My husband abandoned me and the kids but the judge has ordered that he have them half of the time. I want to see my kids daily. I am thinking of running away with them but them I will get caught and end up in jail and he will have them all of the time. I can't kill him because then a stanger will end up with my kids. This has been going on a year and I can't continue to be this sad. I go to counseling and I take meds but that is not really helping. Life just sucks. Why continue?
2007-02-13 03:30:50 · 10 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
think about your kids.
i am 17 years old, and currently my mom is in the psych ward for wanting to kill herself.
i feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest.
me and my brother have been trying to figure out what the hell we did wrong to make my mom want to take such desperate measures to get away from us. i feel like a failure as a daughter. i feel like i should have tried harder.
i have been thinking alot about the future. my graduation, my wedding, my kids. i keep thinking about what it would be like to constantly have an empty spot where my mom was supposed to be. i keep thinking about how i would explain to my children about why they don't have a grandma. would i tell them that their mommy couldn't keep her alive?
i know that if this is something that you really want to do, then i can't stop you.
but all i ask of you right now is to think about your kids.
i can guarantee that even if you wrote them a note saying that it wasn't their fault, they would spend the rest of their lives thinking that it was.
and they would be like i am right now, desperatly trying to figure out why mommy gave up on them, and life.
just think about your kids......
2007-02-13 03:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by lifeistough_period 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to say how sorry I am that you and your husband are no longer together as husband and wife.
I did notice that you still called him husband.
It may sound like you haven't let go and this is hurting you soo much that you think that only death can heal your aching heart.
Unfortunately if you drop a bottle it breaks. That's just how it goes. So whether you are on meds, seeing counselling, the realitiy is, is that your relationship has now been broken.
I can tell you are really pained and possibly feel rejected and worthless because of the break up. But if you could see yourself in 3 years, what would you be doing? What would the kids be doing? Take the time to heal, cry all the cry you can and after you bleed the pain out. Move on.
It's just the way things go. How long it takes is all up to you. Your life is in your hands.
Imagine every one coming to your funeral and shaking their heads.
2007-02-13 04:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek some professional help immediately. Maybe you need to try a new doctor or you and your current doctor need to try new meds. Something here isn't working properly. Don't do anything drastic without talking to someone first, and please don't take the advice of some of the idiots that you will surely get on here. You need to try to make an effort to try to feel better, for the sake of your children. I realize that right now you feel physical pain, your emotions are all out of whack, and you feel usless and worthless and things like that, but you truly aren't. That's why you are feeling like life sucks. But you have wonderful children, and that is enough of a reason to keep going with your life. You definitely don't want to try to run away with them, because you are correct in your assumption that then you will go to jail and won't be able to see them as much, and you don't want that for yourself or for them. A doctor can really provide you more help than any of us on here right now. Please seek some help from a professional. Also, after seeing a doctor that may prescribe you some better or different medication, that doctor may also recommend that you have some different types of counselling, so that you don't sprial down to this point again. I wish you the best of luck, and again, please don't do anything drastic or listen to the idiot responses that you are sure to get on here from stupid people that shouldn't be giving anyone advice. Good luck to you.
2007-02-13 04:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldnt you kill yourself????Why dont you quit thinking of you and look at this question the right way.....Why shouldnt I kill myself//,,because I have got the most beautiful children that depend on me and love me Give the meds and the counsling time to work. You know, you should be happy you get your children at all. Some people dont get that. Like me. I would love to see my kids for an hour. Your bitching because you only get them half time. Some people can be so ungrateful. I miss my two boys so much. When I think of them my heart actually hurts. Lady, thank God you see yours and be the best mom you can be.
2007-02-13 08:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Leneki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pay attention, your toddler isn't even attentive to something at this factor. it can not be scared and could have not any concept or wisdom of even latest. sure you're too youthful to have a baby, quite in case you may no longer strengthen or preserve it, yet killing your self does no longer something. considering you think in god and heaven why no longer in basic terms wait and stay your existence till you die of organic motives? you would be with that is going to truly regardless. truthfully apparently such as you're truly no longer thinking of course and prefer some help. refer to somebody ASAP.
2016-09-29 01:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids need you. Suicide would destroy your kids. Suicide is a permenent solution to tempory problems. It will get better I promise.
Nothing good will come out of killing your self. Going through the pain of a mother who commited suicide is an extremely heavy burden to carry. Speaking from experience, love your kids and tell them that every day.
2007-02-13 04:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by surfdawg32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your kids' sake. So he doesn't get them, and strangers don't get them. I know how it feels to want to die, but be strong. See your doctor again if the meds aren't working. This sounds very serious. You must see your doctor and counsellor and tell them you are feeling this way.
2007-02-13 03:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by blooog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a day feed your mind with some positive "mind food." An article about something neutrally nice (neither about custody nor about death). Make it a tangible article so you can step away from the computer.
2007-02-15 13:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you kill yourself then you wont be able to see your kids ever again. So would it not be best to just get on with life as it is just now ?
2007-02-13 05:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Madness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want youer kids to live with youer husband.And you don't want youer kids to end up with a stranger.Well if you kill youer self wher do you think thay will end up with?Why don't you live for you kids? you love them.If you kill youer self think of what they will have to go though think of the pain they will have for the rest of there lives...
2007-02-13 04:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋