Should I Listen Or Go My Own Way?

Question

I was planning to ask a guy that works in a shop i visit very often to coffee yesterday, however, a few minutes before i was about to do that i met an acquaintance with a group of friends and without seeming mean, they aren't the kind of people that you can call entirely intelligent. This boy in the group told me that he knew this guy i was going to ask out because he used to be friends with his brother, so he started revealing all these bad outrageous things about him such as: he's a sarcastic, sexist person, has only ever had two girlfriends, is 24-25, lost his virginity at 23 and is proud to have watched every single type of porn that ever existed. This information obviously put me off and i left it at that. However, im not someone who likes to judge people by what others say until i suss them out myself. This guy seems really sweet and nice so, what would you do? Would you leave the idea of this guy behind or would you talk ask him to coffee anyway? any advice appreciated...:-)

Answer 1

I wouldn't have married my wife If I took every advice I heard literally.

I had been single for a very long tiem before I was married, and enjoyed dating as many women as I could. Most of the time it was just a date, and didn't leade to sex. Yet, I still enjoyed the company. My enjoyment came from learning who my date is, which should be the foundation of why people date.

That in mind, I never listen to anyone's opinion concerning the women I've dated. It's for me to find out on my own, and you should do the same. If you're still confused, then ask yourself if you are intending to date the guy or the person telling rumors about him.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Man don't listen to this hater...check the dude out for yourself...If there's something soooo wrong like this kid claims, you'll be able to find out.