Do children have too much ?

Question

I`e taken my children out for the day pictures and the mcdonalds as a treat and then they show not gratitude and be naughty
Are most children like this or just mine

Answer 1

Maybe they're just over-excited! Depending on their age they may not realise that you're expecting them to show gratitude.

Answer 2

Sometimes depending on the age, yes it is most children and they don't get the concept of gratitude. But that is why we are parents, to teach. There are those that over indulge their children to the point where these types of things are common place and expected. When that happens, they don't show gratitude because it is a common thing not something special.

My children are 15 & 13 now but when they were much younger their Dad used to take them in a small shop all the time and always get them candy. When he didn't they would complain and when he did, he would complain that they didn't appreciate it. I figured why should they. He had done it for so many years that it was the norm not an exception. My 13 yr old still knows which of Dad's buttons to push but Dad has learned as a single parent a few lessons. They both know with me that bad attitudes and misbehavior doesn't get them anything or anywhere.

It takes time and patience. They try to push you as far as they can and it is hard sometimes but in the end it is worth it.

Answer 3

You have taken them to places where they need to behave and if they don't they have the upper hand (at least while they are there). All parents hate their children misbehaving in public. Choose treats where you are less vulnerable. Stop taking them to the pictures and if they ask why just say 'I don't want to'. Remember you have control not them. Later try telling them the truth, 'because you behave badly'. Keep that as a matter of fact. DON'T use it as a threat (in case it goes wrong and you are seen to fail again). Set up situation where if they win - you win not situations where only one of you wins.

Whatever you do don't get into a situation where they enjoy you failing.

Answer 4

It's up to you as a parent to teach your children appreciation. Try telling them a week in advance that if they are good then they can go to the pictures and Mcdonalds. Let them be good for a week and then reward them. Make sure you stick to your decision.

Answer 5

Some are like this, some aren't, but when I was little I was grateful to go to the cinemas as it was a once in a blue moon thing, unlike now as I go whenever I want.

I guess it depends on how often you take them to the cinema and/or McDonald's.

Your kids should be expected to show some appreciation, in my opinion.

Answer 6

I think kids do have to much but on the other hand they dont have the freedom that we all had as kids, so my son has a bedroom full of entertainment. It scares the life out of me to let him play on the streets where i live. He would come back battle scared if at all. Am dreading the point when he is a teenager and wants to roam the streets with his mates (not far off that either - aarrgghhh).

Answer 7

Its so sad they get every thing they want so its turning them into selfish teenagers and adults
they get things all the year around so there`s nothing to look forward to anymore
I really think they are missing out on the pleasure we used to have when we were children
Mind at the end of the day its the parents fault for giving them everything

Answer 8

I think nowadays most children 'expect' these kind of treats and treat it as nothing very special.
I remember as a child thinking that going to the cinema was the ultimate treat as we seldom went.Then it was considered a luxury.

Answer 9

Well most of the children I know can be like that at certain times... but I do notice that kids tend to act up after eating sugar or certain foods.

Have you ever watched "Super Size Me"? I don't take my kids to MacDonald's or Burger King because their food is poison to our health!

AVOID Fast food outlets if you can!!

Food does affect our children's behaviour. I keep their junk to a minimum and no fizzy drinks at all. I encourage my kids to eat plenty fruit and veg as well as drink plenty water (or watered down diluted juice).

Answer 10

personally id have been impressed at my mum 4 just taking me to McD's!! she hated the place..well...still does i think. anyway, that woulda bin abt 10 yrs ago dat i'd hav had a chance of dat happening! i think mayb its just how kids r now. they must hear from school peers how their parents are taking them out allllllllllll the time n then ur kids will expect u 2 b doing the same. i duno really, just some kid thingy i guess.