough to have sex anyway... but I agree with your friend only if you've been with the guy long enough to know you love him... in that case, sex would take it beyond perfect... for me, anyway...
2007-02-13 03:39:51
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answered by F.J. 6
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