2007-02-13 03:27:39 · 9 answers · asked by SMK13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's lots of ways to overcome shyness, the most effective being this:
Decide not to be shy. Believing you're shy makes you more shy, believing something else will make you that something else. By deciding I mean, if you feel that it is something important enough to change about yourself, you have to decide to change from the bottom of your heart. It will probably be hard at first getting use to it but the more and more you do it, the more comfortable you'll feel until you don't even remember why it was that you were shy before.
If you're talking about shyness in relation to girls then it's the same thing. The more you talk to them, the less uncomfortable it'll be until it becomes a habit.
Also check out this entry, I personally know a lot of men who've been involved in this stuff from books to seminars, not that I'm saying you should --- just saying it makes for an interesting read:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community
2007-02-13 03:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are well groomed, strongly built and like to dance, so you already have some good things going for you. Go to a dance club or something so you can connect with girls doing what you like. And you have to accept dating requires calculated risks if you want to be successful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You will get rejected at least a few times, but if you find out what type of girl is into you, then you'll have better success.
2007-02-13 11:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into something you love to do. If you cross someone that may like you, or that you are interested in, be yourself and talk about what you know.
Don't try to be He-man or Shaft. Woman want a man they can relate with. If you let them know who you are from square1, then they will respect you right off the back.
2007-02-13 11:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by se-ke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a mind thing. if you go to a party, and in in comfy clothes and know you look good it's the confidence u exude out there that ppl grab on to. if you put yourself out there...start jokes, or start dancing, ppl will gravitate towards you. you need to get up in the am, and be like i'm going to be confident in myself today...and see the response you get. hold your head up high, be proud and smile at everyone you see. make eye contact....and compliement ppl....on their clothes, or something about them that u find attractive....ppl love that...and conversations can start that way.
2007-02-13 11:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is some type of talent show or kareoke around try it! best way to overcome shyness
2007-02-13 11:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by TwnT 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the bar and dance if you like to do that and a girl may come to you and dance and just start from there!
2007-02-13 11:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with a small group of friends to start to meet new people
2007-02-13 11:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get you some guy friends that aren't shy and are very outgoing.. I used to be very shy until i met my best friend..
2007-02-13 11:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by kmichelle89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self confidence is the key.
2007-02-13 11:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋