MOMMIES: do you watch "The Nanny"?

Question

do you think that her ways are useful and work? im thinking about using the naughty chair with my naughty 3 yr old.

Answer 1

Yes! She's on the View right now, and agree with a lot of her tactics.

Answer 2

I don't like calling a spot "The naughty corner." I feel it's just as bad as calling a child "a brat." It is a very shaming and condescending punishment. It is a timeout. It will only cause resentment and anger on the child’s part. Using time outs are a way for you to control your child but not a way for them to learn self-control. In order to learn self-control, children need to be disciplined. Instead of putting the child in time out, it is best to get down to the child’s level, look them in the eyes and explain why you don't like their behavior. You can then take them gently to another location (their room, the couch, a chair) and say, "You can come back when you're ready to (stop, listen, calm down…)." When they return, thank them for behaving. It may take several attempts for the child to get the message but it's much more affective than time out. This technique puts the control into the child's hands and is not the parent controlling the child because a time limit is not set. The nanny also uses stickers and “reward jars" to discipline as well. These rewards will then lose the child's interest. I've tried using them in my classroom. The children are very excited for a short time but then they become “reward junkies” and will only comply to get something. The best way to discipline and what makes most sense to a child is to use natural and logical consequence. Taking away a toy or privilege when a child misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if a child throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If a child spills their milk, they wipe it up. If a child breaks a toy, they put it in the trash. If they are screaming, they are put in an area where they can scream. If they hit, people don’t want to play with them. Let the “punishment” fit the crime committed. One last thing, I don't think children should be forced to say "sorry." It's meaningless when it doesn't come from the heart. Forcing a child to say sorry is also teaching them to lie. Here is a great article about the Supernanny and nanny’s techniques. http://www.alfiekohn.org/parenting/supernanny.htm

Answer 3

I don't watch the show on a regular basis, but I have seen a few episodes. We used a time-out chair, just as she uses a naughty chair, and it was very effective for us. The most important thing is to talk to the child to make sure he understands that his behavior is unacceptable. Consistency is a must. A 3 year old will get out of the naughty chair and immediatley go do the exact thing that got him there in the first place, to test you. You must use the naughty chair EVERY time you catch the child in the offending behavior.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Most definately, with my children as well. I think I have well behaved children. They are not perfect and misbehave at times but we watch the show together and when usually my 3 year old doesn't listen or clean up a mess she's made. I will implement the techinques used by the nanny but also the same techniques I learned in school about early childhood education.

Some of these techniques are seriously common sense. You are the adult and they are the child, is it that hard to establish as parents? These days parents focus too much on being friends with the child instead of actually parenting them. It is very possible to do both and personally I think it is easier to give the discipline and earn the respect from your child.

My suggestion to you is not to think about using the naughty chair but actually doing it and be consistent about it. It will work and your life will be less stressfull.

Answer 5

I have watched the Nanny...although I'm not sure I've ever seen the "naughty chair."

I do think she has good advice and a lot of common sense approches.

When my kids were little we used sitting on a chair as punishent, which equates to time out I guess. I assume the naughty chair is along the same lines.

Good luck

Answer 6

My wife and I like to play "The Nanny and the Naughty Chair" Really really works.

Answer 7

I am a mother of two and in-home daycare provider and I must say the techniques I use are very similar to Super Nanny's. I use a naughty step on our stair case. I give a warning and then off to the step they go. It's very effective if used correctly and consistently. I use it on ages 1 through 5 and it works well across the board. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

I like the Nanny... I believe she has great ideas that work. But I would never tell my child she is naughty... just that what she did was naughty.

Answer 9

Her ideas are useful and do work, but if you watch several different shows, you'll see how she tailors her approach to the individual families.

Basically, don't do it exactly the same for your family if your family is different than the one on TV. By the time out / corner / naughty chair does work.

Answer 10

It was an amazing movie about Joan Crawford, the Hollywood actress. It was based on a book by her adopted daughter, Christina. There was a lot of controversy that came out about whether it was really true or not, because two of Crawford's other adopted children (who were not depicted in the movie) came forward and claimed that much of it was not. But one has to wonder if they may have been doing that to protect their inheritance, as they were the only two children to receive anything from Joan Crawford's estate.

Answer 11

I think their techniques are useful but time cosuming to see actual results. I was watching SuperNanny yesterday and it took the mom 2 1/2 hours to finally get her little girl to sit on the naughty mat...so be prepared and make sure you have a lot of time on your hands.......good luck!