No spanking?

Question

I see these bad little kids hitting, punching, kicking there mothers, even cursing and breaking things. I just want to go over there pull there pants down and give them a good stern spanking. i have a feeling one time would do. then just the threat would be enough. Works with my kids, i just look at them and they know to stop. Havent spanked them in years. WHy dont these mothers whoop there kids?

Answer 1

Great Question. I too, sometimes wish i could take over the parenting of a few children for a week or so. I am positive I can get them straightened out. People in today's day and age don't know how to discipline, and seem to rarely enforce consequences. This is not a issue in my home. My girls haven't hit me since going through the terrible 2's. I know what your saying, if any of our daughters hit us, at their current age, it would be pants down over the lap, and a good red tush. I wish loving parents would use spanking (old fashioned spanking) more.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Too many people think spanking is abuse and they may report the parents. I have three children and have tried many forms of discipline. Some work and others don't. Some children respond to time outs, talking, etc. Others do not. I know parents who have spanked their kids one or two times and have never had to do it again because the kids know their parents are serious. I also know children that have been spanked and they never learn the lesson. In these cases spanking should be stopped because it isn't effective. Of course spanking shouldn't be the first choice of discipline. However, when all else fails, it just might work. I'm so tired of seeing out of control kids whose parents won't discipline them. Allowing that behavior to continue is actually more destructive than a spanking. It's too bad that people think all spanking is abuse. A firm swat on the butt (with pants on) followed up with talking is totally different than out of control abuse.

Answer 3

Some people think that spanking means that you're abusive and to tell you the truth it doesn't. I got spanked and I am a really good person now it doesn't mean they're beating you it's just a little hit on the butt that only stings a little. I mean gosh people take things to far over the edge it's just another way to show that the child is not the boss and that they can't hit,and scream when they want their own way. If anyone has a problem with it don't jump down people's throats who do it.

Answer 4

Yes, child behavioral problems have risen to ridiculous levels; due in part to the fact that many parents have no confidence in ther disciplinary methods, whether that be corporeal or motivational.

We spanked in our home, and called the spankings "pops". My children grew up loved and loving people. All we had to do is respond quickly and appropriately (and consistently) and like you, later, just the mention of "pops" was enough to alter behavior. I never really enjoyed spanking my kids, but when I did spank them, I didn't do it out of a well of suppressed rage because they were never allowed to push me that far. That's a nice feeling.

It doesn't require pulling down the pants for a "pop". The less of that sort of imagery the better when it comes to an acceptance of the benefit of spanking as a deterrent.

Answer 5

It's called discipline. You teach your children. Set examples for them. My sisters and I were more verbally reprimanded than a spanking. And the spanking we got if we sassed our mom. It was just a hand real quick on the clothed butt. Plus, parents are not perfect. And, depedning on how many children one has, and how close together/far apart they are in age can be a factor as well. Not excusing the behavior, just understanding it more. If the mother is in the store with her child that is behaving as you have seen, they can simply remove themselves and their child from the store for a few moments, or come back after they have fed their child, let them nap, etc.

Answer 6

I'm my parents oldest and was spanked growing up, I went to schools where corporial punishment was ok my younger sister was the same. the middle was not punished often due to health concerns and my other two younger sisters were never to my knowledge were spanked. My self I have never lashed out violently, never did drugs, i would never dream of disrespectiong my parents (when I spoke disrespectfully to my mother once I got my glasses slapped off my face and I was 21 at the time) I still call those I feel are my elders by last name as proper. I would never dream calling my parents by their first name. The next sister is the same way. The last two who were very rarely punished got good grades, but are very disrespectful to my parents and elders one ran away to meet a guy she met on the internet. Smokes does drug drinks is unrulely. Just totally out of controle.
I have three children. I tried time outs, threats, treats, privaleges, groundings, sentences, positive renforcement, washing mouth out with soap. spoke with the pastor from our church, childrens teachers, and the like. But I'll be honest and say that there is a few occations I have given my childeren a swat on the butt. Nothing that I would feel was abuse. I don't agree with those parents who use belts, spoons, paddles, switches, electrical cords, or whatever other objects they can find to me thats abbuse. in this day and age I'm afraid to even reprmand my children without someone giving their input. I've even been spoken to by another parent about how I raised my voice to a screaming son.

Answer 7

There other ways to discipline your children then spanking them, i definitely don't believe that someone should make their child afraid of them, when they have done something wrong such as a look. the kids that hit, punch, curse, etc have absolutely no structure in their lives, their parents are probably not very consistent with discipline, if there is any.

Answer 8

I don't think there are many good reasons to hit a vulnerable human being. My sister spanks her children and they have resorted to violent behavior in return. If you want your children to be terrified of you rather than loving and respectful I really don't consider this effective discipline. It's just a reign of terror over someone much smaller and more helpless than you. I was spanked as a child and the only thing I ever felt was fear and humiliation. I was also more hurt emotionally than physically. I didn't understand why my mother wanted to hit me. I do understand that it can be difficult when you watch other parents struggling with their kids but the kids are struggling too. I don't think it's a picnic for anybody. I just don't feel that terrorizing children is good discipline.

Answer 9

Because you are there. No one wants CPS to be called on them for spanking their child. Most parents don't have control of their children, so a look won't help. People have different ideas on how to raise their children. You just have to let them.

Answer 10

my little brother was spanked for a year or so and it didn't do him any good.. the only think it did was scare him into listening, that's not good parenting to make a kid so scared of you that they'll listen... Time outs, getting on a childs level and talking to them is probably the best discipline..From personal experience, my dad spanked me all the time, yelled and all that and it didn't make me respect his rules. Now that I can think beyond being scared of him, I really disrespect him. I feel wronged because I didn't get the guidance I needed from him, thank God I spent most of my time at my best friends house learning how to be a decent human being....