Ok I am 20 years old and Im living with my parents due to the fact that I am going through a divorce and they invited me to live with them when I told them I was leaving my husband. They had expectations when I moved in like dont go out and have sex/ repeat the same mistake I did with my ex and to get my license and GED. Im working on my driving classes and I got my GED I met a really great guy and we are not having sex. Although now my father is upset with because I come in late. I let them know where I am at so I dont see the problem. I understand they have rules for their house like me helping me clean and not leaving them worried all night. I understand I have issues with the custody of my child and thats another story I wont go into. Its a social injustices to put it bluntly though. Any how I just feel that Im 20 years old and if I stay out late and spend the night thats my deceision Im not going out and doing drugs and having sex wether or not thats hard for other people......
2007-02-13 02:40:00 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To believe after Im spending the night with a guy Im not but my point is am I wrong to feel that Im 20 years old and they need to relax a little. Its liie I want to stay out late and they have an issue if its a guy my mom has already said she wants me to have girl freinds instead of guy freinds. Am the only one who thinks they are being slightly aver bearing. I mean I think im the only 20 year old with a curfew and strict christian parents. Anyway be honest please.
2007-02-13 02:42:36 · update #1
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2007-02-13 02:43:20 · update #2
Ok first off, i know that you want your freedom, i mean you have moved back home it must be tough for you, however you are 20 you are going through a divorce and you have a child, don't you ever think sometimes you are a little young to have experienced all of this already?? in my opinon and i do not mean to offend you, look at it from your parents position, they obviously have a bright young daughter who they must feel can do better for herself, they want you to have girl friends because they want you to experience life, they dont want you to make the mistakes you already have, they are trying to protect you and yes it will be annoying i moved back home at 19 after living with someone and went through the same problems with my parents. i suggest if you can't stand it move out, but to be quite honest sit down and talk to them, explain how you are feeling, but remember you are only 20 and thats how they will see it, you should be out enjoying life going out with girl friends and relaxing, they are not being mean they just have your best interests at heart, they are keeping close tabs on you because they have already picked up the pieces before they probably don't want to do it again, give it time and understand things differently, you would probably feel exactly the same if your chid was going through what you are, keep your chin up and good luck i hope it gets sorted
2007-02-13 03:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by gmc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems that you are not wrong. If i was in your position i would set down and tell my parents how i feel. That it was very nice of your parents to let you come back into their home. It's just that you still have your life and you want to keep on dealing with the obsicals. They have the right. But if you know you are going to be out late let them know. If they know they will try and understand your reason and they won't worry about so much. Just to know how their girl is and to make sure they are safe.
2007-02-13 03:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like this answer, but I feel it is honest. If your parents invite you in to thier home it is with the hopes of improving your future not to make it easier for you to do what you want now. I say that if your old enough to straighten your life without them what are you doing there now? I say stay in and try to respect the help your parents are trying to give you otherwise MOVE OUT !!
2007-02-13 02:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their house, their rules. If you want to live by your own rules, then get your own place. If you had listened to your parents in the first place you would be a lot better off right now. Obviously you are VARY immature... on so many levels.
Grow up. Show some gratitude, accept their advise because they know a hell of a lot more than you do.
2007-02-13 02:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your still going through your divorce, I think that you should hold off on dating other people until the divorce is final. Stay out until 11:30-12:00AM. Also if you have your child staying with you, then it's not right for you to be out late.
2007-02-13 03:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong for you to feel that way, but they are your parents. You should just save up your money and move out. I went through a similar episode with my parents. They just didn't understand that I had been living on my own for 3 years and I like being able to come and go as I pleased. Thank heavens my dad helped me get my own place, now they don't have to worry about where I am or what I doing. I live on my own and not under their roof.
2007-02-13 02:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're wrong for feeling that way. You're an adult, and adults want to feel independant of their parents. Unfortunately for you, you're in a stage of life right now where your parents are worried about you. With a divorce, and a child custody battle, they want to protect their child, you. To your parents, you'll always be their little girl that needs to be cared for. Just accept it for what it is: your parents love you, and want what's best for you.
2007-02-13 02:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by joel k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for you to feel that way, but they're your parents and they have a right to do that because of your situation. I'm not trying to put you down or anything, they're just trying to keep you safe and help you make good decisions...they probably don't see that you really DON'T and WON'T want to make the same decision again........i have parents like that too...but i'm a litttle younger....it still gets on my nerves though...anyway..good luck!
2007-02-13 07:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STRICT Christian parents would not be so accepting of sex outside of marriage or even of divorce. You're 20 yrs old with no license and no diploma? Seek guidance outside of your parents. It sounds like they missed a few points somewhere.
2007-02-13 02:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Schmoe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did he kiss you. Did he select up a sign that made him suppose you had been interested. And to name him a jerk and forget about him and deal with him terrible considering the fact that he used to be a foul kisser and also you did not desire him to kiss you. Give me a holiday. One day karma will chew you within the ***. And sure you're flawed, method flawed.
2016-09-05 07:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋